What makes you fall out of love?

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the_lonely_stoner420 · Accepted Answer

If im your second option, lack of showing interest, if i can't just sit down and talk thats also a big falling out factor

Unit1 · Accepted Answer

Being ignored, ghosted, neglected...

1Sophisticatedme · Answer

Personality, and lying to your face.

Finchie40 · Answer

If your partner is selfish, only really cares about themselves , makes you feel like you aren’t good enough when communication dies down and they don’t really listen to you anymore and care about your feelings , always nagging or complaining over things , puts you down , usually means they are cheating on you , When they do a complete 360 on you , they changed and not the same person , they don’t make you a priority anymore you’re just a convenience to them , they don’t show much affection towards you , sex life dies down , you still care about them and love them for the memories you had together in the past but you realize things aren’t the same between you 2 anymore they exclude you from things and start having a separate life then you , they start making their friends more of a priority then you are , that’s when you walk away and end it , most people will stay in this type of relationship because of kids and they feel it’s just a phase their partner is going through and things will eventually get better again the sad thing it doesn’t , so you’re best to end it and move on and find someone that values you and wants to stand by your side. But people usually don’t do this either they stay with their partner and have affairs

snowboarder720 · Answer

When there’s ZERO intimacy.
Dating my ex was very dull. She never made any effort in keeping me interested in her. After awhile it felt like we were just friends and it stayed like that for months. She wouldn’t even kiss me goodbye. I’d be lucky for a hug from her. I lost interest dating her because I was convinced she didn’t have any intimacy for me while I’m the one that’s making all the first moves. I was bothered because I felt that she may have been uncomfortable from kisses and such.
I eventually knew that I need to communicate my feelings towards her and let her know that I wasn’t happy with this friendship (because that’s all it was). She began to sob (?). I was pretty confused because I was expecting her to just say “Okay, that’s fair; I understand how you can feel that way”. I was totally confused why she felt sad when I told her my feelings and I never want to force her into doing something she didn’t want. I feel like a bad person when I demand kisses from her. That stuff should come more natural, ya know?

Anyway she said wanted to stay in a relationship but I could feel that she’d feel uncomfortable moving forward. If we were to go the distance and have these problems now then... I know this would be a BIGGER problem later on. So I ended our relationship as nicely as possible.

... and that’s a long story of my dating situation 😆

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

A loss of accountability, particularly, when "leveling up" (aka getting exclusive, boyfriend/girlfriend label, moving in together, getting engaged etc). An increase of commitment should NOT result to an unequal distribution of labor, lifestyle, and love.

Some people will "commit to a label" without an intention to act upon their increase of accountability to each other. still wondering if x, y or z is "cheating" after being exclusive? Still blaming your partner for "taking your freedom away?" or still questioning if she's the one after an engagement?

I need to be moving "forward" in a relationship, not wondering if my partner is looking backwards over his shoulder. I like looking forward, anticipating new things, even if its boring like waiting for the next tv season to come around or picking out couples costumes for the next seasonal holiday.

buddies · Answer

Consider your question. Falling into love implies that there was no thinking... it was a mistake, a fall, a fumble. You walked into love blindly. In that case... are you sure its love? Maybe its infatuation, admiration, or respect, mistaken for love. When or if the person that "fell in love" starts to open their eyes, things they held as true may not be true. Take a blind person for instance, and assume that they think their favorite blanket is blue. But then, they get surgery, and they can see... but the blanket that they thought was blue, was really green. There would be a dissatisfaction, a disappointment. They would then see a blue blanket, and discard the green one... the one that was not what they thought it was.
This can happen in love too. You can't see a person's colors if your eyes are closed.

keddesh · Answer

If I have to sum it up shortly, my word would be "time". nothing is as opaque as the future, nothing is as clear as the past. The present is where we fall in love, and that's somewhere between future and past. All that we know is what we know with that moment, And also as time moves people change, or stay the same in a way that is detrimental. The hope is always to find someone whom you can grow with, or resist a change with, but often times you'll find someone at a different part in their journey than yours so you grow apart. It's all the crap shoot, and time separates the winners from the losers.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

ideally a good relationship requires 4 key pillars to last the test of time. physical attraction, mental attraction, emotional attraction and sexual attraction. which all need to remain in sync with each other. if anyone of them fall out of alignment. the rest of the relationship could follow. if you don't address it together and course correct the matter.

Myk13 · Answer

When you no longer have the desire to put in the work that is required to make a relationship work. Whatever the reason. It’s a choice that we continuously make. Day after day until we no longer care. Then we don’t even want to be with the other person any more. So many people will even get to the point where they have convinced themselves that their partner cheated or is just a piece of shit. Thane they feel justified in leaving for somebody else.

Jjjjgghhh · Answer

Nothing

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if my love was temporary love and I didn’t really love her soul but jus thought I did, then I can usually fall out of love after 1 year of no contact

but true love never dies, if you find that one special person who’s soul you love, you will love them forever, even after years without contact

Anonymous · Answer

I was in love but he hit me sometimes and it made me not love him anymore and I left. I cried a lot but it was the best decision for me. I missed him a lot until I found a new guy who is kind and doesn't get physical even in arguments. I am better off now by FAR

triff · Answer

Love is hard to fall into and can be easily mistaken for lust or infatuation In such cases where love hasn't been present the relationships have dwindled Sometimes you just out grow each other But real love conquers and can not be broken

Superticklighgirl · Answer

When you are "in love" with someone, it is a love you cannot control. So, unless some person changes dramatically and is not the person you married, then you fall out of love with them. Being neglected or abused also make people fall out of love.

SebastianPlanet6 · Answer

cheating would be my number one reason for falling out of love followed by stuff like if she does what we both agreed shouldn’t be done, Or if she hangs out with people I consider not very appropriate and have discussed them with her, ...

Anonymous · Answer

Becoming just good friends. With no sexual chemistry. But tied down with a marriage. House. Work and kids... not as easy to walk away from... but we all need excitement and passion. Hard to find it with someone your too comfortable with. And feel like your best friend.

Elsa143 · Answer

DISHONESTY, eyeing other girls, sneaky or secretive, MANIPULATIVE, irresponsible, lacks empathy, egoistic, taking me for granted, too social and good quantity of friends rather than the QUALITY.

Not_Average · Answer

Lack of moral character when faced with hardship. Lack of integrity. Lack of loyalty. Lack of respect.

mindNsoul · Answer

Cheating, dishonesty, control, jealousy, disappointment, absence, lack of affection

CubanLove · Answer

Lack of sex, constantly arguing or just argumentative. Always worried about their needs or talk about themselves a lot, one sided or selfish behavior.

Lycirian · Answer

Not trusting someone who is faithful specially if you know that you can trust this person. It is so disrespectful.

Anonymous · Answer

He stops making an effort in the relationship, becomes detached, changes in a negative way, and of course cheating Ill fall out of love in a second if that happens to me.

GlitterFairy16 · Answer

When someone who i loved turns into someone different from who i fell in love with and starts treating me badly

SexyAshh · Answer

Clinginess. Or if i feel too comfortable lije you're predictable and too stable, I instantly get turned off.

secertgirlttt · Answer

u would be surprised by my answer but TOO MUCH OF ATTENTION!

Juxtapose · Answer

Disloyalty Dishonesty Stupidity A closed mind Being left on "read" (huge pet peeve) Denial of sex Insults Etc, etc.

JackieJaii · Answer

When the things I found quirky about them in the beginning becomes annoying

ariadneR · Answer

Lack of communication, which leads to the breakdown of trust. Then there's abuse and cheating

BackAgain602 · Answer

Constant arguing, cheating, abuse (physical and/or verbal).

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I don't fall in or out of love. I choose or choose not to love. If I am giving love and she is unfaithful, I withdraw my former affections.

Anonymous · Answer

Cheating, lying, feeling neglected, or overall mean and unfriendly.

Browneye57 · Answer

Chikky - for women is is ALWAYS ALL about the FEELZ. :)

An_Impulse · Answer

lies. indifference. friends of my partner. those sort of stuff.

Hyouma · Answer

Bring stabbed with a potato peeler usually is an incentive

AsDaGask · Answer

Broken promises, broken trust, realisation that I’m just being used.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

That hasn't happened to me, so I wouldn't know what that's like

laminjanneh · Answer

Because love is just a word until some one comes a long and give it's meaning you. You are that meaning

Anonymous · Answer

When you get bored and you dont see it going anywhere

Anonymous · Answer

when she screws around with other guys while she's with you

Anonymous · Answer

Lack of attention, not spending time together, not feeling heard, lack of intimate conversations etc.

sheikalana · Answer

Being ignored. I lose interest when I'm ignored.

elsayoung · Answer

Constant fighting & no sexual attraction

Zarapeachy · Answer

Feeling alone in the relationship...

Sukituki · Answer

Cheating/breaking my trust

jshm2 · Answer

When they become less lovable.

Sparda20xx · Answer

Feeling like I don't matter to the person

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Cheating disrespect and abuse

Hope65 · Answer

When the person becomes gross

JimboGB · Answer

My partner's Selfishness and Greed.

UglyButHonorable · Answer

Every guy falls for the T. I. T. S

Andreadeb · Answer

not feeling seekd, both sexually and not

smellfarts · Answer

No communication or trust it’s over.

lazermazer · Answer

It can be either knowingly or unknowingly,

stonehill3085 · Answer

Being treated like I'm not good enough

Anonymous · Answer

Cheating, lies, being lazy

Kaduhumai · Answer

Too much expectations

msc545 · Answer

Being cheated on does it every time

henlousers · Answer

Getting yeeted haedfirst into love.

hamzaell · Answer

when they take you for granted and stop trying.

Vide_Noir · Answer

Cheating, unloyal

TikiTook · Answer

Disrespect

That1tallguy · Answer

Saggy boobs

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