How would you react if your best friend told you he/she was having an affair with a married man or woman?

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TrimmedTip · Accepted Answer

That’s a really tough situation. I think my first reaction would be a mix of surprise and concern. I’d want to understand why they’re involved in that relationship—what they’re feeling, what they’re hoping for, and how it’s affecting them emotionally.

At the same time, I’d probably feel worried about the potential harm involved—not just to my friend but also to the spouse and any other people who might be affected. I’d want to be honest but also compassionate, encouraging my friend to think about the consequences and maybe consider what’s really best for them in the long run.

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

If he’s looking for a high five I would give it to him.

But then I would tell him what an idiot he’s being and that his life could be in danger if the husband turns out to be violent when he finds out

Besides on principle alone it’s a gross behavior

Still I do think that the people in a relationship are the ones who cheat

Being involved with a marriage person isn’t technically cheating on your part because you’re not bound by a promise of celibacy to anyone

Still I don’t respect the home wrecker mentality

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

I had that situation. As her best friend of many years, I could not silently condone it. I told her women just don’t do that to other women. I also told her that no matter what he said about the state of his marriage, he was still married and, therefore, not legally or emotionally available. It caused a 3 year hiatus in the friendship.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I'd try to understand her reasoning but ultimately pull back from the person. I don't want to get all caught up in her mess. I have my own worries.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Life's a rollercoaster, right? 🌟 My aim here is to sprinkle some insight, not fuel the drama fire. I'd remind them to tread carefully on this dance floor of life choices and the importance of open communication. Plus, those red flags might not look like a carnival forever! It's essential they consider the emotional tangle, and respect all parties involved. It's all about finding true happiness without stepping on anyone's toes, right? 💃🕺

AviatorTom · Answer

I'd politely change the topic. What they do with their life is none of my business.

HawkPerception · Answer

"You already know my opinion on the matter, so drop it. I'm not going to tell you how to live your life, but don't ask for my approval."

Summeroflove · Answer

If my best friend told me this I would no longer trust him/her as a friend. I figure if someone’s willing to do that they’re willing to stab me in the back

OneViewpoint · Answer

How would I react? I wouldn't have much reaction at all. I'm not gonna judge. I've been there. People can have valid reasons for an affair. Or people can just be horny. Or they can just be assholes. Not my place to adjudicate the morality of other people where I'm ignorant of the situation.

EmmaMary · Answer

Personally I would not be best pleased at all, and would certainly be telling them so in no uncertain terms. How about your goodself @thegreenyogi xxx

NordicInScandinavia · Answer

My best friend wouldn't do it, however I'd say my goodbyes. They showed they're willing to do others dirty with no shame and I don't collect people like that. (Nor those that would be condoning it)

petitedollbabee · Answer

I would be shocked because she’s an asexual virgin, but I would warn her that the situation will bite her in the arse and she should stop asap, but if she doesn’t stop then she shouldn’t come running to me when it turns to shambles.

fivebyfour · Answer

My best friend is a girl so it would be a turn-on for me, but I'd worry that when he finally dumps her she'll be upset, I'd advise her to dump him, or just enjoy it while it lasts, I mean, if he had any intention of leaving his wife he would have done so by now,,,

MemeSupreme · Answer

i would be disappointed and concerned bc its self-destructive really im just gonna be there to listen if she needs someone

serious · Answer

I would try to at least talk some sense into that person and explain as to why it is morally and ethically wrong to do so.

Cormac995 · Answer

I don't roll with trash. I tell the person being cheated on what's happening and then sit back and watch the incoming blow up. If you're a prick I don't want you as my firend in the first place.

queenofcardio · Answer

Not my place to judge but I would tell her to end it. Affairs rarely ever workout

HighValue · Answer

I'd end the friendship. Anyone that stays friends with people like that are supporting that kind of behavior and shouldn't be upset if their own partners cheat on them because they approve of that kind of behavior and immorality themselves.

Paige90 · Answer

I have had friends do that and it didn't bother me at all

lilBigPotato · Answer

It's none of my business and since she's not cheating herself I don't really care

WhitneySnow · Answer

I would be troubled but I would try to be empathetic

jazzy34 · Answer

I’d be shocked, but do nothing. She’s an adult who has to find out the hard. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Miristheiss · Answer

I would probably distance myself from them. I would let the betrayed spouse know.

RavVid · Answer

I would end up dropping them - especially if I knew the partner.  I don't like being involved in immoral acts and telling me is involving as part of it..

Shiprex · Answer

I'd be disappointed unless that affair was with his wife.

msc545 · Answer

I would be concerned for my friend's safety and I would express that. People have been killed over this sort of thing.

Naenia · Answer

I wouldn’t approve, and I wouldn’t excuse it. Integrity matters more than desire.

Nikki1989 · Answer

None of my business, really. I would just let it slide.

Abdulw · Answer

I'd try to advise them correctly but I can't force tell them what to do.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Try to talk him out of it, though Big Bear is really stubborn like Little Bear !!!

genericname85 · Answer

i'll tell them that they're fucked up in the brain if they do that and that i think it's an absolutely dumb decision for them.

exitseven · Answer

i would ask him if he has lost his freaking mind. He is already on wife number 4 .

Anonymous · Answer

I'm blunt. Raised around cops and lawyers.  Criminals call it being a snitch. Cops and lawyers call it doing the right thing.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Pass them a business card because I smell divorce

Surely · Answer

Probably tell them not to expect me at there funeral! Then mind me own business.

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

I would wonder why im still friends with them then

katiesmuff · Answer

Our best friend status would be in jeopardy

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say, "b****, you gonna FAFO". Good luck!👍

DonaldDarko · Answer

I'd wonder about my choice of friends.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Been there done that once or twice.

Xawyx-2 · Answer

I would be surprised.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

I'd buy him a drink to celebrate.

Nerdvana · Answer

We wouldn't be friends anymore.

Malemajor · Answer

Glad that he/she is having fun in life !

qwerty2469 · Answer

I wouldn't react. Its none of my fucling business

Panthero80 · Answer

I would be disappointed.

cavedweller1973 · Answer

Congratulations

Eleven3405 · Answer

I would be surprised

Babygirl_S · Answer

I would stay away from bitch energy

Dongie · Answer

That's a no-no, I'd say.

jahaims · Answer

I wouldn't be friends with trash

Staximus · Answer

I would tell them they're stupid

nojdug76 · Answer

Well I would be like supporting

Anonymous · Answer

Ask them wtf is wrong with them

DrPepper12 · Answer

Spill the tea!!!

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