I feel like I’m not getting asked out because everyone assumes I’m young?

[Anonymous]

Literally had someone tell me the other day I look 16 when I’m really 26. I know I look young always have.. good genes I guess. But I also know a ton of people including guys comment on how good looking I am. Even had a guy call my bestie just to find out who I was, but I’m baffled because I never been asked out or pursued & I don’t get it. I’m friendly & easygoing yet nothing.

lol I don’t even know what advice to ask for.

[abc3643]

If you Google "Beautiful Girl Syndrome", that's basically saying that beautiful girls can be bitchier and high maintenance because guys are willing to put up with more because she is so beautiful. Guys won't put up with so much shit and work if the girl isn't so attractive.

(There's a similar "Beautiful Guy Syndrome" with good-looking guys being selfish dicks because they can always get another girlfriend if the current one is now too much trouble to deal with.)

"Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2" is a phrase I coined, but it's a real thing I discovered about 40 years ago. This will take some time to explain...

All guys need to feel that they can "win". They view many things like a competition in which there is some goal that they want to achieve. If a guy wants something and believes there is SOME possibility that he will achieve that goal, he will get emotionally involved. However, once he begins to believe that he won't achieve that goal, then he begins to withdraw and will become emotionally detached. However, sometimes a guy doesn't even think he has a chance, so he doesn't bother...

And this is where "Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2" comes in. If a girl is really beautiful, a regular guy thinks:
1. There are a zillion other guys who want her.
2. She almost certainly already has a boyfriend.
3. There is no way she'd be attracted to me; I am not anything special.
4. If she did date me, she's probably going to be bitchy and high-maintenance. (In other words, he's thinking she suffers from normal Beautiful Girl Syndrome.)
5. ... and then she'll dump me for some better-looking guy who will hit on her and there definitely will be such a guy.

So, basically, he thinks that:
1) he doesn't have a chance to get her,
2) but if he did get her, she's going to be a lot of work,
3) and then he will lose her anyway.

Because oceans of guys think like this - the only exception being the hunky guys - the beautiful girl either can't find a guy or goes with dickhead hunky guys (who suffer from Beautiful Guy Syndrome). Of course, the regular guys see the beauties with the hunky guys and that just reinforces their belief that they don't have a chance...

Oh, and one more thing: Since the beautiful girls can get guys, they are getting laid; at least, that's what guys are thinking. So, he believes any new boyfriend has to "compete" against all of her past lovers and many guys don't think they are going to "measure up" (if you know what I mean) compared to those past hunky guys.

So, for her to get a decent guy, she needs to make it known that she is available or she has to be proactive and hit on men she wants instead of waiting for them to hit on her. A beautiful girl being proactive removes doubts males have regarding Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2.

[Berethor]

If Shauna Rae can find a guy then why can't you? and 16 is legal in many places in the world.

https://nypost.com/article/who-is-shauna-rae-reality/

[Anonymous]

I'm 29 now (yes I know it says 20-24 I put in a bs date) and have always looked younger than I am. When I was in my early 20's most people thought I was 16-18 too but I still had many guys of my age asking me out or hitting on me

[spartan55]

I highly doubt that's not the reason you aren't getting asked out.

[Emanon25]

You will when the right guy shows up

[sifat10shahriar]

Show us your photos to judge 😇