I feel sad today. How to stop my mind whirling?

[Crimsyjo]

I got so much to do. I'm behind with my study. The house needs a good clean. I gotta take my daughter counselling. Do grocery shop. I've had three hours sleep. Just getting over being ill and a cold. Feel distressed over my FB relationships.

I feel sad! My mind is whirling non stop and I just haven't time to sleep but haven't energy/mindset to tackle my assignment.

Urgh. I don't know where to start? It's 9.30am. Where do I start?

[Blunky]

Just start with one and don't stop. Other than taking the kid to counseling and catching up on sleep, everything else needs a starting point (getting over a cold myself and the insomnia can F off).

Though trying to study while you have your mind on other things is probably a waste of time. Best to start with cleaning, which can give you a boost in mood once you start seeing things clean again.

Your FB stuff, based on your questions, is a complete mess and I have no clue how you'd even salvage that with the dynamics you talk about. Maybe having too many is leading to the disorganized thoughts and loss of direction.

[exitseven]

okay, I did not see this until later but in the future, do not think of all of the things you have to do. Pick one thing and do it. Then do the next one. Repeat until you are done.

[Crimsyjo]

Yeah
.. my essay is like THE priority. I'm with my FB tonight drinking. I'm gonna be fiucked 2m. Essay first! Then I can relax aghh

[Anonymous]

You likely won't, but that's ok.

Maybe make a cup of tea/coffee; grab pen and paper, write what you have to do today; decide for yourself the priority you give each of those and start with an easy/small, but necessary task.

[Crimsyjo]

Thank you. I asked chatbot to write me a schedule lol.

[Opinion Owner]

That should work, haha. Hope your day gets better! :)

[Chargirllll]

Just reading responses cause I find myself in the same situation often

[Crimsyjo]

Awwww. I managed an hour study. Doesn't stop my mind going straight back to it's thoughts after tho lol

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Well, this is how I manage such a day:

I feel sad? Yes, oh why? Because blablabla, okay I'm sad then I'm sad, housecleaning can wait, groceries can wait I'll eat pasta, my study will wait one more day. The appointment is an important one so I can't skip it.

But I'll certainly skip aaaaaaall the rest, it's a bad day, I'll sleep tonight. It'll get better tomorrow after some sleep because I know precisely how lack of sleep puts me into a misleading mini depression. Which isn't a true one. It's just lack of sleep adverse effects.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life some people have a lot on their plate & some people have a buffet. As for you there is so much to do in so little time & the only thing you can do is one thing at a time. As for cleaning there is nothing that says you have to do it all at once & if you work out a cleaning schedule throughout the week maybe that will work & if you have other people in the household & they are able to clean you are going to have to assign chores or something like that. Take a nap.

[Crimsyjo]

Ha. I have two teens who won't lift a finger. Not even to take dogs potty outside when I'm at work and they lying in bed.
My youngest daughters room takes me 2.5 hours to clean because she won't do it herself and it's a health hazard to leave it.
My older daughter (18) isn't as messy but she will still leave sacks of trash in her room so it smells like a dump as she refuses to leave her room. I contacted doctor who "won't discuss" it with me cos she's 18. Even tho I said she basically can't function. She won't go uni or anything. Won't cook or clean. Doctor put her on depression pills. Which she won't leave the house to get. And doctor won't tell me he prescribed. So it was only cos I phoned pharmacy to check that I found out and collected them for her. I can't believe a doctor- after saying she can't function or leave house - doesn't consider how she wil get them?
Anyways sorry. Off topic rant. But let's just say my degree comes first. House second. I have all summer off to declutter and clean properly. They (my daighters) won't live with me forever so I want a careerr to support myself with when they leave and my house will stay tidy when it's just me.

[Anonymous]

Start by waking up earlier that’s for sure. It’s already 9:30, you’re barely starting to do whatever? I think I’d get off GaG first of all. I’d say you get up at 5 am, maybe even 4. I go to sleep about midnight, then I’m up around 4 or 5 to go to the gym. I’d forget about FB, that’s not a priority unless that FB relationship is coming over to help you w things.

[Crimsyjo]

I went bed 4am. Woke 7.15am. Was horny so played. Then yeah chatting on here feeling sorry for myself.

By the way if you go bed midnight and up at 4am that's extremely bad for adults. My ex hub only slept about 4 hours tho. But in general I need 7 to 8 hours to manage. And can go less on certain occasions once or twice a week.

[Opinion Owner]

For a lot of women it’s bad. Some studies say women on average need more sleep than men.
So you’re telling me in the 21 hours you were awake you didn’t get all this done? Sounds like you’re mismanaging your time.
How old is your daughter. How come you didn’t clean once she went to bed?

[Crimsyjo]

I had a friend staying over. We were watching films and playing games and hanging out. I had to take him home 11pm. He was supposed to go at 8pm. But he kept wanting to stay "just another half hour". I like the company too much to be firm about it. He's been staying over all week. And keeps me up all night. So we end up sleeping all day. He's 19 and a student so.. it's kinda normal student life. Yesterday I did get up to study and do chores whilst he was asleep still.
After he left I was meeting my other FB at midnight. 25 min drive away at a hotel.

Hence I got home and to bed 4am.

My daughter is 13. My other 18. They have social anxiety and don't leave their rooms. Hence counselling. Long story. But I get lonely cos it's like a ghost house at mine. Hence I like when my 19 Yr old friend comes stays. But he will go away for a while soon cos he hangs during uni holidays but concentrates on his law degree most of the rest of the time.

[Opinion Owner]

So basically what I’m getting from this is you just lack accountability. Lazy as well. You have no reason to complain honestly.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

lololol this convo, I respect your self-control @Crimsyjo 🤣

[Crimsyjo]

@Maybe_Maybe_not haha? Self control? Think I lost that like 4 years ago haha

[Purpleronnie]

First , give yourself a min and take a breath. Second , given the sleep situation it’s likely massively adding to hyperfocus / mind whirling so today is tackle the important can’t not do then catch some zzzz’s and pick up the remainder after

[Crimsyjo]

Its 16.39pm. I'm. falling asleep in waiting room
. I did study and some chores. Haven't had time to sleep yet

[Purpleronnie]

Poor you , hope you get better sleep tonight. I’m a disaster without min 6 hours so I feel your pain

[DrPepper12]

I've never known any human being who didn't feel better after either a cardio workout or a long shower. Check in with us and let us know how the day is going!

[Crimsyjo]

Aww thank you. I've been ill for a week with s head cold. So cardio has been off the table. Just started my period too so guess that could explain my dip in mood too.

[dudeinohio]

Sleep until you have to get ready for counseling. After that, take a nap. Wake up and clean, then study. FB friends aren't a priority now.

[Crimsyjo]

FBs are always important. If I didn't balance my chores and work load with fun and sex I'd get severely depressed and then do even less chores etc

[dudeinohio]

Ok. Didn't realize the fb friends were sex friends

[Crimsyjo]

Ohh haha. Did you think I meant Facebook? I forget. I don't use my Facebook. It's very outdated platform in the circles I play in lol. Snapchat is the in thing. And Instagram but I don't like Instagram.

[dudeinohio]

Ok... I get it now...

[VeronicaThisSide]

Meditation probably lol

[12eass]

Over