Will he ever forgive me for talking to his girlfriend about us?

[Anonymous]

When my dad died, my close guy friend of 10 years was really there for me. He comforted me & was even there when we decided to pull the plug. The extent he went through to make sure I was ok made me see him in a completely different light. One night, he confessed to me that he had told my dad on several occasions that he was going to marry me one day. Then he told me that he was slightly obsessed with me in a way that he didn’t want to tell me. But I asked & he told. He saved & drew all my pics from FB, he remembered exactly what I was wearing the day we met down to the shoe, he thought I was perfect in every way & I was everything he never thought existed but knew it did because he knew me, he loved everything about me from the top of my head to the bottom of my feet. He craved me not partially or temporarily, to him I was it & he loved me. Time went on & the relationship developed. We were happy. We disagreed some, but for the most part we laughed the whole time we were together. After a few months, a friend of mine sent me screenshots of him in matching clothes with a pregnant girl looking all in love. I sent them to him & asked. He told me there was 1/3 chance the baby was his but they weren’t together. I needed the truth & the only way to know for sure was to talk to her. It was all lies. She & I pulled up on him & confronted him. He argued with her, but could not look at me. He looked at her when he told me we had nothing left to talking about. She even noticed & asked why he was looking at her & not me. I asked if it was all lies. He admitted in front of her that he loved me, & that he’d been telling my dad he wanted to marry me for years. That was the only two times he looked me in my eye. She said she could tell he meant everything he said to me. He told me he was a POS & stormed off. She went into labor & had the baby that night. Looks just like him. I’m scared he hates me now. Will he ever talk to me again? It’s been 2 days. My heart is completely broken.

[_Maya_]

He has other things to worry about right now, like a child. I guess why would you want him back if he lies so much? That is not a good foundation for a relationship to start. Now a newborn complicates it even more. At the very least you need to let him get that situation squared away so he could focus on a potential relationship with you. I still would be cautious since he seems to find it easy to lie and deceive you. Good luck to ya.

[Chikky]

You shouldn't feel bad, he was the one that never told you that chapter of his life, i know he feels about not telling you, you both should have a long talk and know where to go from there

[Asker]

Do you really think he feels bad? He was cheating on her and he chose her. He said he and I didn’t have anything left to talk about the other day, but he didn’t look at me when he said it. I have not tried to reach out at all

[kinggeorge007]

You didn't do anything wrong. Why do you seek forgiveness from an asshole?

[Asker]

Cause he’s one of my best friends. I feel like maybe I shouldn’t have talked to her. I feel guilty. I would have never known the things that I do if I hadn’t, so in a way, I’m glad we did. But when he told me we didn’t have anything left to talk about, I felt like that meant our friendship was over too. I don’t understand why he would tell me all the things he did and not mean them being as we are so close and have been for years.

[boggboss]

So u still want to talk to a guy thatvhas shown u he will cheat nice

[Asker]

Talk to him, yes. We have been very close for 10 years. I feel like I just lost one of my best friends. I told him I felt like I was losing one of my best friends the other day when everything went down. He said he felt like he was too. I talk to him a few times a week for the past 10 years. I don’t necessarily want to be with him. I don’t want to lose my friend. I don’t even know if all the things he told me were true, or why he even told me those things with he didn’t plan to do anything with it. I just don’t understand

[boggboss]

U don't understand why he was living a double life?

[Asker]

No I don’t. From a mans perspective, why would he? To someone so close to him?

[boggboss]

The same reason he was lying and cheating on the women having his baby he dont respect u guys enough to tell the truth

[noohair]

Sometimes women demand to know everything and that everything destroys everything.

[Anonymous]

Time often does heal all wounds, but try apologizing.

[Asker]

I’m too nervous to reach out to him. I don’t know why.