My sister's boyfriend cheated on her and I punctured his tire (keyed his car too), fair?

[Anonymous]

With my cousin's help, I punctured his tire and keyed his car. He cheated on my sister and she obviously dumped him but has been sad since.

I gave him a flat tire and he couldn't even make it to work, lol. Is that fair after what he put her through? He doesn't know it though.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

All you need to do is ask yourself "would it be OK if a man did it to me"

You would be terrified, police involed, stalking aligations, criminal damage etc etc..

But when girls do it to guys... "yeah sis, girl power, you show him"

Bullshit. It's only because you know he can't do anything about it and shouldn't/won't. So your abusing your privileges like a child.

Why do think it's rare for blokes to do that sort of thing to each other... Violance is always an option.

Show a bit of respect.

[Asker]

I know you're referring to the double standard but there is a reason behind it. It has to do with the strength differences in the genders (males can do more physical damage) and an obvious higher levels of testosterone, making the male gender more prone to becoming more aggressive. A man doing that is less likely to stop at it and can escalate further meanwhile I have no intention of doing further. My anger towards him is more like 'How dare you treat my sister like garbage, I'll teach him a lesson'' but a man doing that would sound more like ''Well this is just the beginning, you'll pay for it dearly'' and he won't stop.
Try imagining Mike Tyson throwing a major tantrum and punching a wall. It would obviously be scary vs me (just 5'3) doing that same and you would feel annoyed but not fear.

[Asker]

If another girl my size did that to my car, I would be annoyed and upset but if a man a lot bigger and stronger than me did that, yeah it would be scary. I would think he wants to harm me or my family next.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

The reason isn't valid.

Everything you said is subjective and sexist.

Men come in many shapes, sizes and temperaments.

It simply becomes "unacceptable" to you when it suits your subjective opinion. That can change from moment to moment.

Don't be violent to another human without 1-knowing you are making them a victim, even if you think you are weaker, therefore can't hurt/intimidate them, 2. expect it back in kind.

If you punch a big man as woman, and he just lays you out cold, who is in the wrong? The answer is both.

The covert narcissist will prod you 1000 times, then when you snap, fame victimhood. These are the worst people.

This is why I would implor any man to stay away from people like you, or people who are self declared "victims."

Evil exists, your part of it... Do better.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Your forgeting that even though you would think I would just be "annoyed"... that I would feel extremely uncomfortable, because even though your violence is less deadly, as a man, it is socially unacceptable and practically legaly unacceptable for me to do anything about it, and the moment I take any kind of counter measure to defend myself or restrain you or de escalate the situation, I am then immediately the perpitrator by default... You have no idea how emotionaly and mentaly hurtful that is to be in that situation, because you have control over me, even though your weaker. Because your a woman.

If it were Mike tyson, I would be terrified but at least I could fight him or assert myself to reason with him without risking being the one in the wrong.

This is why you need to show respect to men in these situations, you think what you are doing is acceptable because it has no sever physical impact, but it's simply not acceptable.

[Asker]

Yes men come in all different sizes and shapes but the most aren't the exception to the rule. Most overweight us and most are bigger and larger than us. Ok forget about men. If a huge woman that's 5'10 for instance and weights 150 Ibs or more did that, I would be scared of her too.

[Asker]

No sexist on that case.

[Asker]

I would be scared of Ronda Rousey,.. if it was her that did that too.

[OlderAndWiser]

What he did is wrong but it is not a crime. What you did is a crime. You are liable to be arrested for what you have done.

[Anonymous]

Of all the ways you could’ve gotten revenge, you went the route that could get you in legal trouble. On top of that she may not even be done with him so you’re out there doing that dumb sh* for no good reason at all. Over a relationship and man that ain’t yours. You look foolish.

[Vesuvius87]

Well that makes you no better than him.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, my aim is to help folks steer through life's messy love adventures with a sprinkle of wisdom and humor. But, darling, taking the path of revenge can get messier than a toddler with a paintbrush! 🚗🔪 While his actions were a major red flag, it's usually best to keep things legal to avoid your own storm. Let's be there to support your sister through her heartbreak and help her find someone who treats her like the queen she is! 💕

[DryGermanGuy]

You are on the same asshole level.

[Asker]

I didn't like what he did to my sister. He hurt her feelings.