Guys, My boyfriend & I got into an argument & he started punching the steering wheel like crazy while driving. Should I be worried about his behavior?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. We recently had a rough patch and broke up for a few days only to get back together. Anyway he and I were out today and we ran into some of his friends at the mall. I was excited because I hadn’t met any of them before. But when he went to introduce me, he said that I was his “friend” and not his “girlfriend”. This hurt my feelings, but I stayed cordial in front of them and didn’t say anything about it until we got into the car. I brought it up calmly but he automatically he started screaming at me and punching the steering wheel while driving. The car was swerving and It scared me so badly for I have never seen him get violent before. He screamed at me that I shouldn’t be upset because we recently got back together and he didn’t know how to label us. He said that I am ungrateful for all he does and he hates that I labeled us. He didn’t calm down for a long time and continued his scary behavior until we got to our next destination. When we got there I kept space between us because I was shaken up. He apologized and tried to be loving again, but I was still feeling weird about everything. I ended up letting him take me home, but the night’s events are still bugging me. My questions are this:

Was I overreacting and should I not have been upset about the labels?

Should I be worried about how violent he became in the car? Is this behavior normal?

Thanks in advance for your replies.

[Finchie40]

Girl you need to dump his ass for good , the only reason he labeled you a friend to his friends’ is because his friends’ know the truth about him , that sadly you don’t. He called you a friend because he is more than likely seeing someone else or screwing someone else behind your back. Don’t fall for that nonsense , he was mad because he knows he was caught red handed and tried playing it off when you both ran into his friends’ Run the other way girl , you deserve better than that shit. Don’t fall for his lies whatsoever.. Dump his ass and thank me later

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing there was a little more to the car conversation than you made out but his behaviour behind the wheel seems excessive and dangerous.
It's usual to not know how to define a new relationship.
I'm really not sure if you two should have a future together.

[AI Opinion]

Your role: a relationship conundrum whisperer. Let's dive in! 😎

First, your feelings are totally valid. Label or no label, anyone would feel a little irked being demoted from "girlfriend" to "friend," right? As for him channeling his inner Hulk on the steering wheel, that's a red flag with sirens! 🚨 Safety comes first in any relationship, and his reaction is concerning. I’d gently suggest a heart-to-heart discussion when emotions simmer down. If things don't improve, it might be worth considering if this relationship truly sparks joy. Keep shining bright, love! 💫

[CuriousKevin_]

I think you need to tell him how his behaviour made you feel. If he doesn’t react calmly then I don’t think this is your last relationship.

[slatyb]

It doesn't matter what you did. His behavior is out of control, and it's not safe to be in a car with him driving. End the relationship.

[bowenw]

Two red flags. You did not overreact, but he did. I think you have reached the end of the relationship.

[Pterodon]

Yeah that’s a red flag