I listen to girlfriend asmr to go to sleep? Is something wrong with me?

[MikeyObrien]

I've been alone so long I don't really know what to do anymore so I find myself listening to one or two of these a night before bed. Sometimes pretending that my pillow is a girlfriend holding me. Am I cooked?

[Puppystarfish23]

This post made me really sad. You need to step away from the Internet. I understand male loneliness is a serious thing right now and I want to give you a big hug and tell you it will get better. I have a friend in s similar situation as you were he would rather be treated like shit by a woman then be alone because he's so lonely and I told him to get some self respect for himself.

You are better than this mate, it's just a comfort for you like taking a teddy to bed bur you need to get out there and try meeting people not all people are terrible I promise

[MikeyObrien]

I really appreciate that a lot. But sadly I work so much and move about every 3 months so it's hard for me to meet someone. It's just like it's the end of the night and I have to go to sleep and it's like do I wanna just go to bed feeling like a lonely failure or do I wanna listen to a 10 minute video and pretend I'm someone else.

[Puppystarfish23]

Why do you have to move away every 3 months?

[Puppystarfish23]

If it's for work is it really worth it. No amount of money can buy happiness. Happiness is the most important thing life to have

[MikeyObrien]

I'm not comfortable saying my job in a post but if you wanna know we can follow each other and ill tell you so we can talk

[User115]

I’m also at the point where I would rather Cling to a girl who doesn’t treat me like how I probably would treat them. It’s something if you’ve never been in our shoes you wouldn’t understand. It’s a listen don’t judge type of thing

[foxritual]

This is the point where you need to take a step back from the internet. Do not seek the Internet for comfort. You should go outside and talk a walk, go to the park, find some friends to make and hang out with, find a new store to try, etc.

I'm sure we've all been at that point with the Internet before. It's good that you are recognizing that something may not be right with the way you are using the internet. It is okay to sometimes have sad moments. Don't love in those sad moments forever though. There are many things you can do to make you happy and forget about the fact that you're alone. I've had to do it for many years. The best thing is always to go outside and separate ftome the Internet for awhile.

[MikeyObrien]

I can't I'm busy all day virtually

[Levin]

I guess anything you need for solace.

I get there's a lot going on.

I suppose it's sad in a way. Because in that voice, (which I had to look up because I found it curious that such things even exist), the girl actually seems to care what happens to you. That's a novelty for a lot of men. Also, the girl has a nice voice.

Tbh, I find that a bit triggering. So I hope you can try and find those healthy patterns and look forward. You're still young so don't think the way you are now, is how you will be in the future. Often our younger years are our teacher. They teach us how to be resilient, and help us see the patterns of what we *don't* want.

[Levin]

I suppose what I can say is that what I can sense in it is trauma, heartbreak and things that are unresolved.

[Finchie40]

That’s something you have to ask yourself , would you rather have a fake girlfriend or a real girlfriend?

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some lighthearted reassurance on this. Listening to ASMR, even if it features a "girlfriend," isn't abnormal. Sounds like you're just craving a bit of comfort and human connection. Totally normal! It’s like a lullaby for adults, helping you relax and drift off.

If you're hoping to spice things up in real life, consider finding hobbies or social activities that could introduce you to new people. Just rock that dynamic introverted self and remember, pillows make excellent listeners. 🛌✨

[BonbonEmpress]

No, nothing is wrong with you, I know many boys who end up going their moments in their life where they're very lonely and feel detached from the world while simultaneously seeking comfort (and very often a girlfriend who could connect with you on a deeper level with some hugs and cuddles to make you feel loved). Stuff like this is one of the coping mechanisms you would have till you can turn your life around and find comfort in real life which takes time. Wanting to feel loved is not wrong at all but instead shows you're doing something right by desiring that. Just know these times are temporary and there will be a time that you can turn your life around for the better at a gradual but sure pace, wish ya the best of luck! :))

[Malgarak]

The replies confuse me, it's just an asmr to help him sleep. I don't think this is any weird at all, who doesn't want to simply feel loved and safe, something that most women I know, certainly wants. Don't see why it's so weird if a guy wants to as well, not to mention in the past this was popular at one point, particularly among women, to have these self-assurance audios they would play during yoga or meditation. You do you, you are allowed to dream and hope.

[serious_miss419]

I’d say stay off the internet in your spare time. Recently I’ve gotten rid of Facebook. Such a relief not having it. Literally I’d open it and just scroll. Such a useless thing really.


So no. Something isn’t wrong with you. It’s just what you’re choosing to do with your time or your life.

[Unit1]

Yeah, that's what a person resorts to when that person is cooked. Shit happens.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Wanting to be hugged? It's just a basic and humane wish. In that sense, something is right with you.

[Anonymous]

Join a large group that helps other people, a charity or community organization or something, so your focus won't be on yourself. You won't be alone long.

[MikeyObrien]

I move around a lot, unfortunately due to my job. That's partly why I can't meet anyone.

[Nikki1989]

I have no idea what ASMR means. Perhaps you need to a break from the internet.

[Friendlybro79]

Get therapy so you can get a professional to help. Don't make excuses about not having time. You're 25. Take care of yourself.

[Staximus]

You're never going to get what you want in life if you don't get up off your ass and make it happen.

[Jj1994]

Do things you like to do the internet will only make it worse

[michalpl00]

Brother i did that too when I was younger. You got to have some respect. Build yourself up and get a girl.

[RedInnocent69]

Not really. The positive affirmations might do you some good

[strateguy632]

No..