Does the attractiveness of the people who approach you reflect how attractive you are?

[AmyHew1tt]

Eg. If you're only approached by under-average-looking men, as a woman, does that mean you are under-average-looking as well? Genuinely curious to hear the different takes on this. No one I talk to about it seems to be able to agree.

[PeachyPie93]

Depends. What I notice is if a guy is ugly he always calls me gorgeous or beautiful, its a dead give away, especially on this site :P (Usually true but there are the rare exceptions, like one guy was good looking and said it to me)
If a guy is to my standard or above they call me cute or cute af and on rare occasions pretty.

Guys in real life, I had cute guys look/stare at me or check me out but they never talk to me. Probably because I am shy and give off a vibe. But I have had ugly guys come up and talk to me really easily lol. You got to love ugly guys tho because they boost your ego so much even though you know yourself you aren't that pretty 😂

[Flatmanlewis]

No. Not at all. A man can be ugly as the south end of a north-bound donkey and still approach an absolute “10” woman.


Conversely men are less likely to be rated on their looks alone so women will freely and wholeheartedly approach a man who may not be physically the same “grade” as them but if he has enough charm, wit, humor, fame, or (of course) income then it doesn’t even matter.

[Avicenna]

Not necessarily- attraction is multifaceted, and unattractive people still hit on attractive ones.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Or It could just mean you have very poor understanding vibes you put out. Guys don't approach women unless she signals her approval to be approached. Now, most women by your age know this very well. Women like to say, "He said I led him on." That's because 9 times out of 10 SHE DID! Intentionally!

But occasionally in rare cases you get a woman your age who is just socially retarded and truly doesn't know.

So which do you think you are? Ugly or just socially retarded?

[AmyHew1tt]

Neither. All my few interactions have been with men wholly out of the blue with not so much as prior eye contact made. The only one to actually speak to me very blatantly ignored that I was not interested. All of them have been old and on the uglier side. But this post isn't about me particularly. Just generally.

[Opinion Owner]

Every person gets approached by a certain segment of the opposite gender. A couple weeks ago I had a not very attractive woman come up and ask if she could slap my a**.
These people are not the norm hun. I'm trying to answer your question in the norm.

[Anonymous]

I have never been approached by women in my life and I like to think of it as a compliment.

this doesn’t give me a scale to know and I personally appreciate it.

I’m not handsome nor ugly, I’m just a normal human being, who’s is happy to be in the middle.

being good looking or ugly gives a lot of attention and I don’t like attention.

I like walking without anyone noticing me.

[HighValue]

No because plenty of men will be with a woman significantly less attractive than he is just to hook up with her, but have no long term intentions.

[Phoenix98]

I'm never approached by women I have to do the approaching myself so I really couldn't say how that reflects on my attractiveness *shrugs*

[jjj101010]

No some people take a shot at glory and punch above their weight class

[Nice222]

I always approached women that I thought were way out of my league very attractive and very wealthy. Maybe I’m more attractive then I think but i always had success.

[Anonymous]

No I'm a hideous beast but only been approached by women who were out of my league

[DrPepper12]

Yes. Sociology has proven this.

[Adogdog]

I'm not really approached so not sure.

[AmyHew1tt]

Just curious . . . Would you approach someone you thought was more attractive than you? Or would you only approach someone you thought was on your level or lower?

[Adogdog]

Probably the same level or lower.

[Jennz6]

Yes, you have a good point.

[Anonymous]

For men yes, women not so much.

[Lottydotty]

Kinda.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope not at all