What makes someone lose their ability to fall in love?

[Anonymous]

[t-8900]

Heartbreak, repeated betrayals, being used, abuse. I'm can be fixed with counseling or with positive reinforcement from someone who takes the time to care. When you think you have everything figured out and then your blindsided by blan act of kindness you never imagined receiving? Yeah I can say for me it does make it possible to love again. Just takes someone willing to remove the hardshell that was placed there. Most bitter men were once the nice guys ladies went for. The guys women have fun with on a Saturday night don't give 2 shits about them

[Anonymous]

Falling deeply in love for what feels like “no reason.” Like the end result is that they become strangers, the person who loved gets hurt or betrayed, and never hurt the other person or felt that they did anything wrong other than love the other person more than the other person loved them. When you feel like the biggest mistake you made in a relationship was loving the wrong person it makes it hard to even believe in love again. Especially when the other person had big offenses like lying, cheating, leaving you for someone else, ghosting, physically abusive etc. and you regret nothing more than that you chose to stay long enough to let them break you

[zzombie]

There is no simple answer to a question like this because it depends on the situation. I can list some reasons but just keep in mind these may not apply to you. :)

1. Lots of arguing/fighting.
2. You're in love with someone else.
3. Finacial/emotional issues that lead to overwhelming amounts of stress
4. Lack of resepct, appreciation, or value.
5. Unfaithfulness/cheating.
and last but not least...
6. We are human.
Humans are designed to fall in and out of love until we finally get it right. It happens, and it's never easy. But it is necessary for growth. Hope this helps.

[ScottStevens]

Wow, that is an intense question.

let me start by saying you will fall in love. You asked the question by using the word “ability” to fall in love.

you have the ability to fall in love. Right now you are missing the desire to fall in love.

You must be in pain, a pain beyond a bad relationship. That pain is yours to endure not mine. I have felt my own pain but I cannot feel yours.

pls do not give up up your heart wanting to feel the love you deserve. The right person will also fall in love with you

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Philophobia is an overwhelming and unreasonable fear of falling in love, beyond just a typical apprehensiveness about it. The phobia is so intense that it interferes with your life. A person can lose the WILL to love, certainly, but they cannot lose the ability or know how. Love is the WILL to nurture the growth/wellbeing of another human. This is something that we learn to do over time. Whether we want to do it to someone or even to ourselves is a whole nother issue.

[Asker]

Love is the WILL to nurture the growth/wellbeing of another human

I feel like it’s all for nothing, there’s nothing magical about it, nothing special about one person over the other.

I’ve never had sex, but do I lack an ability to pair bond?

[cth96190]

If the pain of a broken heart is sufficient, it will rewrite the software upon which a person’s brain operates.
My first girlfriend broke my heart on 17 December 1978.
Three months later, when I reassembled the pieces of my mind, the folder titled ‘romantic love’ was missing from the operating system.

[Ceslovas]

In love with song'it takes a lot to understand a woman'and when you do the spark is gone... it is not a heart that is broken...
It is lack of understanding of another human and blame of another human being🙂blaming is one of mind ego mechanism that helps to protect us experiencing a pain untill we ready to process the situation. I. think everything comes in stages. It is sad when when one's is stuck in first stages for a long or ages 🙂because if we squeeze in to contract our whatever feelings, we no longer can experience (feel) another fellow being or life itself around us fully. I am talking about suppressed/repressed not expressed/processed feelings and JOY.

[Anonymous]

cheating, taking someone for granted, not being appreciative of the things someone does for somebody else, no manners not saying thank you or please, not showing affection to the other person, not communicating actually talking to the other person like he's an actual person like actually dm or text or call or email or write the person directly and not in a broad general public post thing. not saying or hardly saying i love you to the person. not saying or hardly saying good morning or good night or asking him how his day is. the constant drug use and alcohol use, the constant drama, hanging around and associating with bad people, and once again the cheating

[ToastyOats]

Heart break. Its a lot easier for two people to become better people than it is to break up. One of my better qualities is being able to improve myself when it is required in my relationships. Two people with that skill will rarely have trouble in their marriage.

[Adam1978]

Growing up in a family that's lacks it and actually make you very careful to not get into a relationship then get that kind of relationship.

[Vikkrram]

Can't express their feelings to others. It's like you love them a lot... but ur behaviour say a different stories. It's coz of shyness.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s trust. If it’s constantly taken you eventually give up. If you have no trust it’s hard to fall in love because you have to give yourself over

[CordetteMonet]

- Seeing many failed relationships.
- Getting hurt too much from romantic experiences.

[haooy]

Getting hurt, looking back at it and feel like I wasted so much time efforts.
I still believe all it takes is the right person.

[pinaypixie]

Nothing. We are humans. Our brains are designed to “fall in love” because we thrive on serotonin and dopamine

[Jayplays900]

Trauma and/or Phobias

Gynophobia is getting more common nowadays.

[grega239]

Past experiences and years of isolation because of said experiences

[Shinitai38]

For me, being hurt so many times. There’s no point because my love is always (for as long as I could remember) unrequited.

[Chadilsa]

Poor communication, unwillingness to work through conflict, and unclear expectations and needs.

[Brown-Kitty]

Lying comes first then cheating comes second

[Qdbrown]

Fear after a number of failures...

[Mofunfour20]

Respect for the other person was lost.

[brianwong007]

Turning into asexual?

[serious]

@brianwong007

Correction. One cannot turn asexual.

No. Asexuality is not a choice. Yes I suppose you are referring to celibacy. Celibacy is a choice not asexuality.

A person is either asexual or they are not.

[Rachelspiks]

@serious Asexuals don't exist, and people who claim to be asexual are, as Dr. House put it, "either lying or sick".

[serious]

@Rachelspiks

That is fine. I am not trying to convince you or anyone but I believe in what I said and there is no change in that.

It doesn't matter whether you believe Whatever Dr House says or not, I believe in what I say.

[Rachelspiks]

@serious What you believe is wrong though. Doesn't that bother you?

[serious]

@Rachelspiks

Well I can say the same thing back to you. Anyways it is fine. Let's not argue about this.

For the other part. No, it doesn't bother me at all. Have a nice day.

[exitseven]

Getting their heart broken too many times.

[pink_and_inlove]

Probably getting hurt so many times

[Xylem1992]

Heartbreak.
If left undealt with of course.

[scooogy]

Being hurt over and over again.

[sponge-bob]

the whole friends with benefits thing

[bigslab]

Betrayal would be one of them

[elduderinosupreme]

Repeated Instances of betrayal and other things.

[TheAfrikan]

When no more surprises to keep it up interesting.

[Papabubbles]

Rejection and pain. I feel numb all the time.

[Finchie40]

Selfishness

[BlacklightShade]

Maturity.

[Yaharro]

Depression rejection

[scott04sa22]

Craziness

[OddBeMe]

Psychopathy.

[Julious0202]

many disappointments