Am I the only one having difficulties being a step mom?

[Anonymous]

I try to do everything possible for these two little girls and my husband. I know what I was getting myself into when we got together and I accepted it. But not everyone accepts me and that’s hard. I cook them whatever they want, I clean there room everyday, I wash there bedding after every spill and accident and still wash it once a week, I take care of there uh ohs, there boos boos and everything I can possibly imagine. I do everything for these little girls of my husbands but I’m the bad guy because sometimes I need a break from it all. I don’t have kids of my own, so when me and my husband got together it was a big adjustment. Where to this day I’ll go and stay with my parents for about five hours to recollect myself and not be so overwhelmed. Then I’ll come back from my parents house, but I’m the bad guy for needing space for myself. No matter what I do his kids don’t respect me at all no matter what I do for them they don’t respect me. They will scream at me, cuss me out, hit me, and everything else. They always say I’m not there mommy and they want there mommy not me. Which yes I know I can’t replace there mother. And don’t even get me on his baby mama. His parents constantly brings up his ex and it makes me uncomfortable and overthink, which makes me relent his family because it’s all the time. And he said there not doing it on purpose or to reconcile the past just to make conversation. Then of course everyone always mentions how there not my kids, they look nothing like me, there not my job, I could never be in your shoes, and it’s everyday of them belittling me. I’m just so sick and tired of it and being step mom is not easy. So step moms how do you handle this because I’m almost to my breaking point.

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry to say this to you , but you shouldn’t of married this guy and fell for this guy period , your husband is not a good husband for you period , for the simple fact that he is expecting you to take care of his kids’ , When a single parent tries to put their kids’ responsibilities onto their new partner , they are crossing a line big time , because they are not
Your kids’ period , and not Your responsibility period. Your husband is a fucking asshole to expect you to take over the role as their mother and parent. It’s ok for you to help out with his kids’ but you shouldn’t be responsible n for Taking care of his kids’ The kids’ are mean to you because their father is pushing the responsibilities onto you when he should be the one taking responsibilities. You are best to no longer take responsibility for his kids’ whatsoever and have a serious talk with him about it , if he doesn’t take over as parent , then you are best to move on from him period. I have kids’ and I never expect or put responsibilities onto my partner because she is not their mother , if she wants to help me with the kindness of her heart that’s up to her to decide. but I don’t expect her to do shit. unfortunately you met a guy that doesn’t really want to take care of his own kids’ that looked for a girl to take over. If I was you I would move on

[MannMitAntworten]

Even if they were yours they would be needy pains in the asses. Just how daughters are. Why do you think mom’s later wish they had sons. So much easier….

[PeachyPie93]

Your partner is the issue, you may want to reconsider being married to this guy. A) He shouldn't throw you in to take full responsibility of his kids B) He should punish his children for not respecting you and getting along with you C) He should tell his parents not to talk down to you or to constantly bring up his ex.
I personally would divorce since I wouldn't have married a guy who's kids hate me and if it is like this now imagine if you get pregnant and have kids with him you will be more tied to him and probably won't have any help and support.. You could bring up counselling to work on things but if it doesn't get better, then divorce since it isn't fair and you are still young to be in such a shitty marriage.

[DishLady]

You're sort of young to be a step mom... And if your guy isn't supportive of you AS a step mom then that's part of the trouble. Nowhere in your description do you mention asking for (or getting) his support.

Sit and talk to him about this since this is HIS life you stepped into.

[AI Opinion]

Being a stepmom is like jumping on a rollercoaster in the dark, isn't it? 🎢 You know, building that acceptance and love takes time and is definitely not easy. You're practically a superhero without a cape, and sometimes even superheroes need some downtime, right? 😅 Remember, taking breaks is essential and absolutely makes you a better partner and stepmom. Creating boundaries and having honest conversations with your hubby about setting limits with his family and the kids is crucial. Keep communicating, but do it with love and humor. In time, respect will come like the delightful cherry on your challenging stepmom sundae! Sending you a big virtual hug! 💪

[petitedollbabee]

The situation you're in is not normal and it’s not okay. You don’t deserve to be treated like crap. Why is your partner not standing up for you? Why is he not disciplining the kids when they abuse you? He sounds like a neglectful dad, making you do all that work for HIS kids. Why would you even want to stay with a family like that? I’d get out if I were you. Being a step mom has its difficulties but certainly not what you’re dealing with.

[Ariesman81]

Boys or girls?