I have been long distance friends with my partner a long before anything, in early 2018. I have always had a crush on him. At the time I was 17, and did lie about my age. I understand this is bad no need for lectures. Apparently mid 2018 he had gotten tinder and befriended this girl, let’s call her A. He was completely allowed to do this as he had no ties to me in that manner, this is news I found out from a mutual friend today. Then around mid 2019 once I turned 18, I took a step further and we became friends with benefits. Then romantic. Around late August/September 2019, he completely cuts me off without reason. Today I know it’s because he started a relationship with A.
Then around late February 2020, he returns and explains he wanted to work on himself and apologized for completely blindsiding me. I accepted his apology. Around mid March 2020 he asks me to be his girlfriend and admits to me that he has feelings, I agree to date. We spent 24/7 on the phone, all day but weekends, I didn’t think it was unusual because I can handle time away from him regardless. During one of these phone calls, back in 2020, he mentions a past relationship with a girl who I now assume was A, that he wasn’t happy in. That it was sexless, and they lacked chemistry and he cheated, but he still stuck it out because he felt bad and still cared about her in a way. Took that with a grain of salt.
Well, today I figured out he was spending every weekend with A, while being in a relationship with me and kept me a secret until those two officially broke up in early July 2022. But in March 2022 him and I were planning a trip to see each other. Then while this happens, after September 2022 he had been hooking up with A’s friend and officially cut things off a few weeks before we met for the first time in December 2022 and his demeanor the entirety of our two weeks was weird. He was so loving and fun but he kept zoning out and looking teary eyed around me? The air was so heavy.
