Do you think he’ll talk to me again, especially with space?

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So, I’ve been speaking to this guy for a few month.. we met, and he seemed really keen on me. From then we kept on texting and planned meeting, but never really worked according to our busy schedule. This guy is a bit immature and acts like a road man (tough guy) it’s the way he talks and stuff. However I’ve seen the softer side to him. So we was meant to meet again, and everything went wrong! I was meant to meet him, however my phone died! And I couldn’t get in contact, with him… so I was desperate for my phone to come on and I went to a strangers house. I know I shouldn’t of.. I charged it there.. so it was getting late and I was still going to meet him (my mum would be fuming w me if I came home late) so me and him argued.. cause I did lie to him! I called and he asked “where are u?” I said in the taxi, when I was in that persons house! I don't know why I lied.. and he didn’t believe me, so we argued. Then he said to me “be honest and I’ll meet u.” Blah blah, but I told him to forget it l! Cause he was also saying pretty mean stuff to me.. so he called and kept asking where I am and if he should come or not. I said not to bother or not to text me again.” He then got mad, and said the same thing.. so I blocked him on everything! It’s been 2 weeks now, do u guys think he’ll talk to me again? As I gave enough space? He’s always the one that use to text me first and make effort. So if I text him now, do u think he’ll be okay with now? Or not want to talk to me? 2 weeks it’s the longest we’ve gone without not talking

IceEmbers · Accepted Answer

If I may give my opinion this matter it's seems like a rollercoaster of perpetually heightened emotions. Many elements were against you in this situation and participated in the problem. As technology advances we are all seeking instantaneous answer from one another, that deceit and lies has the potential to fill those voids when you can't communicate. Communication and honestly are the only true factors that can potentially answer your question. And yet, factors that consist of time, can potentially heal all wounds. As in, a wound does not heal on it own without time. If I might boldly say, not telling him the entirety of the truth is potentially what makes him that "immature" boy, you say he portrays. Lies damages the emotional state of all individuals involved because you lose yourself and have no truth to embrace your fall. If you want to have any relationship with any individual, then being secure enough with yourself to always be honest is potentially the only option for him to ever forgive you and yet mature him in the process.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Yes I think he will talk to you again. But real question here is why would you want to talk to him again?

First off you lied to him, and that's never a good thing. So you kinda blew it right there yourself because he will probably never truly trust you. Then you two argued and he said mean stuff

So do think you two would never argue again, and that he will never say mean things again?

Of course you will argue and of course he will be mean, and of course you will feel the need to lie to him. Bottom line never lie, if you make date then flipping be where you said you would be on time... being more than 10 to 15 minutes late to a date regardless of your phone status is bull shit. And never tolerate name calling, shaming or a guy being out right mean to you.

So sure he'll probably talk to you, and want to hit it... but he's not the guy for you and you two are not meant to be together, unless you're into abusive, toxic and dysfunctional relationships with made sex.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Blocking him was bad, he wouldn't know if you unblocked unless you send a message and he didn't block you. If you blocked you, now its hard to communicate again.

It also sounds like you want to lure him back by offering your body in a hotel room? is that why you were meeting in the first place? That seems like a bribe, which is fine if you want sex wit him and he wants it with you to but make sure it is what you want, not bait to get him to come back.

Totally up to you if you want to go that route, especially if that is why you were meeting in the first place.

I'd also suggest buying a portable battery pack to charge your phone if it goes dead, I got one for 10 dollars, its a life saver.

Apulu_3 · Accepted Answer

First clear out the misunderstanding. It does a lot Bad. Text him something like this
Hi
I'm sorry for lying (say the whole story and whatever you explained here. Say him your point of view.)
I hope you understand my side of view.

If he replies back with positive reply then it's fine, he is understanding enough but he blocks or it gives negative reply then it's the time to let go.

Oigit · Answer

Honestly I think there is a good chance he will. I think both of you where angry about the situation and that's where the back and forth came from. Also if anything him telling you to be honest is a good sign. I know it might not have seemed like that. But he gave you a chance to be honest about what is going on. Rather then completely cutting you off when he though you where lying.

ohshee · Answer

So basically what you're asking is she already just prove to you exactly who he was buy everything that he said to you and all the mean stuff there is no reason for that whatsoever you can't be that jealous or that possessive just meeting you I mean if you stop and think about the whole situation in the way that he talked to you do you really want somebody to talk to you that way because however bad it was it gets 10 times worse I mean when I in dating a girl I don't have an argument for maybe about two to three years you already started dating and had one I would let that guy go he's bad news for you I believe

AncientWisdom · Answer

Oh goodness firstly , Don't ever lie about anything ever. Except cops I always tell them "I don't know." You say its two weeks that's a while for a guy not to text or call if he is liking you.
My advice is call him don't text , apologize for lying , tell him you aren't offering an excuse , because there's not one. Don't explain yourself unless he asks then be brief , and tell him.
A mature man will except that , and carry on usually. If he doesn't then you tried , and did right by owning up to your mistake. Move on hold you head high , and remember that all any person really has in life that's actually worth something is their integrity as a human being. I do believe its the correct thing to do.
It also sounds like from your description he may know where you were , and what you were doing. He didn't believe your story. So by his questioning he may have known , and is irritated , because he knows the lie has been told.
I do hope this helps , and good luck.

Curmudgeon · Answer

I think other people beat me to it, you DID not handle the situation well at all. That said, let these be some lessons to you:
1. *Always* make sure your phone is charged. Get anal about it if you have to.
2. You don't need to spill out your guts, but don't tell a guy you are in the taxi when you are somewhere getting your phone charged.
3. Don't run away from a situation and block a guy in a fit of pique.

You could reach out and see what happens, after all, what do you have to lose at this point? But expect nothing from him. (And he does not seem like a catch either, but that's neither here nor there, this is about what YOU can do from here on and in the future).

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

Woaw what a messy situation. Listen, I feel for you, but you guys arguing with each other even before becoming close friends, (let alone boyfriend and girlfriend) and than your date going completely south (where you lied big time) and than you blocked him on Everything, so he wouldn't be able to talk to you, sounds to me like this is a dead case. I don't know this guy personally, but why would he text you or even call you after everything that happened? I personally wouldn't, because I would like to keep my integrity and dignity intact. Also, I see a big red flag that you are not into him, not even close I mind you is 1. You lying and not trusting him and 2. blocking everything, so he wouldn't be able to contact you. You basically ran away from your problem and situation, instead of facing it head on and trying to work it out with him. That act by itself, is telling me you never truly liked him and when situation presented itself, you Gladly took it.

Honestguyopen · Answer

It sounds to me like he feels you broke up with him. The lie can be easily explained and forgiven. The question to find out is why did you lie? If you want to stay with the guy then contact him and be straightforward about it. The longer you wait the worse it will get with your chances. His tough guy side opened up and became vulnerable to you. Not it has been hurt because of this. All is not lost, just apologize and be direct. Never lie, and always strive to work things through when you are both not in the heat of the moment. We always say things we regret when we are angry.

TrueConfection · Answer

He might have moved on after you blocked him. Maybe write out the entire explanation and see what happens? Don't be surprised if you don't hear back from him, but he might have a change of heart of he knows what happened.

sean1234 · Answer

Matthew 7:1-5 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.

http://play. google. com/store/apps/details? id=bible. kingjamesbiblelite

That means in your case, don't call him immature when you act the same way. Meet in a hotel room? Are you going on a vacation? Think with what's on top🧠, not what's on bottom 🐈‍⬛.

Slartybartfast · Answer

The internet has some positives, it can be harsh, but it is also allows an honest response to a question. For example, I'd never call a person "fat" or tell them they should diet even if their obesity was causing life threatening medical problems. That's not a good thing, like the enabler with the alcoholic, they are part of the problem.

So please take this constructively. First , you BOTH sound a little childish. Your actions aren't one of an adult.

Second, if you continue this behavior, you will NEVER have a lasting relationship.

Third, and most importantly, honesty and commit are key to all relationships. Because a relationship is ALWAYS based on trust. That's almost the definition of a relationship, two people who TRUST each other.
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Be trustworthy, and expect honesty from your partner.

Anything else is failure.

Interstate · Answer

Considering the fact he is mostly immature, I would say you can do better. And whether or not you lied, it wasn't right to outright call you a liar without being able to prove it. So between those two facts, along with not catching a break to see each other, these are all 🚩🚩🚩s that this isn't meant to be. It is best that the two of you cut your losses and move on with life.

De_La_BakedBeans · Answer

If you really like him, then I think the best idea is to unblock him and text him to tell him you're sorry for lying to him. If he really likes you too, he'll probably say sorry for saying those mean things.

Just give it a go. You never know until you try. Good luck!

annabananna · Answer

From my experience with guys 9 times out of 10 they try to come back around sonnet or later but ask yourself if that’s what you really want. You made a mistake by lying but do you really want to be with a guy that will call you bad names when you do something wrong? I understand him being mad but I think it’s a big red flag when someone says mean stuff to people esp in the beginning.

awkward_author · Answer

He's definitely not going to initiate contact. You both had a fight, nasty things were said, and it ended with, "Don't talk to me again." If you really want to talk to him, send him a text, and see what happens. At this point, there's no real way of knowing how he'll respond, or lack thereof.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

If you know you shouldn't of, why DID you of? Didn't you KNOW that it was not nice to of? You don't just go around randomly ofing people!! I will NOT sit still for ANYONE trying to of me!! Everyone that knows me KNOWS I don't like having someone of me!!

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

What's the point in reaching out to someone I had a disagreement with and ended on bad terms? You made the full effort to block him on everything so that basically sums it up. He definitely wants nothing else to do with you and you shouldn't be wanting anything else to do with him. It's best to move on and also keep in mind that it helps to keep to your word and not come off as a liar. He should learn to drop the tough guy act and be himself

My-lover · Answer

Look Darlin i am going to be very straight with you you fucked it up and you are not even sorry and on top you blocked him !!!

And you call him immature it's really hypocrite of you.

If you want to be a genuine person call him up and apologise and be honest.

When you are wrong you are wrong admit it

He will forgive you don't you think it's funny that you block him and say his not talking.

What are you expecting like how he should communicate via telepathy?

Citizenkirk · Answer

Your blocking him will come across as DROP DEAD to him, so if you want to reconnect, clarification is needed. Frankly, it sounds to me like more troubles than it's worth. Maybe not seeing him again is for the best 🤗👍

Sasha_Gee · Answer

Blocking people is not a good way to 'give space', unblock him now and talk to him about it. Talk it out, don't block it off.

FreyaRed · Answer

Drink Yorkshire tea with milk and wait. Patience is very important trait. You could call or text him but you will show your weakness for him and immature guys will always abuse that.

JDAC2209199 · Answer

Yeah I'd send him and explanation but I wouldn't be too shocked if he doesn't reply/has moved on as some people don't wait around especially after being blocked.

Do you think he’ll talk to me again, especially with space?

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