Is he ever going to talk to me again?

[Anonymous]

My ex is with someone else and wanted to be friends, we talked for awhile but just as things are going good between us he stops me being able to talk to him (without a word), so I stupidly keep texting him to try and talk and he just totally ignores me, I even ask if he never wants to hear from me again, just to let me know, he says nothing. He was the one who wanted to be friends even tho I said I didn't know if I could because he's with someone else and the way I feel about him. But why when we're getting on so well, and talking like we used to does he do this? I even asked if he'd mind talking to me on the phone or msn once, just to have a chat normally and that be it so I can move on with my life but he didn't even take that? Is he ever going to talk to me again? Why be ok with me 1 minute and then do that the next? I haven't msg him in a week and I know I should move on but I just want answers! I only talked to him like normal!

Updates

+1 y

well well, Halloween morning and he adds me on msn after ignoring me for weeks and me not contacting him for at least 2 weeks WTF! any input as to what's going on would be much appreciated!

[lucychen89]

Forget it, girl, he'll never come back because he's moved on and found sokeone.

Well, I've been in similar situation.. He is my first boyfriend and lucikly we've been together for only 7 months, and I used to think I would spend my life with him. He broke up with me two weekes ago and now he has found a new girlfriend friend. It took me 3 days to recover from breaking-up and I'm still recovering from the fact of his new girlfriend since I knew on last Friday. I couldn't sleep or eat, I breathe hardly and felt sad. However don't let yourself down, try to avoid thinking of him as soon as possible, try to concentrate on other things, like your study, friends, entertaiment and your family. Even we'd been together for a much shorter time than yours, It still takes me two weeks to get over it. Now I have felt better but I still think of him and his girlfriend when I wake up and open my eyes in the morning. So I know how much pain you are bearing, worse than mine.

Don't worry, plase enjoy being single and hanging out with friends, attend social events and meet new people, I'm sure you'll find someone you love and I'm also sure he'll love you just the way you love him, more than your first love.

If you can't take it, well, I'm afraid it could take a long long time for you to get over it. I know the feeling is like killing yourself however TIME is the only way to heal you and you have to get through it and always believe there's one out there for you, still waiting for you to pick him.

Be positive and confident, don't let him think you want him desperately and be strong , keep smiling then you'll find not only him can make you happy , but other person can make you even happier someday. Love comes when you least expect!

I'm believe in true love andI'm still waiting for the perfect one , or I'm still looking for the one :P Don't be sad when it's over, smile because it's happened. I believe once you have already recovered, there's always someone special and I'm sure he'll gve you eveythin you want and never let you go. You deserve the best, have the faith and enjoy your life :)

[ButterflyFields]

If you ex is with someone else maybe he started feeling strong feelings for you again and started feeling guilty...Like he was cheating on his girlfriend that is why he stopped abruptley. You need to give him his space. He will always have feelings for you (some feelings never completely go away) but maybe he really likes his new girlfriend. He will talk to you again, but give him time. It may be hard for you to let go for a while, but sometimes if you pressure someone who is caught up in the middle of a relationship you may push him to run from you, but if you are cool about it he may come back around. he will need to follow his heart on this one. But let him breathe.

[lacrimati]

who broke it off - you or him?

it's either the fact that he still has feelings for you and is stressed about it all coming back.. or he felt bad that you guys grew apart after the break-up, wanted to check up on you, and sees you're doing fine OR he saw that you still behaved in a similar way to when you dated and didn't want any spark going off again so he cut it off to protect both of you..

i don't know..

[Asker]

He broke it off, and I don't think he wanted to check up on me because we spoke pretty much everyday at the time before he started it all, when things were going well, I just didn't get why he would ignore me at the exact time that I thought things were going well as friends between us, I could understand if I was horrible to him or kept saying I love him or something but I was just normal! that's only what got me but its done now, I don't msg him at all there's no point

[lacrimati]

Ok, well, that's good. I say let it be, unless he really is someone very special in your life.

[DoggyDude]

Guys get hung up about ex's. We usually split up with very good reason, but we often still care, but not in the same way. It seems likely he doesn't want to share "the same" relationship with you he had before and probably associates spending "too much" time with you with his past relationship (even though to you it might be seperate).

Therefore, he probably wants to put some distance between him and you to re-establish that line as a friendship (e.g. revert to being just friends properly, e.g very casual about keeping in touch, no expectations).

If your wanting to talk to him all the time your probably not really over him, or maybe you want a closer friendship than he does. If your "just a friend", you would be cool about talking to him, or not (hard to do if you still have romantic feelings for him).

Most girls don't remain friends with their ex's because its too just hard for them, they have difficulty moving on without a "clean break".

I had to fight hard to remain friends with my ex girlfriend and its still hard for since our friendship has changed to become less close (and I don't wish to spend so many hours talking, though I do still enjoy talking to her, just not so long or so regular).

If he's important (as a friend) then just keep in touch casually every now and then and don't make any demands of his time and you might become like a guy friend. If you can't stop liking him romantically, better to make a clean break.

[bobair]

Being mature is about making decisions for yourself.

Needing his approval, needing his response, or needing him at all, is about your own insecurities, inadequacies, and likely your own misguided assumptions.

Do you NEED him to like you before you can like yourself? Do you NEED him to say "I'm not interested in being friends any more because my new relationship can't handle me talking to more than one girl at a time" before you'll "GET IT"?

These are all external things you can't control, but it sounds like you're depending on them to guide you before you're willing to do anything else.

Don't be weak and dependent upon him and others.. be STRONG and independent, while others wait depend upon you.

As soon as he doesn't respond to your FIRST text message, that's your cue to get busy with something (someone?) else.

"Nothing makes an old boyfriend easier to forget than a new guy who's worth getting to know."

~ Robby

[Dubfire]

Dude totally agree, you get one point from me..

Just also want to add to the person asking the question:

All of those things bobair said showed him your failure to accept his decision to break up with you. Not attractive at all to an ex....

Not too late though, follow bobair's advice and you'll be fine...

[Anonymous]

Because he is stuck. He doesn't want to lead you on, and if he is trying to make something with someone else talking to you feels like cheating and harder to let go. He can't be just friends although he might like to in theory. He right now, doesn't know what he wants. If he is dating someone else he doesn't want to have to tell them oh yes I still talk to my ex. The better things are going between you the closer he thinks he might be to getting back together and at least for now he doesn't want that. Trust me, he is a mess over all of it.

[Asker]

I'd agree but he added me on msn again and started chatting again, he initiated contact which had left me even more confused but that's how it goes I guess

[lenaejw]

well give it sometime ok you feel like one minute he is chatting all the open communication then the next he is acting funny girl move on because if he was a real friend regardless of the situation he was in or something you think he had to tell you he would have told you and kept open communication open with you but warning give it time you never know what may happen or what could happen maybe he is going through somethings but regardless he would of told you right? but do know he he does give back in just continue to be freinds I mean you can communicate to anyone and if he is acting funny you could do the same to.

[britty083]

this happened to me, he said later it was bcuz he still had feelings for me that he was trying to get over. but then he did it again later and it was pretty clear that he did it just because he didn't want to talk anymore. but that is pretty noticeable.

[MadHatterni]

Maybe he realized he still had feelings with you and wanted to cut them. Its perfectly reasonable. Your over thinking this and it be your down fall. Take a deep breath and walk the other way because if He's happy with her, he doesn't want to jeopardise it

[Stella5555]

Perhaps he needs more space from you. I did the same thing to my ex after about a month post-breakup, but it was because I couldn't move on with him being around me/my friends all the time (we were part of a really close knit group). Give him the space he needs and you guys can pick up where you left off then. It sucks because of how used you are to having him in your life, but it's definitely worth the wait to get completely over each other and start from scratch.

[lovecraze]

girls have a tough time forgetting their ex. and maybe when you talk you show that you still like him.. and maybe his girl noticed... and she feels jealous and has tlaked to him about it.. forget him.. guys shoould do the chasing and you could do better... he also might be feelign as if he is getting too close to you again and thus he just needs time and space...

[MadHatterni]

prob wants to talk it up and see what your doing, and if anyone else is in the picture. Maybe he was just bored and had alil interest in your plans. Just keep him a mile from ya mind and don't lose sleep over it

[Jesse3228]

well I'm my opion I think he just doesn't want feelings to start back up again that he can't handle because I had the same problem I love my ex as a person but I try to keep certain boudaries so that nothing comes back that can hurt either of us again...

[Lisam]

The someone else has said I don't think so! Girl move-on and ignore him. You are now with someone else! fake it! Do not respond! makes them crazy and your not into games! text that back when he calls or texts again! your not his stand-by Tell him to suck it up sweetheart!

[Anonymous]

He said he wants to be friends to make himself feel better.

Not messaging him is a good idea, he won't see you as a jealous ex, and he will probably talk to you again, don't look too much into it.

[ortegabx05]

hes trying to keep you in his life if his relationship does not work .. don't let him do that move on

[Anonymous]

Why not.