Girlfriend wakes me up in the middle of the night to talk?

[Anonymous]

She does it most nights; she gets anxious about something (be it work, family, her friends) and she always wants to chat at about 2 or 3 in the morning. I listen to her and help her out because i feel that's what a good boyfriend should do but it's also annoying because i want to get to sleep and my pattern is immediately broken. I want to talk to her at a more convenient time but i don't want to upset her when she's so anxious. What should I do?

[DessieDoo]

This is a tough one. I have anxiety really bad and for whatever reason, it is triggered upon me laying down to sleep. My boyfriend has woken up with me a few times but I normally walk out of the room so he can sleep without me disturbing him. Although, he has told me he would rather have me wake him up so he can help me. But that is only because sometimes I go into anxiety/panic attacks and he wants to be the one to help me, rather than me do it myself.
What I would do, (where I know how bad anxiety can be sometimes), I would try to talk to her before bed. I wouldn't mention to her that you want to sleep without her waking you up because she may feel like a burden to you. Pathetic, I know. But women are weird and overthink everything lol. So sit her down before bed and make conversation with her then and maybe it will get enough off of her mind so she won't need to wake you up during the night! Hope this helps and good luck! :)

[Bubbles734]

Maybe you can ask her about her day and her thoughts as you both lay down. It will show her you care and you want to hear what she has to say and hopefully she will get it all out and won't wake you in the middle of the night.

[Sadness82]

Ok, I know what your going through. Talk to her once you see her and ask if there's anything bothering her. People like this usually just need a lot of support to feel comfortable enough to sleep. Give her reassurance so she can snuggle with you at night instead of talking with you until she's comfortable.

[JulyAndrews]

She should respect you. Just because she's can't sleep doesn't mean that you're not allowed a good night's rest.

I would not be happy if someone disturbs my sleep and therefor me feeling like crap in the morning.

If you're not waking me up for sex, don't bother waking me up.

[Deft_maiden]

Her anxieties are preventing her a good night rest so intern she's bothering you. You need to let her know that you'll be happy to talk to her anytime but you need to your nighttime rest and so does she. there are plenty of sleep aids out there that are non habit-forming

[aboomya]

Gawd that's annoying. Be straight up. Tell her tour tired and ud rather talk to her before bed or in the morning.
but if she's anxious while sleeping to the point she's gonna awaken someone else's she's got some serious problems she should see a doctor about

[Stacyzee]

I would put my phone on mute and say,
"I didn't hear it because I was beyond exhausted."

Yeah, you're being a good boyfriend.
But at the same time, if she's a good girlfriend she'll understand that you need your rest.
Why not suggesting that you talk to her first thing in the morning when you wake up?
If you don't mention this, she'll keep doing it.

[Ihav2fart]

Talk to her about it.