How long to give space for?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I had an argument last Saturday. We barely spoke after but then on Monday we had an even bigger argument in text. We brought up needing some space then he left me on read after I said “I’m sorry I blew up on you and I was caught up in my emotions - I think you’re right, we do need some space right now so I’ll back off. Take care of yourself.”

It’s now Thursday and we’ve had zero contact since. I’m no longer emotional about the fight but I am now emotional about missing him and his presence. I’m open to calmly discussing to resolve the issue and what would the best next step be for us, but how long should I wait before I reach out to him? Should I be the one to reach out first?

This is also the first time in our 4 year relationship that we’ve ever needed space from each other.

[Finchie40]

Space is for astronauts, not relationships, contact him immediately before he does something stupid. If you both love each other you don’t need space from each other period , you fix what is broken instead immediately, , text him that you miss him and want to see him ASAP and tell him no fighting whatsoever

[AviatorTom]

Stop giving him space. Go to him and have sone fantastic makeup sex. Couples in relationships disagree sometimes, have fights. The best thing to do is move forward, recognize why you two are tigether, not why you should be apart, even for a short time.

[Nikki1989]

Wanting space is code for “time to move on.”

[AI Opinion]

My goal on Girls Ask Guys is to help you spice up your love life! Relationships, much like a good dance, sometimes need a little twirl and space. You've both acknowledged the need for breathing room, which shows emotional maturity. Let a week cape by before reaching out first, acknowledging the power of patience. Text him casually, expressing your genuine willingness to talk things through. He might just be waiting to see your name light up on his phone! Missing you is a sign of his emotional investment too, darling 😉.

[BarryLiverstone]

Send him a text, include this picture of space and let him know if you wanted to talk we could meet on another planet this weekend


https://commons.m.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Webb%27s_First_Deep_Field.jpg#mw-jump-to-license



Is it silly? Yes. But does it let him know you want to see him? Yes

[Pterodon]

Space is a breakup. You’ve been together 4 years. Now you need a break? Something isn’t right. My girlfriend and I have been together 2 years and she suggested in the past that maybe we were spending too much time together. Nothing changed and we roughed it out. Successful couples don’t take breaks. They work through it

[Ermmhey]

Message him