I am told by many people including strangers around me that I'm pretty but why have I never gotten asked out? I'm 18 & have been single my whole life?

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I get good grades, dress well and gets compliments daily about my outfit, people say I'm very kind and mature and have a bubbly attitude and I am social also but no one seems interested in me and I have never been asked out to go to a dance or a date :(( why is this? Would it be different in college?

tzdc21 · Accepted Answer

Well you gotta understand the dating atmosphere from the male side. There are so many different factors that make it incredibly hard for a guy to ask out just one girl. First being the fear of rejection and second the fear of being label as creepy or being charged with harassment. And then if she's frequently with her friends all the time it's a no go. If she's always frowning or has a bad attitude when she's out in public and walking around, it's a no go. And a majority of the struggle is just waiting for the right time and the right place.

But here's an idea to counteract that. YOU ask some guys out. YOU start approaching. And I don't mean the typical, go into the vicinity of the guy, or "accidentally" bumping into him, or trying to give hint for him to ask you out, no I mean actually straight up approach a guy and say, "Hey, I like you. Wanna go out on a date with me?"

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

Is it possible they think you're already taken? When I was in high school if I had met a girl like you I would have talked to you and been nice and all that but would have assumed you had a boyfriend already -- all the girls like you did. So I never would have asked.

If you're not starting conversations with guys and making connections with them then that's part of the problem. Also, you can ask them out. There's nothing wrong with you picking the guy you want to get to know better and asking him for coffee.

Borntodie11 · Accepted Answer

Some girls seem closed off even though they have everything going for them and guys might find you attractive. But something about your energy says "unavailable", so they don't feel like they CAN ask you out. Or seeing you doesn't trigger an "asking out" thought. For example, do you flirt? Do you make eye contact with guys? Do you give off "little sister" or "bro" vibes? It's not always about you being attractive. It's also about a guy seeing you as someone who dates. What I've seen work for girls like this is for them to be the first to make the move. If flirting doesn't come naturally to you, then ask someone out.

xoxosilentgirl · Accepted Answer

there’s some possibility:
1. people perceived you as too intimidating
2. you are hard to approach/ rbf all day or non friendly face
3. it seems like you already have boyfriend or too cold to the guys/ giving negative signals
4. this happens a lot. Girl said that they want a date, a boyfriend, or someone that like them when in reality there’s some guy having interest in them but they just dont count on it bcs they dont like them.
5. or its just not the right time yet

Guy13 · Answer

You should be concern nor should your relationship status establish who you are as a person. I am sure you will find yourself a guy as you are only 18 years old.

Summeroflove · Answer

Well. Because if you want to go on a date. You’re gonna have to ask someone…. If you’re putting no effort in yourself. Forget it. A relationship takes equal work

Saramad_Hill · Answer

Don't let it get you down. I didn't get to have a date until I was 20, and some people go further than that.
Some people probably feel you're out of their league, unfortunately that tends to happen when someone has too many good qualities going for them.
Focus on being happy without a relationship, and you'll likely get your opportunity someday. Don't settle for the first person to ask you out, just because they're the first one to do so.
I do want to mention dating before college or before starting a career sometimes sucks. Most people around your age will be pretty different people in seven years, and a successful relationship benefits when there's emotional maturity involved... Which doesn't come until a bit later.
Don't worry. You sound great, and I hope you find someone great for you.

Anonymous · Answer

Ok first of all who is telling you you’re pretty meaning men or women? Both? Because women tend to tell other girls that when they don’t want to hurt their feelings. Some men do it as well. But too a girl’s idea of a girl who is pretty is not the same as a man’s idea of a girl who is pretty. Basically is she pretty that men would want to smash that? At the same time you may just seem inapproachable, closed off. Maybe a code they’re getting from you. Maybe you look much younger than 18 so men won’t approach because you look like a minor. There could be a lot of reasons. Maybe your standards are too high. Maybe you look high maintenance.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

Maybe the guys think you are already dating. Do you have guy friends your close too? Maybe your good male friend is in your friend zone, and you don't see his nonverbal interest clues. a lot of guys fall Into a friends zone and don't know how to move out of it or are to shy to ask you out. Have you flirted with a guy or let it know your available and open to date? Remember your only 18 so it hasn't been your whole life; maybe a good 3 years. They say when you don't look for love, that's when it shows up. That is kind of how it worked when I meet my wife. I was very happy being single, and I just started to talk n joke with her, then after a few weeks I ask her out

bkcutie11 · Answer

Lol I didn't get a real relationship till I was 21. I was virgin and inexperienced. You have time. Join clubs or something that has a community that does things you enjoy great way to meet someone. Most the time, why people are single it doesn't really have to do with looks.

Screenwriter · Answer

Why don't you ask someone you're interested in out? What are you waiting for? No prince charmings in my vicinity. And your whole life is 18 years. Not a very long time.

But put out some effort. Don't wait. Get done what you want done yourself!

slatyb · Answer

Are you at a healthy weight? People tell you that you are pretty? Unprompted? Which people?

What do you mean by "dressing well? Do you mean stylishly? It's possible to dress in fine clothes that signal no interest in being approached.

You are social? How many boys do you treat by name when you see them?

MysticDevice · Answer

I'm gonna guess its because they're too nervous to approach. They see all the traits you just described and assume you already have someone or you're out of their league so they don't bother.

Maybe try making some first moves and see what happens

jorfan3 · Answer

It might be different in college because you might meet more confident guys (men). You sound intimidating to be honest. Full package.

lightbulb27 · Answer

would have to see a picture of what you project. HS is a mess, lots of immaturity.

Have you considered, it isn't all about you? I'm sure guys are interested, but maybe intimidated and lack confidence.

Haha456 · Answer

because you never try to talk to boys. or because you have high standards.

A lot of boys are afraid of approaching girls just the same way you are afraid of approaching boys. Don't think its any different.

SexyRedd1966 · Answer

If you're pretty a lot of guys think you're already taken but also you have to be inviting one of my daughters is gorgeous but she never smiles I said you're not approachable

dustybiker · Answer

Best thing to help with that is travel. Costly but real world experience brings confidence and a ‘know how’ you won’t get any other way. I’d love to go motorcycling across Europe myself.

Vikkrram · Answer

You just 18 not 80 so plenty of years remaining. Chill

Paul09 · Answer

So you literally just sit there and wait? Expecting for men to go up to you and ask you out? Yeah, not really how it works. You need to put in the work too. Heck , believe it or not, you can ask guys out too.

peedy · Answer

Maybe you are so pretty that boys assume you already have boyfriend or that you are out of their league and you would just reject them
Fear of rejection from a beautiful girl can be very painful to a young boy/man

Adaeva · Answer

Because your standards are too high. Of course you get asked but they don't count.

AydenHazor · Answer

A lot of guys get intimidated by a girl who is out together and think she's out of their league. You'll find someone willing to take the strip it if they're comfort zone to ask you out

alcorriher · Answer

im 17 and have had this happen. its ok. were still young

boobliker · Answer

Are you a bitch to others as that can stop dates of you may have not seen it in the chat

Iron_Man · Answer

Because you probably look too young to date your only 18 anyway

harrison102 · Answer

Honestly don’t worry too much about it, guys will get in the way 🤣

Heolurt · Answer

Poor you, you're only 18 and no one asked you out? Give it 17 years and become an ugly guy.

TJ1892 · Answer

I woudnt worry, don't force anything the right person will find you at the right time.

Abc99 · Answer

If you're available on this weekend or next, lets plan a date

Anonymous · Answer

You got a long life ahead of you. I haven't had my first official relationship until I was 19.

Fryday_Knight · Answer

Being pretty alone is just not going to cut it.

Stevefiveo · Answer

Maybe just bad luck?

Anonymous · Answer

You're emotionally unavailable.

jimmy2 · Answer

I bit you are a hottie

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Pls share ur pic.. with this question

Anonymous · Answer

Start asking guys out!!

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