How should I handle this situation my friend cheated on his girlfriend with my sister?

[Anonymous]

I am not happy with him at all…. Not only because his girlfriends sweet but also because he has dragged my sister into this. It’s of no fault of my sister she was led to believe he was single. When she found out he had a girlfriend she told me what had happened.

She’s worried because she doesn’t want to be looked at as a monster especially because things like this spread around school fast. She doesn’t want to look like someone who intentionally slept with someone who was take.

I confronted my friend because he cheated on his girlfriend and really hurt my sister. He made me feel like a bad friend basically and was begging me not yo tell anyone. “Oh bro it’s not that deep. It was one night and by girlfriend been moody as hell bro” and I wasn’t buying his shit.

I feel like I should tell his girlfriend myself. Before things get any worse.

[regulator777]

Being your friend, out of respect to you he should have told you that he is gonna start dating your sister before hand, however, since he isn't single and you know that, he had no good intentions towards your sister except for sleeping with her. which means, he lost that friendship. and tell his soon to be ex-girlfriend what happened. turn the page on that friendship and don't look back. AND... beside the fact your sister should come to you for advice about dating, you should have been sharp enough to see what your friend is made of and not have him around your sister from the beginning. So yes, definitely expose him and forget about him

[Asker]

You’re right it was the way he went about it that pissed me off. If he was single and told me about it I honestly wouldn’t have cared.

But the fact that he was acting like he was sneaking behind my back and led her to believe he was single. Really pissed me off. My sister isn’t about that she said she just kept her mouth shut because she didn’t want things to get awkward not because she was hiding anything.

But she did say that he kept making comments to never tell me. But she did once she found that out

[Billlewis]

I’ve always believed that most relationships are actually better served when the woman has an occasional casual relationship on the side, whereas when the guy does so, nothing good can come from it.

[Asker]

I don’t think cheating ever leads anywhere good. His girl is sweet and far as I know loyal

[AnonAndrew]

@Billlewis
I agree.

[DishLady]

Didn't your sister know that he was your friend? Shouldn't she have ASKED YOU if he was single before going and getting all caught up in some nonsense with him?

Of course she's not a MONSTER, however she should be more careful and ask you if you know the guy, etc. etc.

DIDN'T YOU PUCH HIM? Honestly, you seem MORE WORRIED about being a bad friend (which you weren't) than about being a bad BROTHER (which you were).

[Asker]

I didn’t punch him but I did about everything but. No my sister never asked me she didn’t want there to be problems and awkwardness

[Asker]

She should have but he did tell her that he was single. As soon as she found out she told me what happened immediately.

I told his girlfriend and she was obviously pissed but understood and pretty much told my friend not to talk to either of us anymore

[DishLady]

UUUUGH, Make sure you let her know in the future that's why you're both there... to be THERE for each other. I swear. I have to remind my kids of that ALL the time.

[DishLady]

Ok... I rescind the bad brother comment, then... It's very upsetting that she didn't come to you from the start. It would have saved her heartache and possible ridicule.

[Asker]

I do try to be there for her. It’s really none of my business but what does make me angry is the fact that he drug her into his stupid sick games. He could have ruined her reputation. As well as broke his girls heart.

I did tell her and she was pissed he’s cut off as a friend far as I am concerned.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should

[Asker]

I think I’m going to. I don’t care at this point if I loose him as a friend. He’s always bringing drama and toxicity and this is my last straw

[Asker]

Such as dating girls in our friends group and causing fights and drama amongst one another. When he’s dating multiple girls or dating girls other dudes are dating…. But he never full out cheating.

The fact that he drug my sister into his sick twisted games really makes me angry.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree with you

[Asker]

Yeah

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach and occasional drama enthusiast, I get that tangled webs like this are tricky, and obviously not ideal. Maybe think of it as an opportunity to champion honesty and integrity instead of keeping secrets. Your primary concern is your sister's well-being. Let her know she's not to blame, and she should hold her head high. As for the messy friend, he needs a wake-up call about respecting relationships. Deciding whether to tell his girlfriend is tough. Weigh if it's your place to reveal it or if you should empower him to do the right thing. Remember, everyone's emotions are involved here. Trust your gut! 💪💕

[Finchie40]

The fact that he lied to your sister and screwed her is enough for You to no longer be his friend period , so end your friendship with him and tell his girlfriend what he did to her behind her back

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you really 25-29 years old and worrying about rumors spreading at school?

[Asker]

I’m 18 she’s 17 he’s 18

[Asker]

Sorry about the age

[OlderAndWiser]

I’m really 70 and I’m sorry about my age, too!

[Asker]

It’s okay

[Anonymous]

He's not taking responsibility for duping two girls, and disrespecting you - it's your sister, bro.

Not sure if i'd want to deliver the bad news to his girl but it's not an unreasonable thing to do and perhaps helps level the score.

Does your sister know this girl? Would it be better coming from her?

[Asker]

You’re right I cut contact with him and told his girlfriend. He’s pissed at me but

[Asker]

I don’t really care anymore

[RealMarek]

He didn’t just betray his girlfriend, he deceived (through omission) your sister and betrayed your friendship. You would be within your rights to end the friendship and do whatever is necessary to protect your sister’s reputation.

[Asker]

That’s the point he hurt my sister as well. She felt horribly and confessed to me immediately when she heard of it. She was disgusted by what she did with him but it was too late.

He will probably make it seem as if she knew about it when she didn’t so I think I’m just going to tell her.

[RealMarek]

I hope it goes well for you and your sister.

[Asker]

Thanks.

[LiamJHayden]

I would unfriend someone who was nonchalant about his lack of integrity.

[Asker]

Yeah I cut him off

[AnonAndrew]

My recommendation would be to beat his ass until he screams like a woman.

[Flower7]

Just stop being friends with him.