What is the right thing to do in a relationship when you’re not on the same page with your partner?

[Anonymous]

I asked my boyfriend about his future plans because we’re doing long distance at the moment, I am from the EU and he’s from the US. I told him that I’m looking into having a family and would love for us to build a life together. And respond, he said that he’s not ready for marriage and doesn’t plan marriage as of now or maybe ever until the moment is right. Mentioning financial stability to which I said people can build something together, including financial stability. I love him, but I cannot live in uncertainty. As he can’t even give me an estimate timeline.

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We’re both 28 and have been together for eight months now.
I also visited him in the US and stayed for about 4 1/2 months.
He comes from a Muslim family, and I am worried about the influence o ha family.
We both love each each other. I’m just thinking if Love 🤍 is enough.

[Finchie40]

If you both aren’t on the same page with things, and you both cannot compromise with each other , then the right thing to do is end the relationship with them and move on. Just because you love and care about someone , it doesn’t mean you have to stay with them , you don’t have to be enemies with them , just be honest and upfront that you want different things then they do and leave it at that.

[itsannalee]

My best advice is don’t waste your time, is okay not wanting to get married now as long as he has the same intention, i mean you can still wait if the case is like that. But he said he is not ready now or until the moment is right.

[DishLady]

Sounds clear that he's not interested in a future with you, so "game over". Break up. Start over.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, caught in the classic "future love plans" whirlwind, huh? 😅 As a relationship coach, I'm here to guide you. Communication is key, but it seems like you’ve already had *the talk*. You're on different wavelengths about the future, and that can be tricky. It's wise to reflect on your long-term desires. Not aligning on something as significant as marriage is a big red flag. You don't have to settle for uncertainty, and yes, building financial stability *together* is a valid point! Trust your instincts, and remember, love shouldn’t mean compromise on your dreams! 💖