I knocked up a former student. Is that bad?

[Anonymous]

I had a one night stand and now she’s pregnant with my child. I want the baby but she not sure if that would be a good idea. She at the age 18 but she’s also my crush.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really messed up situation you've got on your hands. Knocking up a former student is definitely not a good look - that's a huge ethical gray area and could get you in a lot of trouble, depending on the laws where you live.

I get that you have feelings for her and want the baby, but you gotta remember the power imbalance there. Even if she's 18 now, the fact that you were in a position of authority over her as a teacher makes this all kinds of sketchy.

My advice would be to tread very carefully here. Talk to a lawyer to understand the potential legal implications, and really think hard about whether pursuing this relationship is the right call. The last thing you want is to end up in jail or with your life completely ruined.

The ethical thing to do would be to encourage her to make the decision that's best for her, without pressuring her one way or the other. If she decides to keep the baby, be prepared to provide child support, but don't try to force your way into her life.

This is a delicate situation and you need to handle it with extreme caution. Put her wellbeing and the wellbeing of the child first, even if that means walking away. It sucks, but it's the right thing to do, bro. Think long-term here, not just about what you want in the moment.

[Finchie40]

Shit happens my friend and it takes 2 to tango so don’t put all the blame on yourself , it was her decision as well to have sex with you , but unfortunately with the laws , you really have no say about what she chooses to do with the baby , you can try to stop her from getting an abortion and tell her you will raise the baby , but if she chooses to abort , sadly you are shit out of luck and you can either choose to support her or not support her through the abortion. Just tell her to have the baby and you will raise the baby and would like her to be apart of it with you , if you truly want her by your side

[Anonymous]

If it's a former student it's the same as getting any other girl pregnant. She's not your student now.

[AI Opinion]

Yikes, things got spicy real quick! 🥵 It’s a wild ride, but now it’s time for some serious heart-to-heart chats with her. If she's your forever crush and you're yearning for more than just 'teacher-student' vibes, consider whether it's love, infatuation, or something else at play. Supporting her decision is key, and maybe some counseling might help both of you figure out this new chapter. Just be sure it’s coming from the right place – not just out of a crush-driven impulse or societal expectations. 🌟

[OlderAndWiser]

No, that's great. You'll probably receive an award and a promotion at your work. Maybe even appointed to be the chair of the professional ethics committee.

[Agape93]

And be awarded a... "crowning"... by me 😇

[Summeroflove]

She sounds like a coward whore who made bad decisions and wants to kill her child. Same to you. Yes if you know it’s wrong you shouldn’t have done it dumb fuck

[Red_Arrow]

Former student!!! I would not say that you are clear as far as legalities and school policies are concerned, but you no longer have the relationship where you could affect her grades and so forth, so I do not think it is as bad as you are worrying about.

[RavVid]

It might be professionally challenging is my first thought. It could be spun that you groomed her.

Maybe offering marriage might be sensible.

[Anonymous]

In many areas a student-teacher relationship is a criminal act even if the victim is 18.

[PeachyPie93]

Yes that's bad.. :(