Will he every forgive me or take me back?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend love each other very much everything was going fine in are relationship, until one day a girl who was my ex-mate called him up and told him I had an abortion. When he found out he was shattered but I managed to lie and persuade him it wasn't true when infact it was, I lied in front of his eyes he begged me to tell him the truth but I still lied and eventually he believed me. Then everything was fine and about 3months after we were randomly talking and he asked me about the abortion again, this time I sounded so guilty and I couldn't lie to him anymore then I confessed. At that moment he started crying his eyes out and he told me I have broken him as a person, he said I was selfish for deceiving him and how hurt he was. I didn't know what to do. He gave me everything and treated my like a queen he loved and trusted me more than anything and felt so hurt. He now has broken up with me and said there is No chance and he will never ever take me back even though this was in the past and we normally get along so well and we are so strong as a couple.

Now he hates me and is trying to move on even though he loves me so much, do you think he will ever forgive me? Or take me back? What would you as a guy do if you were in his situation even though this was in the past and I'm a completely changed person from then. We are normally the closest people and I feel as though he is my soul mate what should I do? I can't move on?

He said he feels disgusted that he actually gave everything up for me, his love his trust and I've completely broken him. I love him so much and he means the world to me even though this is something that happened in the past what are my chances of ever getting him back?

[funny222]

I feel you pain in you letter, thus I felt compelled to say something, however pointless it might be. So I'm going to put out my opinion here and now in the hopes of giving you some relief, forgive me if it does otherwise...if you were my girlfriend, I would NOT be upset by the abortion. I like children, so long as they're not my own. This world is already over-populated with unwanted children. I see it as a crime to bring anymore child into ths world who didn't have a say in matter of coming here. If you were my girlfriend, I would not have disowned you for the abortion. In fact, I would've said you made the right choice. It's your body, your life that I adore before any child of yours or mine.

But that's me. That's how I see things in my 42 years of life, and how I saw them back in my early twenties. It's a woman's choice, and it's choice I would've respected were it my own child being aborted.

You're young, and there will be other men or other endeavors to take hold of you. He is everythign to you now, but that is only a feeling you're feeling, not an absolution. One day, you will realize this, and that realization will set you free...

Forgive me, I'm going to stop now before I say something I might regret.

[ikarus]

Yeah you should move on. I hate to be harsh but you f***ed up. The abortion is not the problem, it's the fact that you lied to him when he was asking for the truth, and lived that lie for the next three months. This tells him you're capable of such deceit without so much as a conscience to come clean of your own free will, any wise person does not want to stick around to see what other lies you are capable of...sorry :( you sound like a sweet girl but lying is the worst thing you can do to anyone. If you insist on making it work, I'd tell him it's because you didn't want to be judged by him of all people and also let him know he is your world, and only then you might have a chance?

[orangelady2424]

Can I ask? he seems to be a good guy who is ready to father your child. Why would you do such a thing? Other guys out there would run away once they found out that they got their girl pregnant and yet he felt downright miserable upon knowing that you got his first child aborted. I'm sorry if this question would make you feel bad, I just want to understand things.

I would say that you give him space. If you truly love him that much, give him all the space that he wants but make him feel that you will always be there waiting for him. It may take years mind you, but if you're serious enough ogf getting him back, you will have to do your part. He may say all the hurtful words now because that is how he feels but if you give him time and if its true that he does love you very much, once he gets over the pain and forgive you for what you've done, he may remember why he fell inlove with you in the first place.

[logarithm]

No, hell no. I hope he never gives you another chance.

[Anonymous]

and girls are always saying "tell the truth" theyre hypocrites in this case.