What are your relationships red flags?

Question

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Rude is the biggest out of all of them.

Refusing to call/video call can be excused depending on the circumstance, sometimes people are busy with work or lack privacy at home.

Hygiene struggles, albeit concerning, may not always indicate bad character because sometimes people struggle with hygiene due to sensory issues or struggling with poor mental health, like not brushing your teeth because of sensory problems with how the toothbrush feels or the toothpaste smells/tastes, not showering for a while due to depression etc. While it definitely needs working on and shouldn't be ignored, I personally wouldn't immediately judge someone unless they clearly show that they don't care enough or think that they need it.

Selfish is a word people often use to make others feel bad about putting their own needs first. While it is a red flag if a person becomes inconsiderate of others as a result, looking out for yourself by itself is a green flag.

However, if I had to disregard the poll and talk about my personal biggest red flag, it's definitely being uneducated and being unable to communicate and reconcile.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

Aggressive, compulsive lying, bad hygiene, dependent on alcohol or hard drugs, misogynistic/misandrist, financially wasteful (gambling or shopping addiction), emotionally repressed, abusive with animals, tries to control my social life and manipulative behaviour.

Being_a_good_Indian · Accepted Answer

Relationship red flags include lack of communication, controlling behavior, lack of trust, disrespect, constant criticism, different life goals, emotional unavailability, unresolved conflicts, lack of support, and infidelity. These warning signs indicate potential issues that can lead to an unhealthy and unsatisfying relationship. It's crucial to address these red flags early on through open communication and seek professional help if needed, to build a stronger and more fulfilling partnership. Remember that every relationship is unique, so understanding and respecting each other's boundaries and values are essential for a successful and happy connection.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I don't have a list of red flags. When things happen between us, I evaluate our relationship and determine the best course of action. Usually, that's making up when the relationship is strong. It's not productive to hold a grudge.

Summeroflove · Answer

1. Lack of communication or dishonesty 2. Controlling or manipulative behavior 3. Disrespectful or abusive behavior 4. Blaming or criticizing the other person constantly 5. Lack of trust or jealousy 6. Inability to listen or understand the other person's point of view 7. Unwillingness to compromise or negotiate 8. Disinterest in personal growth or improvement 9. Lack of empathy or emotional support 10. Constant disregard for boundaries and personal space.

Paris13 · Answer

In the Beginning, Seeing the Kind of Content (Before They Met You) That They Got Into. Reflects on a Relationship thenceforth. xxoo

Avicenna · Answer

Bad personality, bad communication

cosmosis181 · Answer

I don't get into them, but from the many I know who have, I've noticed 1 thing that NEVER fails. If upon mentioning the exes, in every one of her tales she is ALWAYS the innocent victim-shes a first class snake that needs to be avoided immediately. That has NEVER failed from the many times I've seen it. If a person has that many exes, and all of them are crapped on... there's only 1 common denominator... and even the BEST WAY that could possibly be spun is-her character judgement really stinks. And that's the nicest way that could be spun.

genericname85 · Answer

i'm assuming you mean red flags someone shows "before" me going into a relationship with them right?
that would be as follows:

tattoos
children (single mom)
smoking
lacking hygiene
talks only about themself. not asking questions about me
expects me to carry the conversation all the time
unemployed
no vision of her future
expects me to pay on dates
talks bad about ex-boyfriend (s)
still living with parents
has no female friends

that's a few right of the top of my head. sure there's more.

loveslongnails · Answer

All of those are, including "other", lol, except the first one which makes absolutely NOOO sense at all. Try and explain to us how you can have a real "Relationship", capital "R", without ever having seen, met or voiced with someone? Rhetorical question - I'll answer it - you CAN'T !!

What you're talking about is being catfished when you've been talking for a little while and think you like the person, but you haven't seen them live because they refuse to do a video call. You're nowhere near to being in a relationship at that point.

Nawlins34 · Answer

They are all red flags for me, but if I'm interested in a woman romantically, I've had my eyes on her for awhile and I know her mannerisms and social skills.

So I picked "rudeness" and "selfish" is a close second because if you pay attention to people in a social setting, the aforementioned will reveal themselves organically.

Screenwriter · Answer

Most of those. I don't care about video chatting. When I'm lounging around on my sofa in my house, I don't want anyone looking at me. That is why we use phones!

We'll SEE each other when I'm presentable, not on my back with "Witcher," or the "Santa Clarita Diet" droning in the background, or after I've been mowing the lawn in 90-degree heat and I'm splayed out on the couch after my bath with a blue mask on my face!

Geez!

ohsheeT · Answer

My biggest one is if they're not happy within if they can't even look at it and see themselves the way they really are

If they talk crap about other people

If they're selfish

If they're loud and bring attention to themselves

If they had to lie to themselves or anybody else

But I need you won't even get a chance for it to be a red flag because to me a red flag is if you let something get past you and I wouldn't let any of those things get past me LOL

josefff · Answer

The only red flag I see is not becoming better, one can have bad times in their life something can push them into doing bad things, it's understandable, however the only red flag is resisting to change after realizing their mistakes and remaining bad. Simply, being rude is okay but staying rude is not.

Kabluie · Answer

No matter how many choices, it's always going to be rudeness. I won't accept that. There is really no reason to anyway, some situations you cannot control so why waste the energy and make people upset in the process? There is usually some rationale that is entirely skipped to end up being rude.

I don't raise my voice or try to make anyone uncomfortable, it's not worth it, they won't respect you either.

TooHot2Care · Answer

-People who are 30 minutes late to a first date.

-People who say "I'm not even sure if I like you."

-People who flirt with / dance with other people in front of you.

-People who say "You don't even know if I'm a good person, why do you like me?" all hostile like when you just like them. When people tell you who they are, listen.

-People who love bomb. They don't give a fuck about you.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Disloyalty is the biggest red flag that never shows up properly until later in a relationship. I can deal with those other red flags because we've all been guilty of it at least a little bit at some point, but if somebody cheats on me or betrays me then I can't forgive that.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

1. If the person has a hatchet collection. 2. If the person talk about their hatchet collection. 3. if the person takes a lot of selfies with their hatchet collection.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If they refuse to talk on video chat or send pictures by email, messenger, than I would reconsider them. Yes, it could be red flags.

Miristheiss · Answer

Bad morals. Smokes, drinks, drugs. Wants to go to clubs and bars. Any sex work. Obsessed with career. Selfish. Masculine energy. Curses a lot Bad communicator

InsecureLivesMatter · Answer

Republican. Why? conservatism (especially MAGA-ism) is a cucked ideology and I refuse to believe that any pretty girl is actually a Republican.

another red flag? potsmoker.

Those are the two things a girl inherits from her ex

hsshannah96 · Answer

LYING. Lying about anything at all. You lie to me about anything we are done. Through. Finished. This includes saying you don’t have social media when you do

WhitneySnow · Answer

Those are all red flags but selfish is a big one

Wonderingguyy · Answer

Quick to judge others, loudmouth/attention grabber in public places, if she doesn't like animals, if she takes selfies all throughout the day, if she isn't a fun person, no sense of humour, over-reacter, has cheated

virtualwasp · Answer

talking- telling everyone about me. sharing personal details or dating circumstances with others who use it as gossip or for their own advantage.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

If she is rude to people in public, that is a red flag to me.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@lemiaofthunder To be honest, my relationship red flags are getting my name wrong, no shared hobbies, isn't punctual, likes to banter, & changes plans at the last minute.

EtherealWriter · Answer

Being rude, arrogant, shallow, racist, fascist, sexist, ageist, misogynistic and discriminating based on someone's ethnicity, religion, gender, socioeconomic class. Also, mistreating aninals

katiesmuff · Answer

Couldn't care less about the first choice, however the remaining choices everyone of them would raise a red flag

strateguy632 · Answer

rude texts are red flag. explicit or harsh etc. however if no video, expected in our horrible society.

Zatsuma · Answer

As soon as they give off the impression that they know everything and belittle your opinion.

exitseven · Answer

If she drives a beat up old muscle car with the front seat filled with fast food wrappers.

Quigly · Answer

Rude and selfish go together along with fraud. If I casually know a person and have caught them in lies regardless of how small. I know that it's a personality issue that is a part of who that person is and that I don't want to be around.

Heolurt · Answer

If she approaches me or gets her friend to. Always turns out to be a prank. If she says I'm handsome or if she genuinely wants to date me. It means she has poor taste and doesn't know her worth.

PumpkinSpiceLatte4 · Answer

Racism, rudeness, arrogance, vanity, sexism, misogynism, hypocrisy

BootsLover94 · Answer

Has no deep goals  Not driven Has a dull life  Rude

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

The video call one is kinda dumb. I hate video calls, and I don't see how that's a red flag

Pudsmucker · Answer

I'd say the biggest red flags for me if I was to date is the SOB stories of I'm broke I just lost my job. Can you support me. I say no I cannot support you, I don't know you that well.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Lacking Self awareness  I’m all for not judging a book by its cover  but the longer you let a person talk you see how full of talk they are

SadyConfused1998 · Answer

Spends all of his free time with his friends and ignores me

RavVid · Answer

Selfishness is going to end the relationship sooner or later.

Middle_Sch_Whirl_Grl · Answer

If a person doesn't take care of his or herself than they won't be taking care of anyone else.

Minahh · Answer

Rudeness and entitlement like heck no. If you're not making my life better but worse and you stress me out get out. Bad hygiene is also a deal breaker.

Sugar100 · Answer

Not wanting to meet family and no pics together as couple.

Dargil · Answer

Bad hygiene will extend to other parts of life.

haiuyu · Answer

If he's rude to others and to you, then that is a red flag. Also, if he is selfish

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

None of these are “red flags.” They are perceived flaws that you would find unattractive. Everyone has them. An example of a red flag would be your partner having served time in prison for raping someone.

DrKrieger · Answer

Bad hygiene is a big one, but I'd say emotionally manipulating and constantly seeking validation are bigger issues

MissBoogus · Answer

I’m not sure. I suppose we can both be stubborn and got headed, but never really leads to anything. Funny, mostly.

zero444440000 · Answer

most of these are not red flags. they just the behavior "in most cases not all" of an asshole lol.

KaDooKan · Answer

lying is #1 for me, everything else seems to stem from a lie  if she says she is crazy, believe her and GTFO  once you accept crazy, she gets the green light to do anything

Freyke · Answer

Entitlement. If she expects things without earning it.

sassyredhead · Answer

inconsistency , emotionally closed off and playboy attitudes

admles · Answer

Snooping and demanding passwords. I used to tolerate this until I realised how toxic this behaviour is to relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was single a major red flag was begging.

Christoff92 · Answer

She's got a attitude which doesn't suit me very well when it comes to a intimacy relationship.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Flirty personality, messy home manners, doesn’t like dogs

SnowedIn · Answer

Rude. First and foremost.

krin_m · Answer

Toss up between bad bad hygiene and selfish. I chose selfish (and I might add clingy behavior to it) because bad hygiene can be fixed!

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Feminist. lgbtq lover doesn't shave under 5"5

elontesler3 · Answer

their mental health. trust me, i invented the Tesler Sibertruck, SpaceseX, and i own Twatter.

EaterPeter · Answer

All of the above. Do you mean when some in relationship with me or what do I see as red flags?

Kelly6 · Answer

lies no loyalty or trust

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

All  of the above.

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