For me when ever someone asks for space in a relationship its a HUGE Red Flag!!!
I totally believe that when two people meet and its meant to be then they find constructive ways to work though their issues as couple in a productive way TOGETHER. When someone pulls this crap on me I say thanks, take all the time you want, but know I will not just sit around waiting on you to figure your shit out. Because your basically telling me that you want to be in a relationship with me, by not being together with me or only when you think you're ready on your terms. That's not really fair to me. So it really means the other person is not ready to be dating, and I am not going to date some one that needs space, while they linger around in my life on their terms, without respecting my needs and wants.
I am not just going to sit around and wait on you to straighten yourself out, not knowing what your issues are because that would drive me crazy and I don't like that level of stress or anxiety within a relationship or in my life in general. Its 100% selfish.
So like I say when two people meet and they are meant to be together they find ways to make it as easy as possible to be together. This person would obviously be too complicated for me, and I don't need people like that in my life. I mean think about it, in a real grown up relationship, there will always be bumps in the road... so you're telling me that this person thinks the best way to deal with it is to withdraw from the relationship for a period of time so they can focus on themselves? Does that sound like someone you would want to continue dating?
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The length of time for space depends on how long do they need to clear their head. I can only speak from my personal experience but, usually 1-3 days has always been enough. But, a common understanding that should be communicated is that as soon as your heads are clear, you should start talking again so you can work things out together with a clear head.
I would ask what it’s about maybe I’m being a bitch about something and they deserve some space lol. I give them the time as that’s happened to me before with people in general. I like to know what it’s about so I can use that time to think about it as well. If we are in a trust issues in a relationship I ain’t giving much time like maybe a few hours at most and he gotta be someone I really like. I had guys not trust or feel insecure about a guy friend I’ve had before. There are times I can tell this guy just is so insecure this is going to be a continuous issues with every guy. I call it as it is and say let’s just move on our own ways and call it quotes. Their are times I ask questions and have to make adjustments how I am around other guys. Like my boyfriend now he doesn’t get jealous about anything I do who I talk to or go to lunch with. But from a former boyfriend I learned not to go alone with another guy out to drink and what would be considered a couple type things.
Unless there's a medical emergency, death, change of employment, change of location (travelling or moving), or some extenuating circumstance, I think everything should resolve itself within 3 days.
Most people only need a few hours to 'cool off' and then maybe another hour to sit down and come up with a coherent action response plan. Sometimes work gets in the way, from immediate communication but hours, not days.
Most healthy couples resolve things within 24 hours because they prioritize fixing the issue. If someone is okay letting an issue go unchecked for 3 days then they are clearly not prioritizing the relationship and do not value the other person's time or emotional well-being.
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zero space. We work on this together we don't take breaks. A break is a break up in my opinion.
couple weeks for me
issues dont magically resolve over the course of a day or 2. The space to think is solely to come up with a personal plan, on the action that needs to be taken. It takes 6-18months to actually work through those issues its not a light switch action. Habits have to be broken and the long term future has to be considered carefully. I consider the space as an area thats off limits for discussion until a decision has been made. Can check in on each other, but cozying up is a no.I was dating a woman who I liked a lot. She said she has become really busy and would like some time to catch up on things. So we just texted each other, however, her texts were always short.
I called her two weeks later and she told me she is in a new relationship and is no longer available.
It seems to me if a person SO is interested in finding a new relationship that person will do it regardless of how much "space" they need.I would say ok and that they should just talk to me like normal whenever they are ready again, and that they could talk to me about the issues anytime if they wanted.
Then just wait for them to talk to you again. Past like a week I would probably engage thoughI'm actually against 'space' that usually means the end of a relationship, because you can't work it out on the spot. There will be times where you can't just run away from your problems and let them sit there.
If for some extreme reason, and I mean extreme I need space I can think of taking a few days all for myself to think everything through. A friend of mine is going through something and he will call me for advice in a week, he'll be using the time to be on his own.Depends on the issue. Just be clear how much space is needed. Details can help a lot. Especially if the other person is confused you might be taking something so severely.
I'm an introvert so i do need space relatively frequently especially if i am going trough a hard time. But its always just a few hours unless it has a medical reason.
It's based on how the relationship went, and for me (even though i never had a girlfriend) i would find it strange to have a "break" to begin with if you still want me. It feels like you want to mess around with other people and then come back to me like nothing ever happened
I tell them to take as long as they need to be away. But if I decide I like being apart, I will end things. So the ball is entirely in their court!
He asked for the space, so that means you don't get to decide how long the break is.
I would not tolerate more than a week to re-think my partner's decision. I think it's disrespectful to leave someone hanging for weeks and weeks.
When they ask for space, they need to be the one to initiate contact after. "Space" is relative to each person needing it.
Ask them how long u want and make a deal that they are faithful in that time and will come back
Umm, don't you think it's better to ask the person who wanted space?
the answer is something you'll have to get from significant other.
It is hard to set a time because it depends on how serious the issues are!
0% of women think no time is not enough? if a girl needs a break from me, it's forever, I'm not taking her back. No self respecting man should. Women don't need a break, what does that even mean?
Really hard to say without more information
Asking for space is code for wants to fuck other people and you to wait around like a chump
depends on the person everyone differant
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