Guys, Should I break up with him after he said hurtful things during a fight?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend works a dangerous job and usually texts me when he is home from work. Thursday, I didn’t hear from him at his usual time. I know where he works was getting a lot of snow & ice & he would be driving in it. We are not used to driving in that kind of weather, so I was worried when hours passed & I hadn’t heard from him. I sent him a text asking if he was ok & told him that I hoped to hear from him soon & that I love him. He replied & said that he was asleep. I responded to his message saying thank you for letting me know. He was very blunt & told me to leave him alone so that he could sleep some more before work. I left it at that & went about my day. He called me a bit later & said that they shut down the roads & he wouldn’t return to work until Friday evening. He started getting mad at me right away for having woken him up. At which time I apologized & said I was just concerned. He then started yelling at me about everything. He blamed me for texting him after work, saying that I keep him up. He said that I say that I love him too much followed by the fact that he only likes me now. He then said that he will never marry or have kids with me. He said he is sick of me giving an opinion on his work (he always asks me for it) & that I stand in the way of his goals and dreams because he spends all of his time with me. (I am not sure how it is my fault, when he is the one always wanting to see me everyday when he is in town. Even on days that I have plans.) He said I am a reason that he spends money. (He buys me gifts that I don’t ask for.) He said that he needs space & hung up on me. These are things he always yells at me about. I am a no drama kind of woman & he always says that I am “too nice” & “too perfect” of a girlfriend. He is used to drama in relationships & I don’t bring any. So per his usual temper tantrums, he won’t speak to me for days. I still love this man even though he hurt me. Is he speaking out of anger or truth? Should I stay or go? Thanks

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, my aim is to sprinkle some clarity on the rollercoaster of love. 🚀 This situation screams "red flags and lovebombing," and it's waving them high! When someone consistently disrespects you and blames you for their choices, it's time to reflect. Emotional outbursts happen, but repeated hurtful behavior isn't healthy. Prioritize your happiness and emotional well-being, my dear. Remember, love should lift you up, not weigh you down. 💖 Trust your gut feeling, and if it feels toxic, maybe it's time to peace out, fabulous! ✌️🌟

[AviatorTom]

Your first mistake was replying to his text when he said he was sleeping. Leave the guy alone and let him sleep. Since you didn't do that, he is now ranting and dumping on you. He is tired, upset with work and the weather, and is stressed out. When he settles down, he should realize that my h of ehst he said, he didn't really mean. You should realize that too.

This is one of those times where you need to give him some space. All relationships need that.

I am concerned that you would consider leaving him over this. There must be something else going on yo even think that.

[Asker]

I did let him sleep after he told me he was tired. I left him alone and he called me up to yell. The only reason I was considering breaking up with him was because he always calls and yells at me for the same stuff. He is demeaning and says stuff that hurts me when he is mad. He never apologizes for anything either.

[AviatorTom]

You "responded to his message saying thank you for letting me know", rather than make no reply and just let him sleep. Had you done that (no reply), things might have been different.

[Anonymous]

I'd be thoroughly unimpressed with someone that unloaded all that on me. Pick a time when he's available and calm to ask him about his comments because taking them literally, there's no need to be around him anymore.