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[Anonymous]

My story is that an online relationship I was involved in - with a really really sweet guy. 4 years younger than me but we were intellectually equals and respected each other. Met on GaG actually lol. Anyway... it was probably the best relationship I've been in eventhough it was online and 6hr time difference. We both put in a lot of effort in the relationship... long messages and voice notes throughout the day that the other person would listen to/respond at their own time. Voice calls that would last all night and we'd try to keep it going so we can "sleep" together. We had arguments like normal couples and never seemed to hide anything, open about jealousy and helped each other through it. We resolved the arguments with respect but he felt I was trying to change him and seemed to resent me for it, and I was just worried for his health (family history of fatty liver and he was heavy drinking on weekends eventhough he told me he doesn't like to drink, and hanging out with two horn dogs at clubs so I was worried about cheating). He did try tho... and actually succeeded in quitting drinking long agter we broke up (i found out later).
I loved the respect we had, we never put each other down, had study sessions together, supported each other, he really helped me understand tenderness.

GaG is saying its too long so more in the comments

[SueShe]

A G@G romance is not something that is going to last for very long because people here never show their true identity, character and personality. That is why you will find so many spammers and trolls that hide behind their accounts.

Now, being in a long distance relationship, you realized that this impossible relationship was not going to last a lifetime.

It is one thing to video chat, text but that is a totally different one to see the person in real life, to see the body language, the facial expressions. All that is not something you can have on video calls.

Also, him being a guy and most likely ruled by his testosterone, I have my doubts that he did not try at least to flirt with other girls and that is emotional cheating. A red flag and something that is impossible to control in a long distance relationship.

[Asker]

Impossible to control in any relationship tbh

[SueShe]

and that is exactly why I don't want to be in relationship. Trust is no longer possible nowadays. Too many traps to fall in.

[Abbycado]

That’s a relationship to you? Alright, fair enough. Sounds more like a friendship.

In my opinion, you can’t date if you don’t see each other, but that’s just me. To each is their own.

[Asker]

Youve never done ldr then

[Abbycado]

No. Never would either. That’s not a real relationship in my opinion.

[Asker]

I never thought I would at 19 either lol

[Abbycado]

Wtf does that even mean? XD

[Asker]

Just that life doesn't always work out as you plan it xD
Stay opiniated and stick to your values tho! Makes them want you more lmao

[LionBrasa]

If he is with another woman, then it's time to move on, I'm sure you will find someone nice, stay calm.

[Asker]

Ahaha yeah, I need to respect his girlfriend for sure. Which is why I haven't told him how I've been feeling.

Thank you for the reminder, I do hope I find someone nice ❤️ just sort of hard to come to terms with it when i feel like it wasn't my choice to leave. But it is what it is...

[LionBrasa]

I know it's difficult, but I've been through something similar, if I could get through it, you can too.

[Asker]

Sigh, its been 5 years and I feel like it hasn't gotten easier 😅😂 but im sure it'll pass. I think i just love intensely its hard to move on fast, compared to others... im quite slow with getting over someone.

[LionBrasa]

When you meet someone else this process becomes faster.

[Asker]

Mmm hopefully

[Avicenna]

It's really only a relationship if you spend time together in person

[Asker]

Well you come from a generation where it was just that... but so many of my generation are finding partners online lol

[AI Opinion]

Wow, what a rollercoaster of emotions, and all from the comfort of your screens! 🌍💌 Online relationships can be beautifully intense and complex, as yours clearly was. It's a testament to the power of connection beyond physical boundaries. The whole mix sounds like a virtual love story with its fair share of happy and bittersweet moments. Those late-night "sleepovers" sound both adorable and exhausting! 😂 Your concern for his health and the jealousy issues are super relatable in an online romance, sprinkled with a dash of real-life worry. You both experienced growth, even after parting ways, which is a beautiful takeaway. Keep cherishing those memories amidst the potential red flags. Love has unique ways of crafting our paths, right? ❤️

[Asker]

Ugh replying on here because there's nowhere else to stay anonymous in the posting... first post while being back here.

It ended due to a third party involvement - family not a cheater lol. But still obviously care for them and always have... and always will I think. The family member was quite abusive, both emotionally and physically. They found out and threatened that I need to end the relationship and go no contact or they will ruin my life (they already did with abuse). After 2 years... I finally had the courage to reach out to them and tell them my side of the story and gain closure for both of us. I hated i went no contact and felt so ashamed/guilty. They have a girlfriend now (didn't expect anything less) but it completely broke my heart. My heart literally hurt... I've never felt that way about a man before.

I had more but f**** it... GaG made my comment disappear (I'm on my phone lol)