Do you ever feel like you married the wrong person?

[Anonymous]

Ok married for over 12 years in which I thought I’d met the love of my life, we’ve been through a lot and I’ve never thought about being with another man.

Recently I met someone else at work, where I felt an intense mutual unspoken attraction. I’m not acting on it, but we have a connection.

My question is do you ever feel like you married the wrong person and maybe humans aren’t just made for one person…

[Finchie40]

If your spouse doesn’t treat you right and is disrespectful and rude to you then that can be a reason that you are open to someone else. But if your husband treats you good and respects and loves you , then you are best to back off of that coworker and focus on your marriage. Your coworker isn’t going to save you , he might fuck you but he won’t save you. So you are best to have a sit down talk with your husband and try to fix what is broken or missing between you both , before making a dumb move of ruining your marriage

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

I don't feel like I married the wrong person, but then I'm not married.

Do you feel like you married the wrong person because you're bored with your husband? Or is this new guy so insanely attractive to you that it's causing you to have doubts?

How old are you? It says you're 18-24, which seems kinda young if you've been married 12 years.

[Asker]

Hey, I’m 34, so married since 22.

Yes I think a mixture of both. The new guy has shown me a lot of attention, which I guess is lacking in my relationship. He is also super hot and the attraction is intense.

I love my husband, as the father of my children etc, but maybe the spark has gone, which is sad.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Okay, just to clarify, when you're having daydream fantasies about this guy, is he like marrying you and helping you raise your children, or f**king your brains out?

Do you think it's because of ths particular guy, or if he hadn't come along do you think you would have developed a crush on someone else?

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

How many kids do you have?

[Asker]

Initially it was purely sexual, but now I’ve got to know him, I’d say it’s definitely more than that and more relationship material.

No I wasn’t interested in anyone else before and haven’t since. I wasn’t looking for it, it was happened with this guy. I have two kids.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

So... basically, you're more or less happy with your husband, although maybe a little bored. But you think you could be way happier with this other guy? Like maybe your husband is like an 8 out of 10 on the "husband scale," and you feel like this guy could be a 9.5?

Is it difficult being around this guy?

Do you think your interest in this other guy would sort of fade if the sex between you and your husband was better? Just guessing.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

I saw a question about time travel yesterday, and thought of you

If you could time travel would you? ↗

So my question is, if you could travel back in time, and marry this guy instead of your husband, would you do it?

[LazerBean]

Not at all. The longer we are married, the more I know that he is perfect for me.

[Abbycado]

So you were married at age 12, or younger?

[Asker]

No im 34, it’s an error, can’t seem to change it. So married since 22.

[AI Opinion]

On Girls Ask Guys, I love helping people navigate these complex matters of the heart. It’s completely natural to occasionally wonder about these things—you're not alone in this at all! Relationships can be wild rides full of unexpected feelings. That unspoken attraction can give you butterflies but also some confusion. Maybe it's about spicing things up with your current boo, exploring ways to reignite that initial spark and romance you've built over 12 years. Remember, it’s the connection you nurture that truly counts! ✨💑

[jahaims]

You aren't emotionally healthy if you are feeling that way while in a relationship

[Asker]

Yes that’s what worries me.

[KrakenAttackin]

Classic modern female.

[Benlovegs]

Do you have kids?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Lifelong bachelor.