How can I be happy from being bored or resentful?

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone,

I’ve been lost, unmotivated, sad, angry, resentful, and bitter. I don’t do anything in my day to day life. I don’t work at the moment, i start a remote job in a few weeks so that will change. I stay at home all the time besides going to the gym with my sister for an hour and a half that we are there. I don’t have any friends or hobbies to do so i’m just sad that i am home all the time. My boyfriend and I don’t really hang out either. He is so busy with work and after work he goes straight to hang out with his friends and will call me, if he wants, to hangout with me and we only go to his house and that’s it. We don’t go out on dates nor do we go on adventures or on vacation. It’s so boring i’m tired of it. We also barely talk. I’ve asked him many times why we don’t talk much, go out on dates or hang out and he says it’s because you complain about the stupid stuff i did in the past with social media, you make me feel like i’m shitty boyfriend and you try to control me and you’ve become masculine. I don’t want that as a girlfriend he says. I try my hardest to let go of the anger, bitterness or resentment I have but I don't know, it doesn’t go away. Two years ago was so different for me, I had work, I had friends and we were happy. Now it feels like it’s going down the drain. I feel like I can’t let go of what I feel because I am bored and I can’t control the situation anymore. I don't know, I could be wrong. I don't know if the way I am feeling is because I am bored and have nothing else to do but argue or if we are falling out of love. I’m not like that with only him, i’m like that even with my family, in a way that i’m just annoyed with everything they do too. I don’t like the way my life is. When we do talk on the phone, it’s short. it’s basically like 2 mins conversation and I ask him why and we don’t talk much and he says “i know you’ll complain about something or ask me questions about our relationship” I don't know what to do?

[jahaims]

You have shit relationships and do nothing all day. Obviously your going to hate life. How do you fix it? Do the opposite. Have a loving relationship with healthy boundaries, make friends and get hobbies.

[Anonymous]

Being bored is not a problem, but being sad, angry, resentful, and bitter are the worst feelings you can have. You need to heal emotionally, and get rid of these negative emotions.

[Asker]

:( how do i heal from that?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe with meditation, or yoga.

[Asker]

i’ll try that. i hate feeling this way, not only towards him but in life on general. I want to change

[Opinion Owner]

I agree, those feelings are totally depressing.
Good luck, I hope you'll make it.

[Asker]

i really hope it’s my feelings that are the problem and it’s not that we are falling out of love

[Opinion Owner]

I hope it will turn out fine for you.
Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

Hey, love 💕 It sounds like you're caught in a storm of emotions, and your relationship's dynamic has hit a rough patch. Remember, we're powered by self-love and connection! Here's a spicy mix of advice: for yourself, try falling in love with a new hobby or activity to energize your spirit and add some excitement to your day. 🏄‍♀️ As for your relationship, communication is key, but it shouldn't feel like walking on eggshells. Gently share your feelings with your boyfriend without finger-pointing, and channel curiosity instead of control in your conversations. Recognize your past habits, and slowly let go. You can find happiness, ignite old sparks, and bring the adventure back! Let's kick boredom out the door 😎

[Rockey_the_bicker]

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