Do you ever wonder if you married the wrong person?

[Anonymous]

[jennifer_bloom]

God would not even let me be friends with guys who were wrong for me

[wittymilf]

God has give. You free will to choose who to marry… so it’s kinda on you!

[Anonymous]

I guess more accurately in my case, I married the right woman, but she is not the same women I married. So on my case I wonder what happened to the woman I married.

Dies that count?

KIK

[wittymilf]

Nope :) that’s why the put the for better or for worse clause in the legal contract😂

[Opinion Owner]

@wittymilf ouch...

[wittymilf]

Soz mate thens the rules

[Opinion Owner]

@wittymilf what if your boyfriend made passionate love to you every day making sure he was making a complete connection with you mentally and physically. Then you are married, and he has a non emotional connection quickie every and now and then. Is dem da rules to?

[wittymilf]

Yes. 🤷‍♀️ marriage is a commitment beyond sex. One day you’ll have no sex at all. My husband is actually nit the guy I married. 10 ywars in he had an extreme accident. Part of this included bi lateral diffusion of the brain and multiple frontal lobe hemorrhages he returned from death different in nearly every way to the man I married.

[vapido]

Wonder? "Wonder"? LOL!!! How naive!

[wittymilf]

No, because choosing to marry him was choosing to commit for life. So therefore there is no longer a question 🤷‍♀️

[WildCard42]

During a long marriage you will likely go through slumps and fights where you will momentarily wonder what it would be like to be with someone else.

It pretty natural I think.

[Kaneki05]

Nah just more I didn't marry a girl when i should've.

[NathanDavis]

isn't that why the bride removes the veil first? to make sure it is the right bride? lmao

[Nikki1989]

No, I am very happily married.

[Anonymous]

At 50% divorce rates i consider it high enough to be a likely possibility. But I'm not married so 😁

I wonder who loves divorces more.

[dustybiker]

Never. Opposite. Reconfirmed every day.

[EmmaMary]

No absolutely not, and never will either.

[Anonymous]

What made you ask this?

[Asker]

Just differences on certain important things that keep coming back up.

[Opinion Owner]

Such as what? Have you mentioned this at all? Sometimes we grow together instead of growing apart. The person we married turned out to be either for us or just a lesson passing by in life

[Opinion Owner]

How old is she? Because sometimes a woman hasn’t completely experienced life itself just yet but some women are different because of the things they go through in life.

[Asker]

Yeah it has been mentioned but it’s always just dismissed and never goes anywhere. She says she’ll change about it never does. She’s 28 now and it’s more about stuff like money and life values as she’s more materialistic (but has a very good heart) whereas I see other things in life as being more important.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I don’t care about materialistic things at all. Sometimes counseling can help as well. maybe she doesn’t know entirely the effect that this has on your marriage because she still thinks she’s doing the right thing

[Asker]

Yeah that and her not really caring about my mental health problems. She’ll often question me about why we aren’t rich but would never ask how I’m doing in that regard. I have told her but things never change. Sex wise things could be better too. Like anything we have our good days and our bad days

[Opinion Owner]

Yes it’s just a rough patch that married couples go through which is normal. Counseling can help but just be appreciative and thankful she’s not cheating on you at all :) you will get through this! Don’t ever question whether you married the wrong person or not because you chose to marry her. So obviously you loved something about her that you couldn’t find in anyone else

[Asker]

Actually tbh I wouldn’t mind her sleeping with other guys, she was a virgin when we met so doesn’t have much experience in that regard and I’d love for her to do that! She’s more vanilla whereas I’m more on the wild side!
Yeah thanks and I definitely do love her but sometimes my depression makes me want to be alone so there’s that as well. I have a very different outlook on life due to my experiences so for people who care about money are the type I usually don’t like to be around.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry you’re going through this! I really am! Ugh depression sucks and it makes us feel so unwanted at times. You will get through this! Just try to have different bank accounts. I’m married as well and we have different accounts because of my Amazon addiction lol use your money separately as she should be supporting herself as well.

[Asker]

Thanks you and I have my good/bad days! I’m used to dealing with it now and I’m better than I used to be. Oh we already do that but more she wants to be rich and do stuff I wouldn’t enjoy or be good at just because she sees people online doing it lol. We are actually making really good money but she still isn’t happy about it as her friends are born rich too.

[Opinion Owner]

I wanna be rich too one day! Lol I understand where she coming from because my husband got on me one day about going to a dealership getting a $601 car note! Lol I be getting money and be buying things with the imagination of being stabled for this lol mane let her live in that imaginary world lol sometimes it pays off in the future

[Opinion Owner]

You can also set a budget on what she can spend monthly and see will that work

[Opinion Owner]

I really hope my answers helped you

[Asker]

Thanks for the suggestions but nothing I haven’t tried with her. I know everyone in life wants money but some people aren’t willing to work for it and are impatient to put in that work to get it.
It’s more the fact too that some people would rather be a horrible person that has a prestigious job and be loaded than someone who had enough money to live fairly easy while working but be a really good person.

[Opinion Owner]

well that’s a complete different ball game and scenario.. just separate your finances and let her make her own money without yours if it has become a problem. I had my own struggles and money before I combined finances with my husband. You have to be willing to make sacrifices in a marriage

[Asker]

We do but doesn’t stop her from spending recklessly and harassing me about how much money we have 😂 plus you are married so can’t really have that separate mindset if that makes sense. Then there’s also the sex, we clash there as she’s super vanilla and I have a ton of kinks

[Opinion Owner]

Well talk to her about things and strategize.. it’s a guy I know that’s married that’s a TikTok star. His wife loves Amazon and online shopping. Every time he check his mailbox they have packages. He knows his wife love to shop and spend money but that’s just in her ways. It’s about what you can afford and trying to find a valuable way to do things that’s within your guidelines.

[Opinion Owner]

Was your sex life like this before marriage?

[Asker]

Sex has always been vanilla. I’ve tried to get her into more kinky stuff but she’s not usually interested.
And her shopping isn’t even an issue, it’s more the materialistic mentality that I don’t like.

[Opinion Owner]

These things that can be fixed easily with counseling. Also listen to podcasts and read some good books on marriages. this is just a rough patch. If it’s not cheating or her having a baby on you…then it can be worked out

[Asker]

Thanks for that

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome! Hope this helps

[Opinion Owner]

Do you wish you would have married someone else when you had the opportunity?

[Asker]

Not so much someone else, just stayed single lol

[Opinion Owner]

Well what made you marry her

[Opinion Owner]

It will hurt anyone to hear what you just said

[Jamie05rhs]

That's a fucked up thing to ask.

[LazerBean]

Nope.

[tfan1]

Nope