What makes people fall out of love?

[Anonymous]

[NathanDavis]

many things, few things, a lot of things... but I would point out one the most, and that could be the lack of -proper- communication

because when there's no proper communication, many issues can arise... and some from the very start, for example... two people get in a relationship but they get into it with different goals, different ideas or intentions. One could be thinking of long term, the other would be focused in the moment...

maybe both in the relationship are on the same page from the get go, however... life and people and situations do change, they do develop, time happens and life happens with it always... if there's no proper communication, then, people can start to grow apart and this can be a problem of course... also, very common when one side has a concern, a problem, an issue... anything that is not communicated therefore not addressed so it starts to cause damage, whether is resentment, friction, tension... fights, arguments you name it... relationships can deteriorate that way

but let's say a couple in a relationship, started on the same page, and they also addressed differences and solved them on time... but, they have lasted longer, and although they were aware, they still changed, their relationship changed and now they want different things in life, or from life... sometimes you're still very much in love with someone but that someone needs different and it's something you cannot give, or pursue... or you're just not wanting it as much them, could be marriage, children... careers, moving out... and so many other things and then you could sacrifice all those things to keep that love but sometimes love is not enough even with the proper communication and all the efforts, sometimes a love completes it's cycle and this is more common with younger people who of course have a lot more changes to go through... and can also happen to older people that been together for a longer time and have gone through a lot more things in life

[Asker]

Best response i've got so far

[ohshee]

This is a hard question because everybody is different in my experience it's because something happens it changes everything instead of talking about it and working it out we decide to stay pissed off. Pride and principle gets in the way someone always feels the need to tell the other one what to do and everything that is said it's with an attitude. And if you do that take a good look at yourself you become just plain rude you can't even be friends anymore but that's the whole thing is you could be you just don't want to be. You just start having thoughts of freedom you want to be happy again but you can't be because that person will not allow you to. It says if one person is mad everybody has to be mad I don't know if you really fall out of love I just think that you're not in love anymore even though there is a bond and they love their there will always be there it's just not the same as it was before and when it's like that you have to get away to be honest I don't know. LMAO I think like I said it's different for everybody and the worst part about it is if your kid and your parents fall out of love and they do it in front of you that's the heartbreaker I hope you're okay

[Asker]

Im okay haha, it was a general question

[SkyCastle90]

When they make a potentially good relationship unnecessarily hard.

1. Treating communication like a chore
2. Dismissing concerns with, "oh that always happens."
3. Immaturity
4. Forgetfulness
5. Constantly tellinh little white lies thinking it's funny.
6. Broken promises


That's just to name a few. It's exhausting; especially when you love this person. All that piles up and creates resentment. Like, "Am I a joke to you?" "Why am I even here?" In my opinion, resentment kills relationships in the worse way because it rotting it from the inside out; at least with cheating or abuse you can clearly see who is at fault, but resentment you cannot really pinpoint what the problem is, it's just an overall feeling of dissatisfaction/unhappiness.

[sage2021]

When you start to feel like you are the guys sister instead of a love interest. But you go along with it - sometimes longer than you should have. He needs you for different things, yet he keeps saying how much he loves you. Feeling like he's more of a brother as time goes on.

[SecretsofKB]

Time. For me it was time.

My last relationship ended abruptly when they moved across the country. It just took a lot of time for that love to dissipate.

[exitseven]

I dated somebody for 4 years , 3 of them were long distance. She really did not put much effort into the relationship. I wrote her at least once a week (this was before e-mail and Skype) I would hear from her 2 or 3 times a year. I would fly 1500 miles to see her and lots of times she would be too busy to spend much time with me. She really was the world's worst girlfriend. The last time I went out to see her she shows up at the airport in a blue hoodie that was dirty from some art project she was working on. Her hair was in some weird perm and it was combed over to one side. She told me that she almost forgot to come to the airport to pick me up. At that moment I looked at her and saw her maybe for the first time. All of a sudden she was not cute anymore and I really felt differently about her. I tried to get those feelings out of my head and we talked about getting married. I just did not feel the same way about her. In a few months I called her one Saturday night and broke up with her.

[Asker]

Dang, that sucks.. she wrote you back only twice or thrice a year? that's messed up.. Wow, you put a lot of effort into the relationship, but she didn't seemed to have.

I'm so sorry, but good thing you broke up with her :)

[exitseven]

@tatianamay When you have a really bad relationship it makes you appreciate having a really good relationship. I met my future wife right after that and saw how a good relationship was supposed to be.

[Asker]

Agreed! Glad you met your future wife right after that. You needed a good relationship. Especially after a very toxic one.

[exitseven]

@tatianamay Thank you, you are very kind. I do not know if they celebrate Thanksgiving in Antarctica but I hope you have a nice day.

[t-8900]

Y'know seriously he only had au I've ever fell out of love is when they did me dirty. Lot of girls on here his site talk about men who are ever bastards who cheat. Well I've had my fair share of cheaters too. The sad thing is that even after they did it I still loved them because my heart is stupid like that. But I broke it off with them. Sometimes it too months, even years to get over that. I love hard and it gets me into trouble a lot. It's one of my fatal flaws I think. Some women must think I'm the type to stick around and mistake my kindness and big heart for weakness like I'm gonna stay. But I won't even though part of me cares a lot. But anytime you got a cheater they'll cheat again eventually so I cut em loose. Besides cheating is such a heinous act it doesn't deserve forgiveness. And the person cheated on deserves better. by the way to anyone out there that sleeps with married people, you're a POS too just saying.

[t-8900]

Sorry for grammar and typos omg. When it's this bad you know it's on my damn phone ugh

[Lucy68]

For me it was the abuse and the constant drinking and drugs (my ex was an alcoholic who did a good bit of drugs) and cheating. You eventually wake up one morning not having the feelings for them anymore, even though you were the one that did love them. Within time you realize this isn't the person you would want to marry and have children with.

[Asker]

Dmn, toxic relationships suck the life out of people. Its terrible. Im so sorry. Hugs 💛

[DonkeyDan]

There can be so many things that cause people to fall out of love, never really being compatible in the first place, seeking lust rather than love, changing personalities, getting together too young, infidelity. The list goes on and is virtually infinite.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

As time goes on people will eventually get sick of each other at least in secret they do even though they won't admit.

Nothing is exciting nor fresh anymore as it was in the beginning. Time just wears all things off.

Also the reality humans aren't the most lovable species neither.

Humans tend to over value themselves and underestimate their 💩 nature.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of reasons who people fall out of love. Honestly, I think the main reason is giving up on the relationship entirely. You can be with someone for years, you get comfortable and don’t care to take time out for that person. It’s with anything, the more you don’t put the time and effort in for someone, the more the love for them fades.

[Anonymous]

Smelly breath and armpits. Weak or cry baby, no goals, nagging and criticism. Can't Clean, cook or work. Complains too much about petty stuff. Lazy; can't do it to me right, never romantic, never have time for me, smothering me, jealousy, cheating and lying. Disrespectful, never have anything positive to say, doesn't support me, always gotta beg him, he club hop and hoe hop, lost communication, no understanding, always shifting blame...
I can go all night

[cryscrys1]

Nowadays is easy to fall out of love because people have access to lots of stimulations. And love is confusing to most people. They are looking for a specific meaning or action.. 2 people can’t fall in love same time is a scam.

[HellGeist]

Marriage.

Bankruptcy.

Kids.

Time.

There's more to it than that, but I would be here all day. Lol.

Achieving limerance is no longer likely anymore because times have changed.

[Ninani]

Reality. Being "in love" is a perception and falling out of love is seeing more nuances and realising that they're different from that perception and not being able to accept those parts as well.

[Beautyforeverybody]

To me , it’s when my partner is ignorant, does not like animals and controlling. No matter how handsome he is, I can’t put up with any of that

[Blackcupcake]

exhaustion… someone who makes me physically and mentally exhausted when I’m around them, because of horrible communication, lack of trust, dumb fights, excessive jealousy etc.

[kyleelyn199723]

A ton of reasons. Mostly people that were never in love to begin with.

[Poobutt711]

For me... Nothing... If I fell out of love I was never in love to begin.. but confused... When you truly love someone you love them forever and nothing stops you loving them

[ItsMeElliana]

is that true?

[The_Maphio]

It's considerably easier that falling in love. The reasons are varied, and manyfold.

[RichSD]

When they make plans without the other person that seem better than plans with them.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think when they see too much of one another or when one spends too much time with their friends, video games, etc.

[Toldol2]

Not evolving towards the same direction mentally or not Knowing your partner to start with

[mark000h]

Cheating, jealousy, lack of trust, money problems, different priorities... just a few