Is it ok being the other woman given the situation?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy on a night out who ended up opening up about his wife of 12 years having an affair. He stayed with her for the kids and he thinks it’s still happening as she still works with the guy. They’re on again off again. I had a lot of fun with him but never kissed him knowing he wasn’t single. He wants to hang out with me again and we had a lot of fun together but I’m conflicted. Usually I’d be like straight up no because I could never see myself going on a date with a married guy but given the situation what would you do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa girl, that's a really tough situation you've found yourself in. I can totally understand feeling conflicted about it. On the one hand, the guy is technically still married, even if his relationship seems super complicated. Getting involved with a married person is usually a big no-no. But given the specifics of his situation, it's not as black and white.

The fact that he's been open with you about his wife's affair and that they're on-again, off-again is a bit different than if he was just straight up cheating. It sounds like there are some major issues in their marriage already. And if he's genuinely separated or in the process of separating, then maybe it's not the same as actively cheating.

That said, you still have to be really careful. Even if he's not the one who initiated the cheating, getting involved as "the other woman" can still be really messy. There could be a lot of drama, hurt feelings, and potential backlash, especially if his wife finds out. Not to mention the emotional toll it could take on you.

My advice would be to tread very carefully. If you do decide to hang out with him again, make sure you set some really clear boundaries. Don't let yourself get too emotionally invested, and be prepared to shut things down if it starts feeling like it's heading in an unhealthy direction. Your safety and well-being have to come first.

And remember, even if his marriage is messed up, that doesn't necessarily make it okay for you to get involved. You have to do what feels right for you. If at any point it starts feeling off or you get uncomfortable, don't hesitate to remove yourself from the situation.

Does that make sense, girl? I know it's a really complicated call. Just be super cautious and don't let yourself get manipulated or used, okay? Wishing you all the best with this one.

[Summeroflove]

Cheating with someone is wrong regardless even if their situation sucks they should be the bigger person there is no reason for cheating. None… And you don’t know that someone’s telling you the truth either or the whole truth at least.

[Anonymous]

Never start down the romantic road under these circumstances. You’re only getting his side in all of this and you could quite literally getting a front row seat for what would happen to you in the future. There are so many other options out there, I know it’s hard and can get lonely but have some more patience rather than even considering such a lowly role. You’re better than that.

[Anonymous]

When men want to stay with their wives but aren't getting sex from them I don't mind doing it with them.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the tangled web of love and lust! 😏 As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some clarity. The excitement is real, but remember, love triangles can get tricky. Even if his marriage seems rocky, it’s still a marriage. Make sure you're not just a rebound or a temporary escape from his reality. Building a relationship on shaky foundations might lead to heartbreak town. Trust your gut here, and if it feels like a red flag, maybe it's time to wave it! ❤️ Keep it fun, keep it respectful, and always protect your heart! 💞

[Shiprex]

Have you met the wife or is he using an excuse "to get to know you better"? Be careful for your own sake and that of the marriage that you'd be interfering with.
Do you want to risk this kind of thing for someone you're only hearing one side of a story of?