Why do women leave good value men and then settle with men who are less value?

[Anonymous]

Why do women leave good men who has their shit together, then settle less with someone who is less value? Like in some cases, she'll leave a good husband over assholes, bad boys, gets remarried with 2 bisexual men, and etc

[PrincessC16]

Oh how we live and we learn
I read somewhere today that women's need to feel safe is so strong that they will choose bad boys. I ruined my marriage because of the same thing, kinda. I believe it's because my self esteem was so low. See there's this little thing called self sabotage and it's something we can do to ourselves when we don't love ourselves or think we are worthy of a good guy.

[PrincessC16]

Aren't

[Asker]

From what you subscribed. That's what my ex-girlfriend did. She has low self-esteem issues and infidelity issues. After the relationship, I found she has lied to me quite a bit. She monkey-branching me was letting me know it's over.

[Asker]

Her monkey-branched me*

[D_Bone_Steak]

Monkey branching is a real thing... glad you figured out what was really going on. And I'm sorry you had to go through that.

[Asker]

She didn't confront me about any problems or feeling infidelity or wanted to break up with me. She just went ahead and monkey-branched me to her now fucking fiance and leave me with all sorts of problems. Confused, betrayed, angry and etc.

[DishLady]

That doesn’t usually track IF the high value guy reciprocates her feelings and dedication to him. It’s when he starts playing the field bc he thinks SO MUCH of himself that he disrespects her and she ends up thinking he was somehow “out of her league” which then prompts the search for a guy who is lower down on the value chart.

[Asker]

Women 1: dump me for a australian billionaire and have 5 kids with him

Women 2: dump me for 20 year old stud

Women 3: dated me, then ran off and married 2 bisexual men, and she said having sex with 2 penises is better than 1 penis

Women 4: wanted friends with benefits with me, but her ex-husband rekindled and remarried with her

Women 5: liked me, but then she started chasing men 18 - 24, and she now prefers seeing men who are 18 - 24

The list goes on 🫠

[D_Bone_Steak]

The butterflies in their stomach. I learned early that simping for a chick gets no respect but calling them a bitch with make her want to suck my dick. One brings no drama and I bring drama and women love drama.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Most girls want to be with the guy they had kids with, as is this girl that was into me, until she said she got back with her ex she had her kids with.

I said "fuck off" to her, and that was it

[Asker]

A similar situation has happened to me, I had women who went back to their ex-partners and had more babies with.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Yeah, they're usually just in denial, when they say they "want someone else", but honestly, they never really get over the guy they had kids with

Just like strippers never really get out of that world

[Asker]

I had a 50 year old lady who wanted friends with benefits, but her ex-husband is lingering in the picture, then he rekindle her love and their relationship and remarried. I had quite a bit of ladies around my age who liked me, but they started chasing men who were 18 - 24 and got busy with them

[Asker]

Women are horrible these days

[GAGsucksballs89170]

You can't really trust them these days

[Asker]

Oh Fuck no, i was dating a really nice lady until she ran off and married 2 bisexual men. 2 dicks are better then one dick 🫠🫠

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Never

[Asker]

That's what she said to me, I wish her fucking luck

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Two dicks aren't better, just remember that

[Asker]

Agreed

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic "nice guy vs. bad boy" conundrum! 😏 People love a little unpredictability and excitement, which "bad boys" often provide. Security is great, but sometimes it doesn’t get the heart racing. Plus, personal chemistry often trumps everything else. Women can redefine what ‘value’ means for them based on personal growth or attraction. Always remember, what's valuable can be pretty subjective! ❤️

[Screenwriter]

This isn't just about women. Men do the same thing. Gay, straight, trans, bi and other wise.

People leave good partners and choose miserable ones because they're emotionally bereft and damaged. They don't know how to enjoy a good, happy relationship because they've been raised in chaotic, dysfunctional homes.

There's nothing you can do for people who seek misery, except to move on and find someone you can find a good life and joy with.

[Asker]

Dating is like walking on Neverending Minefields

[Screenwriter]

It's not THAT bad, but you do need to feel people out and take your time getting to know them. Over time, people reveal who they are. Listen to their verbal evaluations of themselves. I've found that people tell you exactly who they are. Hear what they say and file it. It usually will come to pass, even if you don't see that version you're hearing immediately.

[Asker]

WRONG! It's very bad out there! I had someone demand a weekly allowance from me before that I got rejected because I like Star Trek. Then someone else rejected me from not being over 6"1. Again, it's a minefield!

[Asker]

I'm not rich, sorry

[Screenwriter]

Where are you meeting these people? Intros from friends? From mutual interests like at Meetups?
The instances you're giving me sound like people who are completely off the chain. Weekly allowance, rejected because you like Star Trek, you need to be taller than 6'1"... Those are CRAZY things from crazy people.

[Screenwriter]

It might be how and where you are meeting people. Meetups are good places because you are usually doing something you like, such as softball, or volleyball, or sailing or such. And you get to know them over time sharing an interest.

[Asker]

Same places where people meet people. Endless... Mine... field...

[IslaTheWitch]

it depends on how synced dictionaries you have... what you see as a "good value man" for her can be not so good... :D

[HungTexan]

Sounds like you’ve had bad experiences, and you’re bitter. All women are NOT liars, and I think you need to look yourself in the mirror and think about what you’re looking for in a relationship. The right woman can make all the difference.

[Asker]

I'm no longer in the market. It's too brutal, too much drama. All my ex-girlfriends are all engaged and all about to get married. If i get another girlfriend, then the process repeats itself again. Not interested. I'm only looking for friendships. Nothing more anymore

[Asker]

I did have someone who wanted to date me, but I told her I'm not interested. If she dated me, then her ex-husband might try to rekindle the relationship, and the love then remarry her. I'm not taking that fucking chances again lol

[afnan169]

Masculine polarity is MORE important than what society preaches as good value.
Don't forget the dominance she craves in bed😁

[Asker]

I have had few women choosing guys who looks like dwayne johnson, aka the final boss, the rock 😂

[slatyb]

Because that's what they think they deserve. They have low self-esteem and expect that better men will leave them.

[Hobobobo]

Value in this context is subjective. Please rephrase the question to make sense in light of this.

[Anonymous]

it's funny how so many women claim to want a traditional man only to screw him over in divorce courts while the asshole ex or baby daddy gets the best version of her

[Anonymous]

They might see themselves as "good value", but in reality be less than.

[PsychicBoobs]

Because men see the world differently than woman.

[Asker]

Yep.

[Anonymous]

We should not generalize this. We can think the same about men. Since men with good values can become boring after a while, women may get bored and show interest in men with less values.

[Asker]

My thoughts exactly, especially when they have low self-esteem

[Wayneg89]

Some women just like the chase. If you make yourself too readily available it's a turn-off to some women. Also sometimes people just suck. That's just part of life we all have to deal with.

[Brendan824]

If there's no spark doesn't really matter all that much

[KittygosMeoWW]

Who? Where are the statistics lmao did your wife leave you?

[Manuelwe]

If he is violent and control freak then leave she must

[Lliam]

"Always"? LMAO

[Pet68]

They don't. What are you talking about?

[Asker]

Yes, they do. There was a very nice woman I'd dated, but one day, she ran off and married 2 bisexual men. 2 dicks are better then one dick plus the gay community is on their side. There was no chance on winning her back.

[Pet68]

That's ONE single woman! Geeeez!

[Anonymous]

Because many women are naive and gullible.

[Asker]

Agreed, if there is unlimited food and money on the table, then she's all in 🤷‍♂️