For me someone too talkative or egocentric. Although they might have had many experiences in life, the tone they use and the way they always twist things to make it about them again bores me strikingly fast.
Do you think it’s solely about not being quick witted? Is it also just behavioural at times?
Do you feel all quiet and shy people are boring in a way?
Quiet and shy doesn't necessarily mean boring. Some people are thoughtful and take their time about what they say. They might say less than most people, but what they say has weight to it.
As you mention, instant boredom comes from someone who's only talking about themselves, as IF you're interested in them without asking. And a one-sided conversation is indeed boring. Also, has to do with the subject matter. If you're not interested in travel, scuba diving or art , and the person you're talking to drones on about those subjects, your brain will shut down.
And there is that note: droning. If you're speaking to someone who is not participating in the conversation after you've asked "what do you think?" "Have you ever done this?" "What are your hobbies?" Then gracefully bow out and move on.
That person isn't interested, for whatever reason. And if the drone is the other person; excuse yourself to the bathroom, the bar or a quiet corner. Don't allow yourself to be used and abused.
I like how the question is worded “boring TO YOU” someone may be boring to me but not boring to other people so don’t take this too harshly.
1. Trying to impress me in a really obvious way like trying to act rich or important.
2. Talking non stop about something I am not interested in, like politics or music, it might sound funny that I list music along w politics but it actually happens a lot, going on and on how important some musician is or how bad some musician is (usually how bad a musician I like is lol).
Quick witted can be amusing but I have noticed those people have a set number of lines to trot out appropriately and are not as quick witted as they seem on first acquaintance.
Agree that people who take anything that is said and relates it to them to then make it all about them are not only boring but annoying. I've seen a woman in that category on learning another woman had lost a relative express great sympathy and related it to her loss of her grandfather a decade ago and then rambled on about her loss. Not only boring and annoying but quite disgusting as well.
Some people have one working synapse and I find those pretty annoying and boring too.
They’re a leftist. Also if I can tell someone’s full of shit exaggerating stories or even flat out lying to me about things makes me angry.
I’m fine if someone likes to talk but as you said it really depends. Shy? No they’re not boring many times they are very interesting people who just don’t waste their energy on people who don’t matter they share things with people they trust. Even many outgoing people aren’t just a open book because there are some things you just don’t need to share with everyone.
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Excessive whining, sense of entitlement or pretentiousness are boring to me. Someone earlier was telling me how to sit in a space that I've been at for over ten years. I just looked and said, "It's not my first time here, but thank you for your opinion." in a kind-but-firm tone that basically told her to buzz off. I wasn't interested in her $1K suit and fake superiority at all.
Similarly, if someone is at a dance and (1) won't dance, (2) complains about everything and (3) is planning to stand in the corner all night nursing one beverage, they're bringing down the energy of the room and the event.
It's important to politely distance oneself from such people and then move on so that you're at least able to enjoy your day.
Generally when someone either doesn’t have much to say when trying to engage in conversation (or they talk so much it’s hard to have any input), we simply don’t have anything in common or a combination. I honestly don’t mind if someone is either quiet or more talkative tbh (have very outgoing and introverted friends) but if you can’t have an actual conversation with the person they’re not worthwhile to put energy into
Someone that doesn't have any hobbies or interests. I've come across so many people that have no idea what they like in life. They're just drifting along and don't have much to say. They seem to just want money so they can have a good standard of life. There's no essence to them.
People that don't have opinions also bore me. Terrible conversationalists.
People that think their shit don’t stink and everything’s about themselves , they have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves , Those type of people annoy the shit out of me, and I just walk away from them
What makes someone intolerably boring to me is when I'm 5 minutes into a conversation and I've had to stop 5 times to explain some basic concept that came up in the conversation. I want to have conversations with adults, not a child that needs constant explanations about how the world works. Stuff like where the Pacific Ocean is located or which direction is north or how government is structured.
When someone doesn't have a sense of humor... it really ruins the mood for me.
Like almost nothing makes them laugh and they do this when someone who is literally funny jokes around
@7Phoenix7 I'll laugh if you're actually funny. The funniest girl I ever saw was Soph on youtube, maybe the funniest person I've ever saw of either sex.
@DonaldDarko show me a video haha
She wasn't around for long. When she stared she was just a kid which I think is what made her go so viral at the time. She got in trouble in school over things she said on youtube which is bull shit and none of the schools business anyway. I think to shut her up they made a deal and she went behind a pay wall. Nothing good ever came out of that. But here early stuff was gold. I was able to find this video she did on Gretta Thunberg. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RmPcKrlN0tg
Someone is boring to me if:
They have no interest in science, sci-fi, or fantasy
They have no interest in cartoons/anime.
They are bad at video games or don't enjoy them.
They have low or even average intelligence.
They choose to complain rather than fix a problem.
They are not creative/not artistic.
They are lazy or enjoy doing nothing.
They are jaded.
They aren't hyper.
They aren't motivated or don't have grand ambitions.
They have no interest in wildlife.
They think drugs are enjoyment (especially downers, people who like those are extra boring)
They are jocks/sports enthusiasts.
They are religious.
They revolve their personality around sex, romance, a disability, a problem, drugs, alcohol, social status, family issues, social movements, violence, politics, or just drama in general.
Lack of intelligence. Lack of common interests. rambling on conspiracy theories that have little to no tether to reality. MAGA ramblings. Cult mentality. Pathological liar. Tries to conversate with no context or any substance. Being talked over. Bragging. Trying to 1-up. Sports bro. Has nothing to talk about but work. Lack of having any interests or hobbies. Long winded talking. One-sided conversating. Can't just be themselves. Fake persona. Constantly talks about drama. Keeps talking about subjects i have explicitly said i have 0 interest in.
Quiet try seemingly boring people are like diamonds in the rough. They just need some attention and polishing and they shine!
If you want me to think you're boring simply just pay attention to your phone while we're trying to have a conversation
I do tolerate all these scenarios but just not right at the beginning, when I see them for the first time.
It can be just behavioural when that behaviour reminds me of someone else from my past, that's unfortunate but I don't really control that.
The quiet shy scenario is okay but requires more efforts for me, because I tend to use positions where I listen and observe. If someone takes the same position then we're in for a kind of slow motion conversation lol
@Wemix they haven't had their ego torn down by working class jobs - it made me a more humble person ; or at least I'm only human. Yet it's not all about me - and I couldn't stand a similar woman of "old me" who's "all about her" 👀😔👀
Because when we meet, all he says is (1) "Hi," (2), "How are you?" (3) "You are pretty", and (4) "What are you doing?" That is what 90% of all men say.
If a girl replies very slow like for hours or after another day without any genuine excuse.
If she flirts with most guys.
If I'm not her exclusive guy.
If she's lying, cheating, super rude, racist and selfish.
Then it instantly turn me off.
people (mostly women) who base their whole personality over being married, being a wife, or a mother. like... be your own damn person. at least pretend you have a personality away from your relationship status...
it kills me inside when someone only talks about themselves and barely responds to the stuff you say
People pleasers. Any time I get the vibe that I'm talking with someone who's just telling me what they think I want to hear.
If they are nerdy or have nothing in common with me. I tend to dislike really nice guys they have to have a little bit of meanness underneath for me to think they are cool lol.
I'm a quiet guy, but once I talk, I can discuss different topics—sports, politics, religion, life, gender and psychology, etc. But I won't talk about sports or guy stuff if I'm having a convo with females. I'll try to gauge her interests or passions. If she's into birds, I'll talk about that, art, or music. But I don't want to keep yapping because I don't want to seem annoying.
people who think they r better than everyone else and the ones who smoke and drink often
u When their whole personality is doing drugs and smoking weed. And I say this as someone who used to have that personality. It’s lame.
Lack of a sense of humor.
I'm not talking sarcasm which is usually used by aggressive people in a defensive stance. I mean dry or silly. If people can't lighten up they can often drag you down.
Going on and on in detail about complete expert/nerd stuff, for example tax regulations or IT hardware babble or some obscure lawyering.
When they talk about a subject and I don't have anything to say back to the person about the subject.
When they don't talk about anything and themselves.
I like talking about my stuff but I also like them doing it too.
People that bring every conversation instantly back to them.
Or, as in the case of a girl I knew in college, people who talk endlessly about the details of the lives of their friends - that you don't know.
Talking about politics unless something major just occurred.
Entitled and cocky. Opinionated and confrontational.
If they check their cellphone every 5 minutes.
Definitely egocentric makes them boring
And no, quiet shy people are not boring
I find it boring when men bring up sex in the middle of a conversation. It amazes me how men can be so fascinated by sex; it's all just walking sexuality. 🤷🏻♀️
It keeps the species going.
Shy people are boring they have Nothing to say and you gotta do all the talking 90% that bores me
When they show little or no signs of individual thought.
When she starts doing things that are unnatural. Things that you KNOW are just design to evoke a reaction. Then she ceases to be interesting and just become another one of the herd.
When they don't have a personality because they are worried about what everyone thinks.
Great minds discuss Ideas.
Average minds discuss events
Small minds discuss people.
To answer your question they discuss people
when they only want to talk about work, career, compare to others work and career etc and when we can't have meaningful or deeper conversations
Someone who tells lies or speak so much about himself
You hate people who are energetic and talkative? Those people are fun to be around.
pretty much the same, people who also always complain or immediatly judge your choice
People who talk to much, or brag, or always talk about the same things.
Them unable to laugh at themselves.
when they text really dryly without much thought
Talking or bragging too much!
When they talk about the same thing.
When all they do s talk about themself
Someone that won't talk.
There life's story bores me.
Their conversations suck.
judgmental peoples
Lack of intelligence.
People being lazy, they have no drive.
Too much nonsense talk.
Selfish people
A lack of curiosity.
Agreed!
dumb
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