Will he come back if I give him space?

Anonymous
I have/had a very good 'friend'. We weren't together and live far apart but we talked on the phone every night and acted as though we were in a long-distance relationship. And we have slept together. He came down to visit me before Xmas and we had an amazing weekend. Then he went home to his family and we talked a bit for the first couple of days but not much. He sent me a lovely message on Xmas day. When I knew he was back I tried ringing him. No answer. He tried the next day and it cut out so I rang and rang (we often have phone issues so I thought it was crappy signal - I always ring a lot and it doesn't phase him). I got a text later that evening saying 'bloody hell 20 missed calls, that's bad, I'll ring you tomorrow'.

He never rang. I left a voice mail the next day asking him to ring. He didn't. I left it 5 more days then texted saying I really needed to talk to him. Nothing.

So yesterday I sent a message (after trying to ring a couple of times) saying 'I don't know what has happened or why you don't wanna talk to me, please remember whatever it is you can tell me. We've always sworn to be honest with each other and talk about things. I don't wanna lose my friend. Your friendship is more important to me than anything and I don't want anything else from you. If spending the weekend with me etc was a bit too much I understand but please tell me so I can stop guessing 'cause I am so confused'.

Needless to say - still nothing.

I just don't get it...we weren't even in a relationship but have always been really good friends. He was the one wanting to act like a couple with me when he came down and has always made me talk about my emotions and said I could NEVER scare him off. He also said we should talk to each other to maintain our friendship if we met someone else. He always made out our friendship was the most important thing and that he'd 'never sleep with me again if it meant not losing me as a friend'.

I just don't get it...I miss him massively but not like an ex I just broke up with...like I'd miss my friend. We'd made plans for me to go and visit him and to get each other birthday presents etc and he has some stuff of mine that I need back. And it is literally like he has just dropped off the face of the earth. My ex just disappeared on me and this guy was furious saying 'what an idiot, he has no backbone, I'd never treat someone like that'.

What do you think is going on in his head and do you think he'll get in touch if I just give him some space now?
Will he come back if I give him space?
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