•Does not want to raise a family -I want to have children/raise a family. This is very important to me.
•Sexual past doesn’t sit well with me -If I learn/discover some stuff I don’t like here then she’s out.
•She doesn’t like animals -Nuff said.
•Smokes and drinks a lot -It’s gross and toxic for you and your mind. All sorts of bad here that I don’t need to explain
•She doesn’t want to comprise on anything -Everyone sacrifices or comprises something in every relationship. Its a sign of mutual trust and betterment. If she’s unwilling to do this, I’m out 100%
•Flirts with other men or accepts men’s advances -Why would I waste my time with a woman like this? Makes no sense to me.
•Has too many “men friends” and wants to hangout with them without you. -Yeah, very sus to me. I’d question this, but I doubt the answer would be reasonable.
•Hates kids -Nuff said
There’s probably more I can think of.
What are some things that you’d break up with a woman for upon discovering them during a relationship?
Doesn’t want kids - or wants to wait 10+ years to have them, leaving me at near mid 30s.
Drinks heavily or smokes - I’m not a fan when people drink heavily and get drunk. Majority of guys end up acting dumb or incredibly rude and abusive. Smoking just sticks so bad and I can’t breath so smoking is the biggest no for me.
Talks down on women -saying how women are the dumbest, men who are sexist, men who blame women for EVERYTHING and victimise men as if there aren’t men out there who treat women like utter shit.
Men who can’t apologise and don’t take your feelings seriously. -men who do or say anything and don’t think about how you may feel and then won’t take responsibility for their ways or even men who say your feelings are your fault even when they caused you to upset with their words/actions.
Men who talk down your ex or talks about their ex all the time -hate when a guy randomly brings up an ex of mine and talks so bad about my ex. I don’t have contact with any ex of mine nor do I like any of them like that but I don’t sit here bringing them up randomly and talking and about them. It’s so awkward. Let the past be the past. Guys bring up my ex’s more than me as if they miss them. L Guys bringing up and talking about their ex all the time is so weird too. Talking about their sex life and how shit felt😭🤚🏼 Just no
1. Transgender (male). I'm not gay, which means I'm not attracted to anyone who isn't a heterosexual monogamous female.
2. Bisexual/queer (she's a lesbian). If I found out I was dating a queer female this whole time, I'd be furious. That's as bad, if not worse, as finding out she's been cheating on me. She very likely HAS been cheating on me, and with a female, no less. If she's a queer, why on Earth would I want her? She would not be attracted to me, or men as a whole, despite what BS they'd try to con me with.
3. Abusive in any way, physical or verbally. This won't be tolerated whatsoever; not even red flags or warning signs of it will be tolerated.
4. Cheating/polyamorous/unfaithful. Self-explanatory. I don't give second chances to that. Not only to being an adulterer, but dressing/acting promiscuous, too. I don't want a slut OR a girl who acts like one.
5. They're feminist/woke/far-left. No man-hating, bitter, negative, angry, complaining women should be tolerated.
6. Promotes lewd content of herself online, including and especially OnlyFans. These women are unfaithful, selfish, make poor life choices, and can’t ever be trusted.
7. Has “preferred pronouns,” or uses terms like “genderfluid,” “non-binary,” etc. These people are mentally ill narcissists and psychopaths. I won’t be tolerating their nonsense.
8. She's committed a major felony or something equally unethical. She's murdered someone before (no, "abortion" doesn't count), or has falsely accused a man of rape, or has killed an animal just for fun, or something else about her one could describe as "evil."
I don't get involved with a girl too far if she doesn't want kids, or if her sexual past is a bit too colorful for me.
Most of the things I could find out further into a relationship would be how she handles conflict/ jealousy, both of which need to be tackled in a calm and rational manner.
Lastly, as I'll initially screen a girl for her sexual past, many/ most will lie/ omit things, which will invariably come out (if she doesn't give herself away, her friends will). If her number is higher than 3 I won't even deal with her seriously. If she's been with a black guy, had sex with two guys in the same day/ or same time, had a threesome, if she's had a one nigh stand, or if she's had a friends with benefits (sex with someone out of a committed relationship) then she's out. Also if I hear that she's done something with them that she hasn't/ wouldn't try with me- she's out. Any abortion- she's out If she's been pregnant at all before- she's out.
I’d reject a guy if his previous relationships ended for unnecessary reasons or if he was motivated by the wrong things when he approached me - also if he only cares about physical care like fixing a car or cooking half the meals but ignores emotional care like attending funerals of people I value or giving me a chance to vent if I’ve had a bad day.
1.) Is not open to having kids 2.) Has an OnlyFans page or a lot of social media 3.) Can't take accountability and admit when she is wrong or fucks up. 4.) Actions don't align with her words. 5.) No loyalty 6.) Doesn't have a good relationship with family or good friends 7.) Has only male friends 8.) Druggie 9.) Manipulation 10.) Lying 11.) No ambition 12.) Lazy 13.) No goals 14.) Poor communication 15.) Not affectionate 16.) Flirtatious and receptive to flirting from other men 17.) Cheating 18.) Financially irresponsible
Her having an OnlyFans/Fansly/Fan house and charging for DMs or anything similar to that.
Paywalling basic social interaction will never sit right with me, no matter who does it. I am a firm believer that social interaction should always be free no matter what. If a woman doesn't want to talk to me, that's fine, I will leave. I have no major gripes, but just feel a little disappointed when a woman I like doesn't want to talk to me. But at the end of the day, it's her choice, so nothing I can do about it. What grinds my gears is when she charges men just for them to talk to her. If she charges for social interaction, she doesn't see us men as human beings but instead, she only sees us as ATMs and that our mental health does not matter in the slightest on the sole basis of us being men. That I can never forgive. If I had a girlfriend and I found out she charged for social interaction, I would leave her immediately.
- she wants kids - she hates animals - she avoids confrontation (esp with me) instead of managing it - she complains without trying solutions - she has toxic views on gender or sexuality - she has poor communication skills - she cheated on other past partners - she is unemployed (if I met her unemployed but she is honest about it is ok - if she lied and revealed it later, not ok)
Doesn't want a family, doesn't have a compatible view on raising kids.
Cheating
Something tells me that I was wrong about what her core values are.
It's hard to say because I want someone who knows we're both going to change and grow over time and looks forward to it. If you have flaws, we'll so does everyone.
I’ve been hated by my ex’s fam before. So, if a guys family hate me I won’t even try. Cause the stress it creates for both of us. He loves them so can’t exactly avoid them when we are together, but also having to put myself in uncomfortable situations. Nope, I’m out.
- constantly needs to talk about exes and women they find attractive - drinks outside of social situations- talks about feminism except their version is more male privilege ie gives women more work to do while men sit on their ass- weird diet habits- unwilling to compromise- brutally honest- doesn't take no for an answer
When I was single, I'd have broken up with a woman if I found out she was in a relationship already or if she wouldn't wait until after getting married to have sex. Or if she didn't want to get married.
I would never break up with anyone because of deal-breakers, because I vet people ahead of time at the very beginning so I don't have to. I don't even start a relationship with someone if they're not what I'm looking for.
I'd break up if she was compromising herself for me. She needs to be free and happy in a relationship, and if she can't be that without compromise, then we're just not a match.
