Will my son ever talk to me again? Did I just ruin my life?

[Anonymous]

I've been having an affair with my son's friend it just makes me feel young again. He caught us both naked in my bed he said he was gonna tell his father (my husband) and his friend's parents I told him not to tell anyone he called me a slut I told him not to call me that cause it's rude he kept telling me I was a slut and just left it's almost been a week he told his father and his friend's parents he hasn't talked to me since. They were very angry with me and said they never wanna see me again and now his friend doesn't want to talk to me again. Is there anything I can do make stuff better?

[lightbulb27]

wow what a mess. You just sent your life in another direction based upon the emotions of desire, lust... who knows what. may hurt for a while til it gets better. Not the first, I recall the pastor at work standing on stage pointing out the people by name who committed adultry and were recently fired. This stuff hurts.. its' real. That's what you should do... voluntarily.

I used to watch soap operas and say to my mother," life isn't like that.. it can't be that messed up, why would they do that"... and she said..."oh yes it is, don't take on other peoples problems.". Was good advice and I made plenty of mistakes after that enough to fill an encyclopedia of sin, my girlfriend knows. Avoid emotional damage... that's the lesson if I was to do it all over.

your gonna need help, someone who will listen to you and talk so you uncover why you did this, repair that junk, make amends to others you've hurt. I'd assume... a therapist... not another male, eventhough it's somewhat the mating hormones causing the issues to soothe the pain, it's also emotional problems from marriage and early life. Talk to a female therapist... stay away from men (and boys). Gotta wonder if you go to jail depending upon the age. at some point, maybe your son understands you as a human being and forgives, but that may take a long time. Confession, as hard as it is, exposing the truth and finding the underlying broken crap and healing that, is the way out of the hole.

he did what is healthy for him, which is to separate himself from corrupt values.

GAG is a great place because most people out here are messed up... so you are in good company. Some know it, a few have their stuff together.

[lightbulb27]

however, the way you write is emotionless giving the scenario. maybe you are numb or on meds, or the ultimate cat fish question...

[abc3643]

You reap what you sow...

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SALLY: If he looked at me twice, I'd be on my back.

TRACY: You would not.

SALLY: I would so. Why not?

TRACY: A couple of reasons: Adam and your kids.

SALLY: You know, Trace, they wouldn't have to know.
It could be something I did for myself,...
to broaden my horizons.
Like taking a pottery class.

TRACY: An affair isn't like taking pottery.

SALLY: Could be.

TRACY: It would start out like that.
Then something would happen...
... someone finds out or someone
falls in love and it ends disastrously.

>>>> They always end disastrously.

CONNIE: Tracy.

SALLY: No.

CONNIE: When?

TRACY: It was a long time ago.
And it's the one thing in my life I would undo if I could.

[tatianamay]

Fuck soap operas. This is WAY better. Pass me the popcorn.

You fucked up big time. And how old is your son's friend? He better be over the legal limit or you'd be going to jail for statutory rape. You'd be accused of rape even if it was consensual. Get ready for a hefty divorce. You cheated on your husband. And with whom? Your son's friend! That is big time out of a Wattpad book. Yes, you just ruined your life. I don't know if your son will talk to you again. It'll take some time for him to forgive you. Time is the best healer. Talk to a therapist. Hope all gets better.

[Hangry06]

"Is there anything I can do make stuff better?"
Yeah lock yourself up in a room until your son graduates or leaves completely

[DonkeyDan]

I honestly wouldn't forgive my mother, but then we don't have a good relationship anyway, and for me that would be a good reason to never speak to her again. But we don't know your son or the relationship you had with your son before this. It is a pretty big betrayal though, you slept with his friend, not some random guy. Only time is going to tell really, and I don't think you should do anything at the moment, would probably only make it worse. You have to realise that this is the only thing he is going to see when he looks at you now and that is going to last a long time if he ever gets over it. If you do start talking again be prepared for the relationship never to be the same as it was before this.

[Anonymous]

At the moment (assuming this happened recently), I wouldn't do anything. Give him/them some space and time to sort this out. Remember that no matter what, you're his mother, so as upset as he might be, you probably haven't lost him forever, however this will be all he thinks about when he sees you for a while. In your need to "feel young again", of all the people, why would you pick a friend of your sons? Convenience? (ie he was there?). If you're having trouble relating, imagine when you were his age and if your father had slept with one of your friends, how would you have felt? But I'm assuming he's still very upset, and right now just give him some space and time until he calms down, then you can try to "fix" it. But he's probably too upset right now to hear it.

[Anonymous]

Nope probably not. Men look at things like this as very repulsive. Honestly my mother's sexual promiscuity is a big reason I haven't talked to her since I was 16ish. Who wants to be labeled the "Son of a Whore"? Honestly what you did was selfish and you didn't care who got hurt. You just cared about satisfying your needs. Imagine if this was a man doing this with a teenager! Imagine how much he would have gotten trashed. But you still get sympathy running with the "I just wanted to feel young again". This is why you ladies have so much problems with men today. Stop thinking with your pussy! we've had to turn off our horny mode for society but y'all just running around like it's no big deal. IT IS! Find someone closer to your own age! That'd have been a good start. Plus you are married so kindly on behalf of people who actually believe in marriage, go fuck yourself.

[vald9inches]

Damn your son is quite the asshole! He would intentionally ruin 3 relationships all at once? Its not his place to make such a decision at all! My only suggestion is to own it! You are a human being too! If they want to be mad that's their choice hopefully they will grow up and mature emotionally and learn to accept your decision and respect you as a human being. Non of us are perfect and we all strive to be happy.

[ellie71]

He'd understand eventually, if you want to talk about it, pm me honey ❤️

[boggboss]

I honestly don't think he will u betrayed him in a way only a parent can

[Tstrbrainer]

Don't worry. You obviously screwed up your martial relationship, that's all.

Don't let your son decide who you sleep with.

[CubaPirate]

You just made a classic grade A mistake. Hopefully time will be a great healer

[Jmmmfi4]

Nope you're screwed. Slut.

[Anonymous]

Apologize and say you'll never do that again.

[Sketti2021]

Ohhh big nono.