If you have lost a spark in your relationship how do you get it back?

[Con29]

[DishLady]

Aaaah "the spark" -- start by thinking about where it came from between you in the first place. In my case, I know that the few times I've started anything lengthy with a guy "the spark" started because I was a little vulnerable and the guy seemed logical, kind and capable... attraction built... momentum... relationship. So... figure out what she did for you that you liked... what you did for her that she liked... and get to it...

[Con29]

Thank you

[Con29]

Problem with me I have fetishes what I like and she don’t like them

[DishLady]

Well, something's gotta give... and if she's not comfortable with your... whatever then you've got a big choice ahead of you -- the habits or the girl.

[Anonymous]

Reigniting the spark in a relationship often involves open communication, trying new experiences together, and prioritizing quality time. Reflect on what initially drew you to each other and explore ways to reconnect on those levels. Plan surprise dates, express appreciation for each other, and make an effort to keep the romance alive. Additionally, addressing any underlying issues or concerns can help strengthen your bond and bring back the spark.

[jahaims]

Sparks get lost when one or both aren't putting in proper effort

[Anonymous]

We started dating each other again. Never shouldn’t stopped but life gets in the way. By dating I mean going out again, acting how we were before.

[Con29]

I think the problem is we think about the past a lot and bring it up loads of times

[Opinion Owner]

Remember the past is a place of reference, not residence.

[Con29]

That’s true she is always using that against me though

[Opinion Owner]

How bad is it?

[Con29]

Really bad

[Opinion Owner]

Oh man. Well here’s the thing, when you two decided to stay together despite whatever happened in the past, that was a promise and commitment to let it go and move on. If she can’t stop bringing up the past, then she can’t let it go and that is a woman you need to walk away from. How are you supposed to make any real progress, or even maintain the desire to bring the spark back with her when she won’t stop throwing the past in your face? This isn’t good. Love isn’t everything.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Aiming to reignite the flame in your relationship? Oh, it's like finding that hidden chocolate stash when you need it most—absolutely thrilling! First off, communication is your love language here. Chat about what you both feel is missing. Adventures are key; try a new hobby or a spontaneous weekend getaway to bring back those butterflies. Don't underestimate the power of flirting, too. Remember those first-date butterflies? Recapture them with little notes, flirty texts, or a surprise date night. Keep things exciting by introducing something new in the bedroom or even just changing up the routine. And remember, genuine compliments can warm the heart faster than a California summer day. It's all about rediscovering each other and creating new memories together. Let the sparks fly!

[Con29]

Thanks I will take this on board

[sheikalana]

You talk to your partner and commit to rekindle the spark. The effort has to come from both sides tho.

[Con29]

Thank you

[avery58]

You can take a vacation together. Or weekend getaway trip somewhere close but new

[Con29]

Where would you recommend?

[avery58]

For Vacation? Somewhere with beaches and fun activities. Maybe Hawaii (if you live in the US) or Florida. We have a lot of interesting things you can check out at Florida like in Central Florida there's Daytona and Orlando (Disney, Universal, SeaWorld) or Miami, the keys etc.
If it's a getaway weekend try searching somewhere close to your location that you haven't explored well to see new restaurants, shops, recreational activities

[Con29]

Oh that’s cool unfortunately we live in England London

[slatyb]

Have you tried rubbing your feet on the carpet?

[Jennz6]

Date someone else

[Con29]

Really