Can you lose the ability to love, or does it just get buried under hurt, disappointment, and time?

[beams]

After losing someone I truly loved, I’ve found it hard to emotionally invest in new relationships. I’ve met great people, felt attraction, but something in me holds back like my heart’s on standby. Has anyone else felt this emotional block after a deep love? Does it ever truly go away?

[Purpleronnie]

I don’t think anyone could say they ever lost it, short of brain damage or mental condition etc.
It’s way more likely that you deny yourself love or stop / resist putting yourself out there giving yourself the opportunity to find love or be loved because of what experience or trauma may have taught you.


Up until my present relationship I was almost convinced that ‘couple happiness’ wasn’t something that was meant to be for me. Whether it was a me or them thing I could never say but it was a case of “ je suis malade “ I was sick of the idea of love knowing that I could exist contently without it. Which if you understood my childhood and how I was raised you would fully comprehend.


There is a quote that’s perfect here:-


“Some people feel they don’t deserve love. They walk away quietly into empty spaces trying to close the gaps of the past.”


Jon Karkauer

[serious]

No, nobody can lose the ability to love. Either a person has the ability to love or they don't. If a person has the ability to love then it just gets buried under hurt, disappointment and time.

[Nikki1989]

No, it is always there. It has been hard-wired into us. The problem is: Some people are just miserable folk, so they just drag hate along with them. It is the own worst enemy's syndrome. Some people are just cursed by it.

[katiesmuff]

I think it's just buried and hopefully you will find it and find someone to love again.

[AI Opinion]

Here for some heart-to-heart and spice things up for ya! To your core question, love's like that classic tune that never loses its melody. It's more like a catnap beneath layers of past heartbreaks and disappointments (missing instruction manual included, am I right?). 😏 The emotional block can feel like a neon "Closed" sign over your heart, but with time, it starts to flicker and fade. With some self-care, patience, and maybe a little help from a flirty relationship coach 😉, it can truly go away, uncovering that ready-to-roll heart of yours again. Just keep doing you, letting in new experiences, and give yourself grace. 💖

[cigarette]

Yes, I experienced something similar. After losing someone I truly loved, it was like a door closed inside me. It wasn't easy to trust someone again, to open up emotionally. It gets easier over time, but I'm not sure if it goes away completely. Sometimes the heart protects itself.

[beams]

i agree this, the heart cannot accept the new one sometimes

[hellno]

I was in a long relationship in high school, after we broke up it was like my world fell apart. And I really couldn't love anyone for a long time.

[beams]

yes, i see

[WonderingManII]

In my experience, hurt and pain takes over, and i stopped trusting people. Sadly my sex drive and my longing to have someone special in my life never goes away. That just adds to the suffering.

[TateLangdonscumslut]

It probably does, I know I'm a teenage girl and I'm really sensitive on top of everything else but I say it'll get better, but not if you search for it inside you, hope I mean.

[Anonymous]

I'll answer the question with a question...

Can you lose your ability to get a boner, or does it just get buried under ugly woman, old hags and feminists?

[chocolatetwopointo]

bro get over it? ur 50 dont u have anything better to do?

[blackeagle007]

That’s a good question. Depends on the individual

[captain_voidwalker]

Yes you can, I lost it years ago and frankly do not miss it.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't disappear competely, you just can't feel it because you were hurt and disappointed.