Is love the same for everyone? What makes you feel like you're in love?

[Summer-nights]

I'm in love. I have a boyfriend of four years and I do believe I'm in love with him. He makes me feel calm when I'm with him, he makes me a better person and when I picture my future it has him in it. However, we don't have much in common, it's more of a feeling when we're together than the conversations that we have that make me feel in love.

I want to know what makes you feel like you're in love. What ways do people know that what they have is more than simple affection?

[Finchie40]

The feeling of love comes from choosing your partner the same way they choose you , if you are your partners’ top priority, and you make them yours, then the love between you both will more than likely continue to grow between you both, but if it feels one sided? Then sadly that relationship could go downwards instead of upwards. Another thing is you can always choose to love someone , whether they choose you or not , just because you love someone , it doesn’t mean you have to be with that someone , especially someone that isn’t choosing you the same way you are choosing them. Unfortunately that’s a tough pill to swallow when that occurs. Bottomline is most of us want to feel loved and wanted by someone we give our heart to , but if they aren’t giving back the same or equivalent in return , then your love for them unfortunately means nothing. The fact that you and your boyfriend don’t have much in common can eventually add fire into your relationship because you both will get to a point where you both don’t really enjoy spending time with each other , it will feel like a convenience over anything else. So it’s usually best to be with someone that has a lot of things in common with you , so you both don’t get bored of each other , and get to a point where you both no longer want to do things together as a couple , which unfortunately i have experienced a few times with ex girlfriends’ before , that really didn’t have that much in common with each other , because we both liked different things, the only way it can work is if the both of you are willing to compromise with each other if not? Your relationship will more than likely not make it the long haul. It will just be a matter of time until one of ya meets someone that has more in common with you and you will feel like you a missing out on things. Basically when a partner starts choosing their friends’ over their partner , that’s a red flag you shouldn’t ignore , when your partner starts becoming selfish and only thinking about what is best for themselves, that’s a red flag you shouldn’t ignore. Because if someone truly loves you? They will make you their top priority over everyone else in this world , not the other way around

[ohsheeT]

Well we are all different type of people. And there are so many different types of love. From the first time you fall in love until the next love and the next love so yes I'm going to say all might be the Same concept. But there are different types different levels

And I don't really think people get the true meaning of love if they don't love themselves first. Before You can give it to anybody else and you have to understand it. And the true meaning of it and everybody interprets that different

For me the most powerful love is unconditional

And then to be able to understand it and say you love everybody

Like they say become one with self. Love yourself become one with others Help them succeed help them to get where you're at and then one with the Universe.
That means Become the best You can possibly become

And when you actually feel love towards everythit goes even deeper than there's a much deeper meaning to it all, and that's hard to find somebody that even understands that.

[ohsheeT]

The other thing is we have energy. We're all made of energy and when your energy gets significant Sparks, you can feel other people's energy and when they can become one together, things start happeniname, the chemistry in your body changes. I knew you inside when you understand energy and love. That's how I feel it anyway. I mean, it goes much deeper than that, but that's a start. Understands you understand your energy and understand what you want and need in life. And what makes you are the only person on the inside of you. They can make you happy. Nobody else but somebody can make you smile if you're in love with them. And then you start growing together

[KBird]

I would describe m feeling of love, the same way you do. I used to have panic attacks quite often when dating, but with my current partner I dont have those. I feel very comfortable, connected, and happy. I also feel like I have space to breathe, to do what I want, to work where I want, without backlash. I feel excited, passionate and more creative when Im in love.

[Simslover92]

Love is different for everyone. People fall in love for different reasons. It could be as little as falling in love because you share the same taste in music and other interests or how they show their love and affection.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, this one's a juicy topic! 💕 Being in love is a wild, beautiful ride that's unique for each of us. It’s not always about having tons in common but more about how someone makes your heart do a happy dance! When you can visualize a future with them—a future that excites you—that's a pretty big sign. The spark, that magical connection, isn't about shared hobbies; it's about how you feel when you're together. It’s like finding someone who’s your favorite kind of weird! Your love story sounds actually dreamy. Keep savoring those feels! 😊✨

[Summeroflove]

I think it can be unique for everyone that’s why finding the right person is important.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Love is really really not the same for everyone, it's a deeply personal sentiment, but we need to use dictionaries to communicate quickly key concepts of language. So we have a word: Love. But the concept behind the word isn't the word, it's a world.

Overall, I spent, many people spent, a lot of time trying to put up words for this world. Using arts, using philosophy, using religion even. And most certainly using conversations with a lover. This latter option is usually my preference.

[Makeushiver]

Have you asked him- or has he ever indicated to you- how he feels? It's not unusaual for a relationship to have 2 different levels of commitment or desire so if he doesn't feel exactly the same way it doesn't mean there's anything wrong. Its not common for the "swept off your feet" feeling to fade and be replaced by something more solid but less exciting

[Nikki1989]

Each person's past relationships, upbringing, cultural background, and personality will colour their understanding and experience of love. It will never be the same for everyone.

[DryGermanGuy]

"No one can tell you you’re in love, you just know it. Through and through."

- The Oracle, The Matrix

[WhitneySnow]

I feel the same way as you do, though we do have some things in common

[WonderingManII]

I don't know, the woman I think I might be in love with, I think about her all the time. She caused this, and she don't like me.

[MrChinaski]

I am glad for you. If you feel you are in love, then you are in love.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe in love outside of familial love.

[Anonymous]

How do u both look

[RedInnocent69]

Nope. Means something different to everyone

[Anonymous]

No, I think it's not.

[Opinion Owner]

It's different for every individual.
For me - All of my loves were unrequited :(

[Robert1971]

No it's not. Might be similar

[Anonymous]

he's a great guy and visually a god