My sister was living with her man for 3 years and they got engaged 6 months ago. It's her house and they got 3 cars; 2 under her name before they met and 1 is his. Though he helps out with the bills. They were planning to eventually move out after the wedding and buy another house under both of their names and share assets.
She just found out about it a couple days ago and is still proceesing the trauma. She discovered his cheating through his cell phone. On between text messages, they revealed doing it in the house the last time, inviting the other woman her homemade pumpkin pie, doing it on her bed and taking a shower afterwards; all that happened while we were both visiting our grandmother in hospice. She checked his cell because he was acting different, creating arguments and accusing her of cheating suddenly. She's right now staying over with me. She is very disgusted at what she found and emotional at this moment.
What can she do? The guy (on his day off) cheated in her house, her bed, her bathroom and even invites the woman her dessert.
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Well, I'm assuming she wants to break up, so the best course of action would be to kick his cheating ass out.
Since they are only engaged, not married, there should be very few legal issues. It's her house, so she has every right to tell him to GTFO. He can obviously take his car, and any of his posessions, but there won't be any reason to get the courts involved.
If he refuses to leave, she can call the police, and have him removed. The house is in her name, so he doesn't have any claim to it. She's the homeowner, so it's her decision.
Yes she's definitely going to call off the engagement and kick him out. She wants to do that after finishing processing all the emotions. It's crying at this moment and very emotional. She's having a hard time understanding how anyone can be that disgusting.
I know how she feels, unfortunately.
The one bright spot, though, is that she founf out now, rather than later. It would have been a much bigger mess, especially financially, if she'd have found out after the wedding.
While it obviously sucks, and is a huge emotional upset, she's dodged a huge bullet by finding out when she did.
Yeah lucky she found out his true colors. She still can't understand why would a man go through all that trouble of proposing if he's going to cheat.
That, I couldn't answer, unfortunately.
I'll never understand why anyone would cheat. How you can claim to care about someone and then doing something so heinous and hurtful to them.
She'll probably never understand either, but if there's one thing I've learned, it's that she shouldn't feel guilty, or responsible, in any way. Some people are just pieces of shit, and she'll be better off without him.
What are you really asking?
What can my sister do?
She didn't move in with him; it's the other way around. It's her house. He cheated in her house took a bath with the other woman in the shower.
Dump him, how hard is it?
It's not hard. She's crying at this moment. She'll do it after she sorts out her emotions. She wants to kick him out in a calm and cold manner.