I don't approach women anymore because I guess women don't like to be approached by random guys and figuring them out is tiring. Peopl say I'm wrong?

[Anonymous]

Unless you're an attractive male, approaching women is basically sexual harassment. Am I wrong for thinking this?

[Chazmatazz269]

You are not wrong. The only difference between a creep and a potential match is whether or not she is interested in you.
It’s very likely that every woman who responds will tell you it’s not. If you have literally lived it, like most average men have, then they’re gaslighting you. Aren’t they? They’re telling you that you haven’t actually experienced what you have actually experienced. They’re telling you that because it flies in the face of a generations old fable about how all women are perfectly sweet, honest and altruistic.
It doesn’t really matter if only one woman in the world has ever filed SH charges on an admirer or if they have all done it. It only takes ONE to land you in jail. It’s nothing short of prudent to protect yourself from that possibility unless you actually do want to end up in jail.
It’s always funny to see women making excuses for protecting themselves from a minority of men, but when men feel the need to protect themselves from a minority of women we’re not real men. Ell oh ell!

[Anonymous]

No. At your age most women know what they want. And if she really wants you she'll approach you man. Don't listen to people who tell you differently. I get approached at least every other time I go out. All you need to concern yourself with is just BEING approachable.

[Asker]

I hear you but like I said this usually only happens to really attractive guys. I'm like a good 7 on my best day but for the most part I've never in my life had a woman try and talk to me first

[Opinion Owner]

When I said "go out" I didn't mean to the grocery store. I was talking about like concerts and such. Trust me man. I'm lucky if I'm a 7.😆 it's the situation and the guy in it that attracts the women. I'm not good looking. I'm just relaxed and having fun and that's genuine to them. If these women knew how boring I was the probably wouldn't approach me.😆

[strawberrybaby3]

Personally, no , I absolutely hate being approached by random guys. It basically happens almost everyday to the point where I will literally pretend like I don’t even hear them speaking to me, and for good reason. A guy smiles at me, I smile back, they think I’m interested when I’m not and use that as an excuse to approach me, so I’ve stopped smiling back. They come up to ask me a question, I answer, then they think I’m interested when all I was doing was answering a question. And you get some that do actually sexually harass you. I’ve had men literally walk by me but brush up against me and whisper something as they’re going by.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Yes, you are wrong for thinking this way. It's not sexual harassment unless you make it sexual harassment. If you are going to approach a girl just be prepared to be interesting and not a threat. Remember that you aren't owed anything for being nice.

[Asker]

I understand that. You can come off genuine and sincere but it just seems like a lot of women really don't want to be bothered unless SHE finds you attractive

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Initial attraction does come into play, but that can be overcome if you give her a reason to be interested in you. For me, as an example, I find humor to be a good in for talking to me.

[Asker]

Good response. I'll make sure to keep that in mind

[normalice]

You are wrong for thinking it has to do with attraction. There is a time and place to approach women and it isn't "random."

[BonzoInBitburg]

If the way you're approaching women is considered sexual harassment, you're doing it wrong

[Asker]

I literally almost never approach women at all.. like I said in the title, if you're not attractive to them I feel like you come off as annoying, creepy, etc..

[BonzoInBitburg]

Guys who are friendly and genuinely happy aren't creepy.

[grega239]

Yeah. Stop wasting your time on women.

Its not worth it