What would you change about your significant other/partner/spouse if you had the chance?

[DreamCrescent]

Or ex, for those of us who aren’t in relationships. Nothing physical, please. This question has to do with personality/character only

[Beckybooboo]

That he wouldn't be so humble. I like to talk about things I love about him and things he's good at but he gets really uncomfortable when he's the center of attention. There's amazing things he's accomplished that I've only found out about through his friends! In a way I can appreciate it though, because he doesn't live in the past and isn't arrogant but I would love to hear about everything that's occurred in his life.

[DreamCrescent]

not bad considering the question is a minefield

[DishLady]

Aside from small things like putting the seat down on the toilet or tossing the milk/juice cartons out rather than leaving them in the fridge with a drop left in them... nothing. If you need to change something major in your man then he's not your man.

[ProbablyClueless]

She's ultra conservative. Like, stunningly ultra conservative, and it's combined with an extremely sheltered and religious perspective. She's an unironic real world trad wife.

And while I do like certain aspects of that, I wish she was a little bit more independent thinking.

[DreamCrescent]

she’s judgy?

[DreamCrescent]

or you mean she follows dogmatic ideology herself? that bothers you?

[ProbablyClueless]

Um... she's definitely a little bit judgy. But the fact she actually practices what she preaches makes that more palatable for me because she's not a hypocrite and that's a huge deal for me. Live by the sword, die by the sword; that sort of thing.

I guess if I really had to put my finger on the issue, I would say it's the fact she doesn't know how to view the world through any lens besides the bible. That's not a bad lens to have, it just makes her very child-like. We're talking about a lifelong, 30 year old career good girl. The bible is what gave her the courage to step out into the world the way she has. It kinda makes sense that she relies on her faith so strongly.

I think a big part of why she finds me attractive is that I help her explore other aspects of the world in a way that feels safe. She wouldn't know, nor would she have any desire to figure out who she is without her boyfriend/husband guiding her.

[ProbablyClueless]

I just wish she had a stronger sense of her own personal identity, rather than relying on the men in her life to tell her what that looks like.

[DreamCrescent]

interesting. especially this day and age.

thank you for sharing

[ProbablyClueless]

May I ask why you find that interesting?

[DreamCrescent]

i just didn’t think people could be so sheltered these days. or that devout

lol in a way, she’s perhaps uncorrupted. but i understand it’s a fine line from blindly following 😕

[ProbablyClueless]

Ah! Yeah, it’s an interesting thing to watch someone as smart and accomplished as she is have these moments where you’d think you were talking to a 15 year old girl.

Just very simplistic logic being used by someone who graduated Dental school 😂🫠

[NathanDavis]

nothing at all...

I only got into a relationship with them after I "answered this question to myself" first

would I want to change anything about them? no... alright then, let's do it...

[DreamCrescent]

great answer. i love this @NathanDavis

i hereby declare your emotional intelligence high 🙂

[NathanDavis]

well thank you, I appreciate that

[Simslover92]

That he wouldn't be so impulsive to make big decisions like breaking up. If he just had given things more time, we'd probably still be together.

[DangerouslyCute]

I was sure about my partners before we even came to the stage we talked about the relationship...

I wouldn't stay so long if I wasn't sure... of them and myself being able to handle life with them :D

[slatyb]

I would make her less inhibited in talking about sex.

[RageBabe]

He often forgets to put the milk back in the refrigerator, so perhaps that. 😄

[DreamCrescent]

not too bad

[RageBabe]

Indeed.

[Shiprex]

She'd be more accepting to other lifestyles.

[DreamCrescent]

is she judgmental towards others?

[Shiprex]

Not others, thongs about me that are unconventional.

[DreamCrescent]

oh 🫢

[Xawyx-2]

I'm single so there is nothing I can change.

[DreamCrescent]

i’ve never seen that kind of yin/yang symbol like your profile pic before. what does it mean?

[Xawyx-2]

It represents trinity, three forms of Chi: Positive, Negative and Neutral.

[DreamCrescent]

what’s an example of neutral qi?

to my knowledge the whole point of yin/yang is that they’re opposite one another and complement one another. and when one grows, the other is reduced vice versa.
adding in the third has my mind a little scrambled

[Xawyx-2]

Neutral qi represents waiting and listening, or, simply "doing nothing" (resting), sinking into energy.

I agree, it can be really confusing.
Yin is retractive, passive, contractive, receptive, feminine, internal, negative, dark, cold
Yang is repelling, active, expansive, initiating, masculine, external, positive, light, hot
Neutral Chi is absorbing, neutralizing, vibrating, following, genderless, pervading, neutral, twilight, mild

[DreamCrescent]

i see. makes sense

Is it a more modern concept or does the yin/yang model vary by region?

[Xawyx-2]

It is more modern concept.

[exitseven]

It would be nice if she was a little more adventurous.

[Ironco]

I'd say to not be so moody and bent out of shape over something really stupid.

[DreamCrescent]

gulp

[kitkatto]

His trust issues and defensiveness

[DreamCrescent]

uh-oh

[Nerdvana]

I would change that she existed.

[BarryLiverstone]

Her addiction to cigs

[DJB72]

She wouldn't be dead

[DreamCrescent]

i’m sorry

[DJB72]

We had just over 21 years married. I don't regret it but it's not been a year yet so I'm still trying to find the pieces of my heart and our son's. I'm more worried about him.

Thanks for replying

[qwerty2469]

Id make her be Amanda

[DreamCrescent]

good luck, boss

[qwerty2469]

Thanks! Im gonna need it

[Bloodparadise]

I would probably ask him to smile more

[WonderingManII]

long sigh.

[DreamCrescent]

oh dear

[sara12885668886]

Lip kiss

[DreamCrescent]

👀 what now?