How do you get the spark back in a relationship? How do you rekindle it?

[blunty]

I just want to see your relationship dynamics :)

[nurse]

It's like trying to get a campfire roaring again after it's simmered down to embers. Here are a few things that have worked for me and others I know:

Reminisce About the Good Times: Sometimes, taking a trip down memory lane can remind you both why you fell for each other in the first place.

Try New Things Together: Routine can be a romance killer.

Communication: This can’t be stressed enough. Sometimes the spark dims because we're not really sharing our thoughts, feelings, or desires.

Little Acts of Love: Don't underestimate the power of small, everyday gestures. A surprise note, a random hug, doing a chore your partner dislikes, or even just a heartfelt compliment can go a long way.

Dedicate Quality Time: In our busy lives, we sometimes forget to just be with each other. Setting aside regular times for dates or even just undistracted conversations can help reconnect you on a deeper level.

Physical Intimacy: It’s not just about the bedroom (though that's important too!). Physical touch, like holding hands, cuddling, or a spontaneous kiss, can rekindle physical closeness and emotional bonds.

Seek Outside Help if Needed: Sometimes, an objective third party like a couples therapist can offer invaluable insights and tools for rekindling the spark.

And lastly, it's worth remembering that it's totally normal for relationships to have phases where the spark feels a bit dimmer. The key is putting in the effort to fan those flames again! 🔥

[RavVid]

In a long term relationship it doesn't matter so much if there is no sex tonight because there is always tomorrow night. I am going to give a guy side because I'm a guy.

Originally you were our sex object and we really want you to stay that way. We have seen you naked a lot by now so nudity doesn't work like it used to. Originally you were flirtatious so I think reawaken that side of you with him. You probably know he likes you in certain types of clothing so you could dress for him.

Give him a license. you like being caressed, we like having a feel and a grope. No is a bad word unless it is playful. Enough No's and I don't feel like it's converts you into a sister and destroys you as our sex object. It can make it easier to masturbate in the morning shower over a girl in the office instead of campaigning for sex with you.

Playful No's are entirely different and are more like you'll get your way with a bit more insistence.

A friend of mine found that if he made the running with his wife for a week then backed off she be like "what?" and start making the running instead. That dynamic worked for them.

Chandeliers don't work. Nor will sexy nurse outfits unless you do organically want to vamp as a sexy nurse. I think there always must be a genuine aspect in what you do otherwise you are telling your partner how to react. Like "I put on a sexy nurse outfit and you get really excited and take me against the wall". Telling your partner how to react is action oriented and isn't going to work well. Sex is emotional. Telling him you have to take a sperm sample is going to work.

I suspect that in rekindling girls are wanting their man to get very excited over them as he did in the initial bonding period. Tell me if I am wrong.

So you need to be flirtatious, give him a license to express his lust as he had before, and genuinely have fun playing with stuff like being a vamp nurse.

Good luck!

[caring__1]

The spark comes from creativity. This doesn't have to be extremes, but mix up the variety of things the two of you have discovered work well for you, rather than maintain a rigid routine. Show consideration for the other. Think about how your choices might impact the other before saying or doing anything. Do what your partner appreciates, though, if you don't understand the value in the action, the disconnection will be awkward for both of you. Show a desire to seek things through the eyes of the other person. Your partner has nothing to gain by seeing you hurt or uncomfortable, so never assume that pain or discomfort is intentional. Seek clarification and understanding rather than make assumptions. Clearly share what you appreciate and value in the other person. Never assume they should already know or expect them to guess.

Dysfunctional communication leads people to be cautious and guarded. Rather than assume you already know how to communicate, find a therapist who is qualified to teach effective communication skills and make plans for the two of you to learn together. Prioritize making sure both of you always feel safe, secure and special. Avoid assuming, blaming, criticizing, demanding, rationalizing, yelling and telling others what they should or shouldn't do. Be aware that this would be from the other person's perspective, not yours. If a person feels criticized, don't deny you were critical. Seek an understanding of what the other person heard or saw that was interpreted as criticism.

Create a healthy balance between responsibility and playfulness. Never assume one is good enough.

[AndrewAzul]

This guy gets it

[HawkPerception]

Well I have nothing to add to this. Damn man... took all my points 😂

[Carly2005]

By adding more wood. Possibly for person take interest of your Partners interest.

[OlderAndWiser]

The spark comes from both partners wanting to make the relationship work, making a dedicated effort, devoting their time and energy, and not accepting failure as a result.

[sawno]

Hard for me to say since we never lost ours, but I assume both have to want that. You'd have to keep it interesting sexually first of all, so if the sex became a chore or boring its time to mix that up so both are looking forward to it again. Then, once that becomes desirable spend some proper quality time leading up to it. Like perhaps going to a romantic hotel, one of those that has stuff like live entertainment, great pool, etc and enjoy a romantic evening together. Or whatever kind of date you'd love.

Because while our spark didn't really go out (We ended due to other circumstances) me and her would still have an occational date night where we went beyond our usual quality time and tried making things extra romantic and special.

[Anonymous]

Here is something to try, you and your significant other agree to go to a bar separately. Maybe with 30 minutes to an hour between arrivals. You go first. Dress very hot. You will definitely be approached, more than once. That should get your juices flowing alone. If you’re willing to part with your wedding ring briefly, if married, then even better. Once your husband/boyfriend arrives allow about 10 minutes before he approaches you. Let it be seen that the two of you are really clicking. Dance and play pool or darts. Stay as long as you choose, make sure it is obvious that he is buying you drinks. Maybe make out some. Then the two of you leave together in one vehicle, go to a no tell motel or a safe secluded spot. All those other men you turned down will be envious. That will make your significant others chest puff up.



I bet that will spark something.

[RedInnocent68]

Honestly, I just don’t get it. I cannot fathom not wanting sex. Let alone with someone who’s accessible, you have history with, and obviously care about to already be with them. Am I missing something? Surely vanilla sex is always better than no sex, right?

[genericname85]

tough truth pill to swallow: it is only after the "spark" has gone when you actually realize whether is was actually "love" or not from the getgo.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

We always has spark

We lose it when there are some problems, but spark is there

He thinks im sexy

I think the same about him too

[captain_voidwalker]

Like this

[Fruijbbv]

Dress sexy for him and be submissive do whatever he says

[ThrillSeeker01]

I try to connect, deeply.

[Anonymous]

Do some fetish stuff together.

[whistlingwh0res]

Breast implant

[peedy]

Dump some gas on it