Men of GAG, what would you do if your girlfriend/fiance/wife demanded an open relationship?

[worldscolide]

If my significant other asked that of me, there would be no discussion, she would be out in the street instantly. I would kick her from my life the way you remove a dead useless limb.

The only reason she wants to open it up is so she can cheat without guilt.. Chances are she already has options lined up, if not already getting fucked by someone else. Same for when she says "we need to take a break". Any time a woman has said that to me I just kicked her to the curb..

Men don't fall for these..

[Anonymous]

If married find a divorce attorney NOW and start thinking about any Red Flags that you may have missed, her demanding an 'Open Marriage' means she is thinking of cheating if not already doing so and she's looking for retroactive permission.
If its a fiancé halt the relationship and recover the ring and start thinking about any Red Flags that you may have missed, her demanding an 'Open Relationship' means she is thinking of cheating if not already doing so and she's looking for retroactive permission.
If it is a girlfriend finish the relationship there and the nand start thinking about any Red Flags that you may have missed, her demanding an 'Open Relationship' means she is thinking of cheating if not already doing so and she's looking for retroactive permission.
So called 'Open Marriages/Open Relationships' never work and usually end up imploding, and invariably after your refusal to consider the 'Open Marriage/Open Relationship' the woman will start to back peddle , apologies, water works, whole nine yards, be strong and carry on.

[Lionman95]

If she was a girlfriend I´d tell her it´s better to end the relationship because I allowing me to openly get in contact with other women is something she´ll regret since I wouldn´t use to get sexual experiences but find a substitute for her.
If she was my fiance I tell her that it would be a dealbreaker to the marriage and I´d ask her how important it was to her. Because if she demands an open relationship I´d cancel the marriage or I won´t show up to and tell all friends and family behind her back to not come either.
If she was my wife I´d try to fight for my marriage at first but if she demands an open relationship I file for divorce.
The reason is I don´t have a deep interest in sex if I ever have a relationship with a woman it´s not going to be for sex but to have a partner in crime to share life with.

[midnightmoon05]

I’m a woman. I’ll answer anyway. My now ex husband once talked about it when our marriage was falling apart.
The obvious answer was a no from me.
Well…we are no longer together.
I have met my second husband and he just got remarried as well.

[Genie23]

Glad to see not many men want an open relationship and would rather leave their partner than get involved with others and be okay with their partner get involved with others.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Asking for a open relationship is basically either saying “I want to fuck someone and not feel guilty about it” or “I’ve fucked someone and feel guilty, give me permission so i can do it without worrying you catching me thanks” i don’t see how any self respecting man / woman with value could accept it, but guess i’m too traditional to ever understand the typical bs arguments people offer nowadays anyway.

[Genie23]

Yeah, I agree. I don't sleep around as well. I can't even think about anyone else but my partner. I don't think you're too traditional. I think it's just that you, me and people who are against being in an open relationships just don't want to feel like they're not enough for their partner and that their partner doesn't love them if their partner wants to sleep with others.

I'll never get why people opt for open relationships either.

[Avicenna]

She'd be gone. "Open" is not a relationship.

[OlderAndWiser]

I would tell her, "I'll remember you fondly. Good luck!"

[AviatorTom]

I would be supportive of her wishes and probably have a few open encounters myself.

[AviatorTom]

@Miristheiss Why do you say that... maybe I prefer an open relationship and she would be giving me the opportunity... 😉

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Your relationship is over if you’re both running other people, simple fact. No way you’re having kids after that

[AviatorTom]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer At our age (late 50s), we're not interested in having kids. She has her two sons (from a previous marriage) and I have my two sons and one daughter (from a previous marriage). Now, we are just enjoying life, sometimes together, and sometimes apart.

[EricSummer]

I said that this would be the end of our marriage if she goes ahead with her other guy. She anyway went ahead and that was the end of our relationship, though the divorce is still in process now.

Looking back it was not the worst thing that could have happened. After 20 years I found dating a thrilling experience and I'm with a wonderful woman now.

[ilovelamp]

the relationship would end right there.
I would probably be a bit bitter at first of course, but if she truly was an honest and genuine girl and didn't gas light along the way, or already cheat. I would respect her for telling me.

Which is not what most women of that type would do, they want to have their cake and eat it too.

[OfMiceandMen]

I would say..."Okay as long as she didn't mind me banging her sister or mother".

Of course I am joking, but, it would be nice to say something to take her off-guard just as much as her, open marriage concept remark.

I would then likely say to her, "If you want an open relationship then by all means (open the outside door), consider this to be me complying with your demands."

[billmunch]

Every relationship I've been a part of, I've been cheated on and it never once lead to the end of the relationship, so I would be okay with it. In fact, I kinda like it. It turns me on, so I would be 100 fine with my SO wanting to open the relationship. so long as it isn't with my friends or pregnancy. Those are the deal breakers. Otherwise, I want my SO to fuck the stripper at a bachelorette party. I want my SO to go away for the weekend and have a fling. I can't explain it but I get just as much thrill out of it as her.

[mrmonogamous]

I’ve been married for 34 years. If my wife wanted an open relationship (which I know she never would) I would immediately file for divorce.

[worldscolide]

Good man. I've been married 10 years.. And I'd do the same.

[D_Bone_Steak]

My reaction is exactly the same as yours tbh. I'd bet my nutts she just wants to fuck some guy guilt-free. I'd also bet my dong that she has already met that guy and is going to fuck him no matter if you say yes or no.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

@d_bone_steak already happened probably

[D_Bone_Steak]

@ImalwaysrightOK I am speaking from life experience... had a few women pull that shit on me. Especially when I was fat. But yeah also in the scenario, she probably already took it too far and is now trying to justify it. Best thing to do is get rid of someone that asks such a thing.

[admles]

I'd break up with her.

Because if you say no, and stay with her, she'll just cheat anyway. Anyone who asks this usually has someone already lined up anyway and basically wants a way to have sex with them without it being considered cheating.

[RavVid]

Agree entirely. If she didn't think she could do better she wouldn't want that. If she does think she can do better she will cheat her way to what she considers better.

[hammeronfire]

That’s disrespectful. She’d be single within the next breath I’d take. Like how dare you just ask me for permission to cheat on me. The only bright side to this is that she didn’t just go and do it she did ask but that doesn’t make it okay. There’s no such thing as an open relationship, it’s just cheating with extra steps in my opinion and I would dump her or divorce her right then and there. And this goes for boyfriends, husbands, and they them partners. Single

[Finchie40]

Tell her don’t let the door hit ya in the ass on your way out , If I am not good enough for her she is best to just move on cuz I won’t stay with a girl that needs other cock on her period

[BCA6010]

That relationship is over.

I'd like to think I'd never marry someone who would even consider that, either.

[Boomchakalaca]

True i never understood that, unless the woman sees the relationship already ended and want this as a sheer desperation of hope to hav three people

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Or she’s already banged someone and felt guilty about it, it doesn’t matter if it’s a man or a woman fact is that if you suggest this you’re disrespecting your relationship and there’s problems clearly which won’t be solved by banging someone.

[Spade_01]

That'd be such a humiliating thought. No matter how much the love is, what needs to be done away with is something that needs to be done away with. It's a goodbye from me.

[crossdressingrihno]

I’d tell her that I am not interested in such a thing and if she can’t deal with that then it’s better we break up.

[crossdressingrihno]

I would choose better working, though, because it would be a shame to kill a relationship if you can preserve it.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Women are patient and selecting creatures, chances are she’s already fucked a male or has a male lined up if she’s asking for your permission. Simple fact.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

I can open something, and that’s the door. Goodbye dear, don’t let it hit you along the way. ✌️😅

[Adam1978]

She would be kicked to the street she is in no position to demand anything especially not something like this.

[Pyrofox]

Well then you expect the same and not to get mad then if you find someone hotter than she is ROFL.

[Pyrofox]

Go pick up a young fun 21 year old as soon as you agree with it and wait for her to lose her shit XD.

[Pyrofox]

A lot of women love the "idea" and not the actual practice of an concept.

[Miristheiss]

End the relationship.

The moment she brings it up we are done. She is already cheating or already has some guy lined up.

[Danny_dan92]

Start a go fund me to promote her sex worker business using billboards and any starter pack items. Then release her to the streets, close the door to my life on her and lock it

[RockyHammock]

If we've reached the point where she's no longer satisfied and wants to actively look for another mate, then I'd just break it off there rather than wait for her to find someone new.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

It doesn’t even have to be satisfaction, some people just can’t get enough. Love ain’t enough for em

[Twalli]

Most people do not amputate limbs they no longer can utilize.

[worldscolide]

Yet you chose not to answer the question..

[Twalli]

I don't do open relationships, but having worked in a hospital I saw a lot of people with dead limbs (or at least limbs they couldn't use). They had 4, even if they couldn't use all of them.

[worldscolide]

are you like an EMT or something? Thats cool though. So you understand the risk of an open relationship lol

[Twalli]

Medical biller and coder, but I volunteered for floor rotation in a hospital for 5 years before COVID-19 stopped all volunteering.

[worldscolide]

i understand.

[ColHathi]

Doesn't matter to me what her reason is. I'm not into that, so I guess we'd have to break up then.

[Truthatanycost]

I'd just say 'Ok, goodbye' and she'd never hear a thing from me again.

[Berethor]

If she want another man then I would kick her too, if she want woman I might accept that.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Don’t my man, it’s not just a little hypocritical but you would say no if you truly loved her because you know it isn’t good news apart from sexual needs

[Anonymous]

Realize that she's already been cheating but needs more time with him other than just lunch brakes, and realize she only sees me as the guy who can give her something she needs

[Paul09]

If you speak about it early, before useless marriages, it is fine. But while in a serious relationship and out of no where. Yeah seems odd. And usually will be one sided if ever agreed on.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

It isn’t fine, open-relations are exactly that.. Open! I don’t know why people normalize this, a healthy relationship between a man and a woman is only betwee them both. Not anyone else.

[Paul09]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer Well because people can do what they want. It isn't the norm, but it works for some. That's why you need to talk about it right away.

[Iron_Man]

That would never happen that’s not my style that’s like a swingers club a hall pass to cheat what kind of relationship is that

[Unit1]

I will downgrade her to a sex friend.
And look for a new girl at the same time.

[KrakenAttackin]

You would hear a sonic boom as she was kicked out of the door...

[Snakeyes7]

Out the door... right away. I'm not falling for that crap.

[Fuentes]

Divorce her she thought I was a cuck, now she can go find one

[Anonymous]

Me: Well, pack your shit and go find you one.

[ShadezMcgee]

I would leave.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'd dump her and kick her out.

[exitseven]

Get a divorce I guess

[Freyke]

I break up. End of the line.

[gorydetails]

I'm with you. Out she goes.

[LiamJHayden]

End the relationship

[notwoke]

cause for celebration

[Greenbean27]

Nope, I'm not into cheating. Monogamy or I am out.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Tell her that's not a part of the commitment.

[bamesjond0069]

Dump her asap.

[Anonymous]

Dump her of course!

[Ophiel]

Divorce. No coming back from that.

[Anonymous]

Send her to the streets where she belongs

[pass_the_celery98]

Yep I would

[Shamalien]

Byeeee

[CT_CD]

Give in to her demands

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

You’re trolling

[grega239]

Door

[LovrUFFAllls]

No thanks!

[Cheerfull009]

No, I will not allow

[tzdc21]

Dump them. Simple

[eds99]

Bye Bye Wifey

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Wasn’t your wife to begin with

[riverrat3]

Say yes