I have a problem because I told a guy I want a relationship or I am leaving and he said yes. But we see each other 2-3 times a week, but HE only texts me once a day or every other day. This feels wrong, what are your thoughts?
My advise in such cases will always be make sure he's interested in you as much as you're into him. I wasted a whole year trying to make a guy like me. It was like I'm the one who told him I like him and he kinda did say the same, but it wasn't totally mutual. He just didn't reject me. I never really put the initial effort in any of my previous relationships, it's the guys who would pursue me, but this was totally different. It was like I have to please him, I have to initiate the conversation, I have to say good morning everyday, if I don't text we have no conversation, and something huge I noticed and was upset over was that no matter what pics I send him, he never addressed me as pretty, hot, or beautiful, he'd say "nice pic" That's all. I'm not really trying to be a narcissistic bitch, but I'm on the attractive and pretty side, I get compliments wherever I go and I get a lot of attention from guys, but this guy was totally different. So yes that came as a surprise. This "relationship" went on until I found someone else. I guess it may come under the term "cheating", but yes before this "relationship" ended one guy caught my attention and that's how I realised the difference between a guy who is interested and a guy who is not interested.
Do you ever text him first or does he only do the texting?
If you call him, does it go to voicemail?
Communication she be two ways. You should call and text him whenever you want to as well.
I am always suspicious of a guy that manages all the texting and calling. Then if you call him he lets it go to voicemail.
That used to happen to me. That's because he didn't want me to know where he was or what he was doing. He probably was where he shouldn't have been and didn't want me to know. I used to get so angry with him about that.
The fact that you had to demand a relationship with him to begin with? , was your answer right there, that you shouldn’t be in a relationship with him period. If he truly wanted to be with you? , he wouldn’t make you think otherwise. I hate to tell you this , but he only likes the convenience of you , you are not his top priority , if you were his priority , you wouldn’t be asking this question what so ever. Someone that truly loves you and values you and appreciates you , will try to see you and hear from you as much as possible , they don’t go days without calling or texting you. People that go without calling or texting their partners’ are people that are stringing their partners along for their own convenience, . You should honestly reconsider this relationship with him before you waste more of your time thinking this guy actually values you.
Either or , a guy that really likes a girl is going to invest his time into her as much as possible , he won’t disappear for hours without calling or texting her , he makes her a priority , so if you are dating guys that don’t invest a lot of their time into you? No longer date them and move on
Why wouldn’t you be attracted to a guy that has his shit together? I know most girls’ like the bad boy type , why I tend to be a little of both, , so for me to give my heart to a girl , she has to prove to me that she is faithful and loyal to me , and she has to be submissive to me and make me feel valued and wanted and appreciated. If she does that for me , I will keep her by my side as much as possible. When a girl tries to be dominate over me and doesn’t really look up to me or make me feel value or appreciated or wanted , I will kick her ass to the curb where she belongs. One thing females’ keep forgetting about guys’ is most of us guys’ have egos , we will only stay loyal and faithful to a girl that compliments us and values us , and is submissive to us , if she fails to treat us like her King? we won’t consider her our Queen , we will just consider her as a piece of ass , For a girl to keep her man by her side she has to make him feel valued and wanted and appreciated , she doesn’t have to be perfect , but she knows what it means to be in a relationship and knows that her man is the only guy for her. If she has a selfish mindset that only wants things to go her way? She is in for a rude awakening, most guys’ will not commit to a selfish girl that doesn’t want his shoes the same way she expects him to wear hers.. if a guy cheats on a girl that is submissive to him , that values him and appreciates him , He is a complete moron. I will not cheat on a girl that keeps a smile on my face that stands by my side
Thank you. YOU are so RIGHT. After spending 3 days out of the week together he tells me he needs to go to the doctor and that his friend is taking him
I ask if it is a lady friend and he said yes. He said he has a lot of girl friends and he never asked me to take him to the doctor. He said he'd be done by 12pm - I go to his house at 3 and 6pm and another person's car was there. He never picked up his phone when I said I was going to drop by. He said his lady friend stayed with him to make sure he was ok.
So disrespectful - I am no longer talking to him
For me, just starting out with a new relationship. 2 to 4 times a week, and most of that should be you two coordinating your next date. Honestly, I want to go on three to four dates before she starts texting me about day-to-day life.
In your case if you are seeing each other regularly, then what is there to text about today, when you can just talk about in person tomorrow?
I mean he is making the time to meet you on a regular bases, so when you are apart let him have that personal time to himself. Because again he is making time to meet and talk to you in person. Those in person conversation have a lot more meaning and depth to them.
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That sounds like high interest level on his part to me. The fact that he actually initiates texts is a good sign.
Text multiple times a day, see each other at least 2x a week.
That’s what I also think
u As much as they both want. Why do you care what anyone else thinks about this?
Why can’t you ask him this question?
Do you text him or do you leave it all up to him
It's completely up to the people involved!
Some people want to hang out all the time, text all the time and see each other every day. But others like more space.
If you have different expectations and needs than he has, you need to acknowledge this and discover where he is.
If you're seeing each other two or three times a week, why is there such a desperate need to text him or have him text you? You two have plenty of time to talk to and be with each other.
Leave the man some breathing room, and give yourself the same.
@Djaay I just don't need to be up in somebody's girll day in and day out. I like my space and breathing room. A few times a week is enough. I have loads of other things to do.
When I'm with him, I'm there all the way. When I'm not, I'm doing what I need to do to run my own show. I don't need constant calls, texts or dates. He'll know I'm interested by how I behave when WITH him.
Doesn't mean I'm not interested. Just means I have other interests, work, errands, etc. to accomplish. I also have other people in my life, like friends and family.
Of course, this is how I operate. Some people are fine with high involvement: Seeing each other every day, texting and calling and facetiming. I am not and never have been, except when I was a moody late teen.
Absence gives you perspective and time to comtemplate a new and interesting relationship. I say, let it breathe. Otherwise, it might smother!! Good luck.
If you have to force someone into a relationship, you don't have a relationship. If he wanted to be with you, and you made that clear to him, then he would have been with you. You can't cry now that you have your relationship, just because you don't have the relationship you pictured. He has made it clear what kind of relationship it will be. You have to decide if that is enough for you.
I think you should ask how many times should they talk on the phone texting is okay, like it's convenient but it's people at work they can't really talk on the phone. Part of the problem in today's world is the communication has been limited to text for some reason. It's like a big commitment to do a phone call
Call him randomly in the evening if he never answers his phone and always has an excuse then that's a red flag. If you see each other two or three times a week to me that's a relationship and he should not have a problem you calling him any random time when he's not working
I don't see anything wrong. I met girls on dating apps where that's all they wanted to do was text all day and had no intention of meeting. Texting doesn't mean anything and wastes all yoyr time during the day. Meeting up is where the meat and potatoes is and shows they're interested. Quit worrying. I've also texted girls for 2 months before meeting only for them to not be the least bit interested after our meetup because they dreamed me up as something in their head I'm not.
If a girl and I wanted a relationship, I would want to see her as often as possible, given our schedules.
But I think texting once a day or every other day is plenty. Texting is annoying and tedious. I hate it for anything other than asking a quick question or sharing a photo. But chatting via text blows. It's not cute or charming. And texting every 5 minutes feels clingy and needy.
If anything, I would prefer to talk on the phone once a day.
Guys/Men hate texting! We prefer calls, video chats and voice notes. Make more calls to see if he shows interest, otherwise give in and move on! Seeing each other 2-3 times a week is fine depending on distance and how busy one is. If there is no excuse, then you want to be with someone you like daily! Unless you just meet for sex, then it’s not a relationship but rather friend for benefit.
2 to 3 x a week seeing each other is perfectly fine. Nobody needs to spend 24/7 together.
Regarding the texting. A lot of men are just not into texting and prefer to talk on the phone instead. My ex absolutely hated texting with a passion.
he doesn't even like talking on the phone either, so that is my problem as well
I would walk away from this guy and not look back. Sounds like he is just wasting your time. If he was interested he would make the effort to at least talk on the phone outside of the times you are spending together
It depends on the couple really.. If they really can't get enough of each other and don't wanna wait, then see each other as much as they want.. But usually they say enough to where you guys are missing each other and have things to talk about..
It does not sound like you two are on the same page. Does he know you would like more convo? How often do you text him.. it is not always up to the guy to do all the texting! I'd talk IRl to him and sort things out because it seems like your current situation is not good enough for you.
All couples are different on how much convo happens so there really is no normal. Are you sexually involved with him yet?
Seeing each other 2-3 times a week is healthy and high interest.
cut the crap out with texting… call say hi.. schedule to meet…
stop texting!!
I guess a few times a day just to see what’s up but people are busy during the day at work. Seeing each other 2 or 3 times a week is good, he probably doesn’t think it’s necessary to talk or text everyday
No one can answer that. It’s between you and him. Everyone has different expectations, likes and dislikes when it comes to relationships. You need to sit down and talk with him and explain your feelings and what kind of communication and other things you need from him
I believe that if you like someone enough, there's no reason why you wouldn't want to communicate every day. I would prefer that my partner communicates with me every day for at least an hour at the minimum.
As much as they both want. There is no secret number for each couple.
have people who can't put their phones down ever wondered if it's their phone they love and not people? how much should people talk to each other in a week sounds weird, because talking to people isn't as addictive as crack cocaine...
This is what the "devices" are doing to the Relationships these days...🤦♂️ if you don't text (you don't care), If you text too much (ohh you're all day on your phone)... either way is No Good!
Really? He is doing fine.
Enjoy the times you are together and dont put the situation under pressure with what ludicrous demands or suggestions , its when you are together that counts.
I think it's bad when you do it too much. You can really distrub each other , but to be honest I write to my boyfriend 24/7 haha 😆
As much as you like. There isn’t one formula. Just don’t bug each other or have high expectations for 24/7 texting over time.
See each other at least once a week and make sure it's a funny date. Texting is not that important. Call each other every other day to check on each other.
You see each other two or three times a week and you text every day but how long do you text when you text every day? Do you ever talk on the phone?
he never talks to me on the phone, he'll send me literally an instagram reel, so no talking substantively through phone or text just scheduling meet ups
I dont think he is shy, I think maybe he is not that into me tbh, I do need an honest answer so I dont waste my time
If this "relationship" is going to be turned into a math puzzle, then maybe you two should have a face-to-face and see what is REALLY going on.
it depend on the couple them self, becouse i used to be in a relation that we put too much effort to stay areound each other. all the time. but i dont enjoy it as much as my curent releation althogh we dont meet that often.
I never had a boyfriend text me all day daily, but one new guy I met texts me one time every 2 weeks LOL. ☹️
You're seeing each other multiple times a week and communicating at least once a day. Seems perfectly reasonable.
m As much as you both agree and are happy with, however always chat more in real when you can.
Texting at least a few dozen messages back and forth on a daily basis is what I would expect.
text 1 or 2 minutes daily. meet 2 or 3 is perfect dont dump him.
I would say a lot more than once every 2 days unless he works in a job where he cannot look at his phone for some reason.
Never, they should talk to each other.
Nah, it's normal. Maybe he's not a big texter.
Usually/typically though, new couples should text hundreds of times a week & see each other 4 or 5 times a week.
I would say, meeting up min 3 days per week. And texting should be everyday. I have attachments issue, so yeah
Text? Every few hours if there is something to inform.
See each other 2-3 times per week.
As much as it's needed n long as it doesn't put either of them in undue pressure
However much they want to, do what works for y'all.
text: once or twice a day to see how the day went and/or say good night. See each other once or twice a week: implied date Sat night.
Every day all times of day. Every time you get a chance. It should be priority. Not my words, my parents.
Text? Meh. See? As much as possible. I feel bad for someone in a fresh relationship that only fucks 2-3 a week.
Should text several times daily and seeveach other once a week.
Never give a guy an ultimatum, that is wrong
Almost never. The more time you spend with someone the more vulnerable you are.
An hour a day for texting. One or two dates per week depending on their schedule.
Depends on their relationship! Each person and couple is different with different dynamics.
You are overthinking this,
At least once a day let each other know we still thinking of each other.
Depends on their schedules.
Once a week is more than enough.
I have never been in a relationship
Hell I'd text her daily ♀️♀️♀️✋🏻
when they have time to do so.
more context? cuz for now it sounds ok
Text not at all. See each a lot daily.
No... follow your heart , not your calender.
As much as they want to
I usually see how much we both want it.
As much as they feel necessary.
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