What are some "red flags" in relationships you have been in in the past?

[Flower_Power]

For me personally, being too clingy is a red flag and a turn off.

[Anonymous]

Well, I never went into a relationship with someone with the red flags, but I dated two guys for several months who had many, such as:
being jealous and making fun of me potentially being with other guys
smoking weed on weekdays
not telling about his kid until after a month of dating
ignoring me if he thought I had done something wrong instead of talking to me
keeping his online dating profile for months
telling me bullshit, that he never meant to do (he admitted at some point)
never introduced me to the brother he lived with
lied to common friends about us dating
cancelled on meeting my friends
cancelled on getting together after knowing I had my period (= no sex)

[Flower_Power]

Wow, they sound horrible. I'm glad you're done with them!

[EmmaMary]

Possessive and Controlling...Two Huge Red Flags.

[Flower_Power]

Totally

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[Anonymous]

What made me run away was: rude to others especially waiters, expecting others to pay for them, smoking, tattoos, promiscuous past, abusive to animals, controlling, insulting her friends for not having a boyfriend

The worst was one who promised to look after her friend's cat but abusing the cat instead by chasing her away and throwing catnip and chicken in the cat's corner not even in the bowl just the ground. I called our local animal abuse line and cared for the cat until they got there. After telling them what happened I went home and haven't heard from them or her since

[Flower_Power]

Oh my!

[OneNineZero]

Well after my parents died when I was 17, my stupid relatives got me married it was arranged marriage
She left me in 3 months she wants my money and want to sleep with as many guys possible before her body breaks or she gets multiple STDs,
So women itself for me is red flag

[Flower_Power]

I don’t even know how to react to this

[OneNineZero]

I find that very normal

[TommyMountainFigure]

@oneninezero. I just want you to know. I gave you a like, because of the inner strength you must have to deal with ALL of that, and still maintain your sanity.

[OneNineZero]

@TommyMountainFigure If I am still sane that is

[TommyMountainFigure]

@oneninezero. Well yes, but I hope so.

[Sixgunsound]

Every year in New York City there is an event called Fleet Week which culminates in a tug of war match between the Navy and Marine Corps. This girl I was engaged to after a couple of years of dating started cheering for the Marine side even though I was in the Navy. It turns out she was screwing a Marine while I was deployed.

[qwert1234]

Getting angry if you don't tell her you bought something with your own money.
Wants to become strong, independent person - gets mad if you let her do things on her own.
Always plans the future as "I" instead of "we". keyword: always.
Does not have their own hobby.

[Anonymous]

Red flags that I won hundred percent avoid I don’t give a fuck how attractive the female is, are:
- if she has a mentally deficient feminist mindset
- if she is entitled and expects that I’m a bank account
- A smoker or a drug user or a heavy drinker
- if she has tattoos then she is 100% trashy
- if I discover that she has a slutty online presence, Instagram, VSCO, only fans…
- if she has a high body count
- If she wears exposing type close to get cheap sexual attention
- if she has long ghetto ratchet fingernails
- if she never cheated in the past she will cheat again
- If she has even one male “friend “a. k. a. a beta male orbiter

[Zeldaismyqueen]

A guy kept commenting on my clothes, like every day. I like to dress in layers, and he was always “aren’t you hot in that”, “why don’t you let your neck breathe”, “you don’t need that extra layer”. But like all the time, he didn’t get it.

[JamesDiaz11]

A red-flag is typically having too many guy friends. Also, any indication that a girl has too much affinity to black culture is a red flag. If she has too many tattoos, talks ghetto (e. g. catch me outside), has dyed red hair, or has any indication that she does, or has dated black men she's automatically disqualified.

[Danny_dan92]

A woman constantly needing validation even after her and I becoming serious after her telling me I’m her “Dream guy” like ok. If I’m her dream guy why tf does she still need other men to tell her she’s sexy?


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[CallmeTheKnight]

1. Gaslighting
2. Wasteful with money
3. Ghosting
4. Blocking your number
5. Dramatic and violent
6. One sided love
7. Avoidance of topics
8. Refuses your physical and emotional needs
9. Disrespectful

[sp33d]

Clinginess is not necessarily a problem. I detest dishonesty and I especially hate denial with a passion. If she can't be honest with herself, how can she even begin to think about being honest with anyone else?

[Anno2]

She was too overprotective. Like someone bumped into me and she would start yelling at the person, even if it obviously was an accident.

[JadenDoyl]

Not replying decently fast.
Being too friendly with friends of the other sex, especially physically.
Not listening.
Twisting words.

[CorbetRig]

Same

[Crepe_tart]

I never realised when he was trying to gaslight me until someone else told me

[TommyMountainFigure]

Shagging my then best friend was a red flag for me!!!

[Lisa0203]

Note-I would say that some red flags would be like being ignorant about something not dealing with problems. Being too busy to spend time with someone more than once or twice.

[ANDYB88]

Using sex as a ‘reward’ for something - I hate that shit

[SaoirseS]

Totally agree with you. Same with withholding sex as "punishment," that's just childish and manipulative.

[Iron_Man]

Negative positive thinking Empty promises she can’t even talk on the telephone because she’s so shy instead she hangs up on me

[Jltakk]

Failure to accept that you're wrong, and an unwillingness to solve your own problems and seek introspection. I absolutely detest that in any relationship. It's give and take.

[Gingerguy33]

Being on their phone to much and not listening to what you have to say are big ones for me

[DeeRocc]

When someone drinks every night, "just one drink," but always says, "I'm not an alcoholic.

[CorbetRig]

Not at all clingy and too independent is a red flag for me.

[flirtatiousgirl]

I was do trust people I know online. right now nope!