What are "relationship goals" for you?

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When you are searching for are starting a relationship, what are the goals you want to reach with your partner? Are they standards, are they your relationship rules, are they just milestones, like marriage and kids?

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

My relationship goals are pretty simple and straight forward. And I'd say they are non negotiable.

We MUST prioritize each other over other things and people. Within reason, of course. If she's a mom, the kid should come before me. On the other hand, I don't want to feel like I'm fighting with her friends for her time
We MUST support each other's adventures and dreams. And we must not ever stagnate.
We MUST communicate in a healthy, clear and effective fashion. I firm believer that couples that pray together, stay together. Even if we aren't actually praying together, having that weekly "how ya doin'? " chat is important.
We MUST make reasonable efforts to stay attractive to each other. This includes fitness, dietary, hygiene, fashion, etc.. An expectation of reasonableness and reciprocity exists on both sides. My expectations of her must be realistic and empathetic, and I can't do something like demand that she get breast implants, or even lose 15 pounds if I'm doing shit like ordering chinese and scarfing down potato chips.
We MUST value, and to the extent reasonable; take the other's opinion into consideration.

All of those are "comply or goodbye"'s for me. Which, I think is reasonable.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

To find a girl that is my best friend that values me the same way I value her , that doesn’t lie and cheat and is honest A girl that stays by my side no matter what obstacles we face together , knowing we have each others’ backs and knows how to remove selfishness for each other

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

For me, the end goal is marriage and kids.
But in the short term it's definitely getting to know each other better and eventually moving in together and seeing how compatible we are together once we are living together.

I'm giving myself 5 years.

Dating a guy for 2 years before moving in together.

Hopefully engaged by the end of year 2.

Married in year 3.

Start having kids in year 4 or 5.

The guy I'm currently seeing wants a family within 5 years. So our long term goals align.

He's 28, so I don't expect him to be really serious until 30. By that point, we can make plans to move in together if all goes well. But it's too soon to tell if we are that much of a match. I'm hoping we are but only time will tell.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Peace and quiet (no chaos). Being able to relax and just be ourselves. Sharing common goals and interests. Feeling "elevated" by mutual love. Matching energy (sense of giving and community outreach). Matching libido. ;)

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As your go-to relationship guru, I have some juicy insights for you! Relationship goals for me? Think beyond the standard milestones like marriage and kids. For me, they're about creating a space where both partners can truly be themselves and grow together. A strong bond built on solid communication, shared dreams, and plenty of spontaneous adventures keeps the excitement alive. Picture dancing in the living room, sharing embarrassing stories, and unraveling the mysteries of love together. That's my kind of relationship magic! 💫❤️

kitkatto · Answer

Honestly I just want someone that I can spend forever with (while also having the freedom to explore sexually - just the two of us though). Maybe a kid or two later in our mid 30s and definitely at least one dog.

Ideally I want to be cuffed by the time I’m 30-32 then be pregnant by 35. But before we get to that point, I want someone who I can vibe with (emotionally, mentally, sexually). Someone who is honest, transparent and loyal. I’ve been lied to too many times so I’m just tired lol As long as he’s honest, I can be very understanding.

Anonymous · Answer

To get a girlfriend with gams like those when I'm older. Like holy shit those have to be the literal most perfect legs I've ever seen in general, and especially for an older woman. For the record, I wouldn't say she's old, just older compared to me.

I realize it's possible the photo may be somewhat edited or photoshopped to make her legs look that perfect. Or that she could have body makeup on to hide any imperfections. But regardless, I like what I see.

To actually answer your question, I honestly don't know. But dem legs tho. Lol.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I don’t like to plan out a relationship the same way you plan out a business. It makes too organized and impersonal

I do have boundaries

I do have goals and expectations

But I would rather share them organically with my partner because at the end of the day if we stay together long we will also grow together and figure out things we didn’t know going in.

Jay-_- · Answer

"Relationship goals" are things you'd want to achieve in your relationship or when you have a relationship you'd want to do at one point with your partner. It also means an example of where you want to reach if in a relationship or in your current relationship.

Nikki1989 · Answer

To strengthen the bond, enhance our connection, and build a fulfilling future together. So far 14 plus years later we have done that are more.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Life time talkative, clingy romantic partner to start family and spent rest of my life with her and enjoy every single moment with her is my ultimate goal in a relationship. 😊 But for now I'm single currently

NicholasRedone · Answer

Like the proverbs "not end up with a nagging wife" 💕💔 I don't ever want a bitchy girlfriend 😄 a kind humble girlfriend who is a perfect match for me

alice55 · Answer

marriage, him working me staying at home, someone with who I can have conversation, smart and attractive physically.

RavVid · Answer

A genuinely nice girl. That cuts it down to less than 1 in 100 girls so anything more is too ambitious.

Miristheiss · Answer

I wanted to find a good character, marriage worthy woman and have a family.  We have been married for several years now and have 2 kids.

serious · Answer

No such relationship goals. I have always been single and I will be so in this lifetime.

Mrtcn01 · Answer

yes of course i m looking for long term healty realationship.. i would prefer a woman who can enjoy woth herself.. and also opneminded in sex activitiy

Panthero · Answer

To find someone who I can be myself with. And if she has legs like the model in that picture, that would be fine.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't have goals per se. I do have a short list of things that I WILL NOT tolerate.

Anonymous · Answer

To finally have a relationship, because I never had it.

Professor-college · Answer

Finding a woman who's passionate, sweet, understanding, mature but also easy going enough

Cappuccinooooo · Answer

finding a like-minded person just to be happy and have children

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Just onefeeling intimate

WonderingManII · Answer

marriage hopefully

DrPepper12 · Answer

The finish line together

Kelly6 · Answer

To have big family

Sluttt · Answer

Just go with the flow see what happens

Averagegirl2000 · Answer

Do find me a woman to marry. To be Happy.

Anonymous · Answer

i need literally nothing from a man

bddddd · Answer

Pregnancy. :)

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

dont have any

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