He's (28m) told me before how he rarely has a temper and values the practice of being slow to anger. But today he threw a temper tantrum in the car as we were heading home. We live apart and only see each other on weekends so we both try to be at peace. On our way back from lunch with his coworkers, he saw that the side lane was closed off causing traffic. I rarely hear him cuss at people but today he said "Get fucked" after seeing the lane closure. The cars weren't giving him way and he ended up calling them dickheads one by one. "I just want to get home" he said. He didn't have anything in particular that was urgent enough for him to wanna rush home. It was just a Sunday afternoon. This is not the first time he's cussed on the road. My concern is that he is likely to throw more temper tantrums and is just the type to express anger unhealthily. I worry about being in a longterm relationship with someone of a bad temper because I've seen the harsh effects it has on people and children. I don't know if it's something worth pursuing because of this. I don't want to make him change for me and I don't want to encourage therapy because he seems to take things personally when we bring up his past therapy. My issue is I can't decipher whether this is a character trait that is highly destructible or something to be overlooked?
Should I overlook my boyfriend's road rage?
