In a toxic friendship or relationship that you have had, or if you were around people who were not good for you, what were some early red flags?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

The first thing to look out for is her selfishness , like all of a sudden you are no longer a priority to her , Her friends’ became more of a priority , when it was never like that before. She all of a sudden needs space from you and goes on long trips with her friends’ without considering Your feelings and automatically excludes you , If you try to talk to her about it , she just says you are insecure and that you don’t trust her , but how dare you go away with your friends’ without her bitching and controlling you? That is a red flag you should not ignore whatsoever. Then it’s her negative attitude towards you always bitching and complaining about little things that she never bitched about before , and blaming you for everything bad that happened , and never taking accountability for her selfish behavior and actions , everything is your fault but never her fault , she will always be right and you are wrong. Also Intimacy and affection starts fading away , she is no longer in the mood and always makes lame excuses as to why she is no longer in the mood , the intimacy and affection becomes one sided , her way or no way. Once in a while she might throw you a bone , just so you won’t suspect her being up to no good. That’s a red flag you should not overlook whatsoever. These are all the things my selfish ex did to me , and my gut instincts knew something was wrong. Trust your gut when things aren’t like they used to be to be. And learn to walk away when shit like this occurs. You should always be your partners’ top priority over everyone else no matter what , if you are no longer her top priority , she is making someone else her top priority , Do not fall for this nonsense , kick the bitch to the curb where she belongs and find yourself a girl that values you like you value her ,

[Nikki1989]

I had a verbally abusive boyfriend once. I saw the potential for violence, so I ended the relationship and, of course, one night he broke into my apartment and exploded.

Without going into graphic details, I still have the physical scars, but the mental scars are far worse.

Some men are loose cannons.

[alice55]

I have no idea, I was too young to realize any of the red flag

[AI Opinion]

Ah, spotting those early red flags is like having a superpower in the world of relationships! 😎 From my experience and countless tales from clients, common signs include constant criticism, a one-sided effort, and mysterious disappearing acts. If they're lovebombing you one minute and ghosting you the next, it's time to raise an eyebrow. And if you feel drained instead of elated after time together, darling, that's a gigantic red flag! Trust your gut, and keep those emotional vibes in check. 💕