Hollywood loves a hypergamous heroine. Take, for example, Vivian Ward, Carrie Bradshaw, and, most recently, Daphne Bridgerton. But it's not just adult fare—scores of Disney movies sold the idea to a whole generation of young women that their happy endings were contingent upon wooing and wedding not just any man, but a man of higher social and monetary value.
But even as society has become more egalitarian, with women rejecting the antiquated ideals of previous generations, outnumbering their male counterparts on college campuses and in convocation halls, and leaning into everything from side hustles to C-suites, many single ladies still desire a hypergamous pairing.
In fact, even as women earn more university degrees than men, they are still 93-percent more likely to marry men with higher incomes, according to a 2016 study conducted by the University of British Columbia. And though higher incomes don't necessarily equate to a higher social class, financial security is one of the main drivers of female hypergamy
Better question, why WOULDN’T I want a man who is financially stable?
There is enough resources available for education. I would like a partner who is financially stable. Anyone who says money does not matter in a long term relationship has not thought things through. Love is not going to pay the bills, money is. At the same time, I’m not a golddigger. I would split my share and pay my part of the rent and do my share of the household work, but why would anyone want to marry an aimless slacker who has no goals or passion in his life?
I would get into a relationship with a man who is in a low paying job, as long as he is passionate about it, or if he’s working hard to achieve his goal/passion. I would like my man to be ambitious.
Also, I would like to have kids when I get married. . . Doesn’t money play a huge role in raising a kid? Wouldn’t I need money for school fees, diapers, and blah blah blah?
Get a grip, most college graduates are working the same jobs as people who didn't go to college.. only difference is that the college people are buried in dept.
@FýrdracaDócincel I’m not twisting your words at all.
You seem very sensitive about this subject. Why are you starting fights with everyone who does not share opinions as you?
If I’m not mistaken, you said and I quote:
“Get a grip, most college graduates are working the same jobs as people who didn't go to college.“
I did not know that college was not a pre requisite to become a doctor or a lawyer. Of course I’m not saying that only doctors or lawyers are intelligent. Many brainy people such as bill gates were certainly college dropouts. Also, where in my INITIAL opinion did I mention anything about college? I was merely talking about financial stability.
@FýrdracaDócincel you refuse to use the two brain cells that you have.
I did not write a wall of words. See, you cannot defend your own argument. What the fuck are you even doing here? Go back to your therapist and whine all day, man-child.
You do need a college degree to get a job, unless you’re starting your own business. You’re entitled to your opinion as I am to mine. Do feel free to throw insults at me all day long, because at the end of the day, you’re the butthurt one, not me.
I read in an article that for woman, intelligence is not just useful but also sexy, in the same way that men find woman with fit bodies sexy, woman are actually attracted to big money makers from the heart because social and professional skills are as appealing for woman as beauty and body is for men.
The answer is simple biology, based on the innate desire that we all have to reproduce.
Women have a limited number of eggs and must use them wisely. Therefore, they are looking for a partner that can produce a healthy child and take care of her and the child. Hence, she looks for a "higher value" man.
Men, on the other hand, have unlimited sperm, and don't need to be so selective. If one woman doesn't work, go impregnate another.
We don't think if thus consciously, and we may not want long term relationships and kids, but the underlying biology us always there.
You realize that Daphne Bridgerton loved him for him right? At first even if he had high status and wealth she didn't gave two cents for him. She loved him as she got to know him. Women are more likely to marry men who make more for the simple reason that on average men tent to chose higher paying jobs. In fact today in 1/3 of relationships the woman makes more money. There will always be gold diggers. There will always be women attracted by money. Just like there will always be women who want to be the breadwinners and the ones who don't care about what you make.
Logic error: "... with women rejecting the antiquated ideals of previous generations..."
"... many single ladies still desire a hypergamous pairing."
In general you may be right but in regards to dating both cannot be true. Women do not reject "antiquated ideals of previous generations" because they currently "desire a hypergamous pairing."
The reason this may appear this way is because men of sufficient quality have never been more rare in recent history. So most women cannot accomplish what they seek and thus they settle one way or another to give the appearance of egalitarian relationships which nobody generally wants regardless if they say they want it or not.
Well, there is a significant number of men in skilled trades or law enforcement/military who make more money than most female college graduates. And there are some women who are with men who make less than them.
And being "high value", i. e., desirable, is multidimensional. It usually includes his personality, character, and physical condition as well.
Because I want to start a family and settle down and have no more time for fuck boys or dudes who want sex before the relationship can start. Because I know after we have sex they will be full of Bull and not start a relationship with me like they said. They’ll claim they need to have sex first but it’s really just because they need their dick satisfied. so yeah I won’t have sex early in a relationship. It destroys connection. Hence I seek a higher value man who will wait a bit
That's not hypergamy. Hypergamy is only considering men who are wealthier and/or of higher social status. What you are talking about is finding a man who shares your morality, which I applaud.
@FýrdracaDócincel I don’t need to apologize for not wanting to have physical affection with a guy who doesn’t deserve it and is a douchebag Such as yourself.
Losers always think someone else owes them something just because they are a loser. It doesn't matter if they have a penis or vagina. You got Black men screaming about reparations. You have women screaming about “security”. It’s just an admission that they can’t hack it in life and want to be a freeloader.
It's not only Hollywood, women are hypergamous. Women sleep around when they are younger and then want to settle with a provider after the '30s. I have some girl friends who also acknowledge this stuff and publicly tell good guys are after 30. But not all of them will get it and then you will hear "where are the good men", something you can almost never young from a young one. However not all high-value men will date aged women as men don't care much about that stuff. It's all about supply and demand.
@Ninaface Yes true, but unlike women, most men cannot find girls to sleep around with when they are young and have fewer resources. The question is about hypergamy, men aren't hypergamous, men are polygamous. In dating, women have limitless power but men hold the key to making a relationship last longer. But when you think about the whole cost-effectiveness, dating and getting sex is way more rewarding than relationships.
I think its more inbuilt to the human DNA to dream and want to have the best, be on top of the world. Many women like succesful men just like many many men like the prettiest of women. Who abd what people settle with ir for is another matter of its own.
I can't see a problem with that. I'd expect a partner to be on a similar or better social and financial footing. In this day and age there's no excuse to not get an education or training.
Student loans is a very good reason not to get an education (by that I mean advanced degrees). Sure it puts you in a position to make a lot of money in the future but it can also put you a couple hundred thousand in debt. And unless make a lot early on you could find yourself chained to that debt for 20 years. I still think it's better to have a good education than not to. But if you look at things from this angle there are better investments.
@purplepoppy What if the guy was slightly less intelligent than you? Would it be fun to teach him all that smart stuff that British girls do, like how to be more polite? Why Stonehenge was built? That kind of stuff?
@FýrdracaDócincel Born successful? I don’t even understand what you mean. Formal education doesn’t equal success but you do need to train yourself one way or the other and that is what is meant I believe. You seem especially sensitive on this point and I wonder why.
Women seek higher value men as that is part of giving their young the best chance possible. A higher value father can greatly increase the success of the children and therefor their DNA. Nature is brutal and a higher value male increases success for offspring and in life. It’s a bitter pill if you aren’t a higher value man but one can increase their value no matter what their current situation… but that takes effort.
There is no such thing as love in Communism. It's all about money and ones self. Not about someone else.
Some women are looking for the fake life with a fake marriage to some guy with money. It's a fraudulent life filled with lies. They are also the most likely ones to cheat in their marriage. They know better than anyone their marriage is a complete fraud. So They don't think twice about being with another guy. They might whisper love into a guys ear. But, Love is not in their heart.
For one thing, a lot of guys have a problem with dating a woman who makes more than him and has a better career than him. I have been turned down by several guys for that reason.
That's not really true. There are plenty of ethical, kind, hard working men who are not wealthy. To reach the top of any profession requires a high degree of confidence, to the point of arrogance, and single mindedness, to the point of selfishness.
@Subarugirl what I mean is, the majority of "men" here are kids and incels. I don't think GAG or social media in general is a good representation of all men.
Do you genuinely believe that? That all women want to marry a rich high status man because on the back of their minds they are thinking they can falsely accuse him if they want?
Well I’ve been falsely accused before. And I’ve found that I’m not the only one who has been. I believe that women falsely accuse men for many reasons if it benefits them in the long run.
