Will she ever talk to me again?

[Anonymous]

Ill try to keep this short. I was in a long distance, fell head over heels for this girl. We had planned on me moving to her, and discussed about a future together. Well, two Saturdays ago, she had been crazy busy with work, and I hadn't heard from her in a few days. I asked if she wanted to me to postpone my trip to her this past weekend and she said yes. I got angry, acted out immaturely and said that this wasn't going to work out. I was on little sleep when I said it and inebriated. As the day progressed, I drank more, and tried to reach out to her with no reply. That night, I called her like 30 times incredibly drunk. She answered and said that I was crazy and wanted nothing to with me anymore and that I made her miserable from my behavior. I let a few days go by, sent her a letter with my apologies, and she didn't respond. A few days later, I texted her about my feelings(cause she never replied to me) and she told me to stop, she couldn't stand me, she was going to change her number and that I was a crazy fuk for not leaving her alone :( . (This all happened the week after the breakup) Since then I have left her alone. I realize my mistakes and behavior, have been reading about them and am going to therapy to address these issues so they never happen again! Do you think there is a chance she will ever talk to me again or even consider trying this again? I love her so much and want her realize that I know my mistakes were unacceptable and that I am doing everything I can to ensure they don't happen again. Any advice would be more than appreciated, and sorry this wasn't as short as I had hoped. Thank you for reading!

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The biggest thing is that I wasn't there for her in her time of need, and acted incredibly selfish and immature with my behavior...

[Anonymous]

It is very unlikely that two people ignore each other for good. They might not be friends or a couple again, but I find that almost everyone who left my life made a return to my life at some point. So yes, she will probably talk to you again one day. If you'll be friends or perhaps more, nobody can tell you that.

Honestly, the best you can do now is leave her alone. She has told you more than once that that's what she wants. Give her space. If you want to, write her a short message to let her know that you still care but will accept her wishes to be left alone and will give both of you some time apart to sort through your thoughts and calm down. Tell her that you do hope that one day you'll be on good terms again. But really, keep it short. Don't write some long and soppy novel because that's the last thing she'll want to read right now.

As for how much space, I think you will feel when you're ready. It's important not to rush it though and really give yourself and her an adequate amount of time to process all the things that have happened recently.

[Asker]

Thank you for your sincere comment and opinion, I was gonna give it a month or so, let her know I was thinking about her and how she was doing. Maybe mention that I have been working on myself and going to therapy and that I would love to hear from her sometime soon.

[Opinion Owner]

A month might be enough, but it might not be enough. You shouldn't and can't decide now. You will feel when the time is right to get back in touch. Don't rush things.

[helpha]

I think you should do something romantic, like go and see her in person. And tell her how you feel about her and how sorry you are in the most heartfelt way possible. Bring flowers, too, or something she'd like, and just show up on her doorstep one day soon and apologize, I know that would make me forgive him.

[Asker]

yea...the thing is that we are LONG distance. I am in FL and she is in TX. I am scared that if I did that, it would appear psychotic...I totally would and am a romantic like that, but she already thinks I'm crazy for how I behaved after the breakup. any other advice?

[Asker]

also, I wanted to give her A LOT of space, about a month, and if I just showed up she could be dating someone else. I was just thinking about emailing her and saying. "HI, I was just thinking about you and wondering how you were doing. Also, I wanted you to know that I have been reading and going to therapy a lot this past month. I would love to hear from you sometime soon.

Take care"

[coolprplfrgs]

I know its not much but to start out is chocolate and flowers then go on from there

[Asker]

Honestly, I feel like its past gifts :(. I think my only option is to give her time(at least a month) and reach out to her in a non threatening or intense way...

[iXenomorph]

No.